have you ever been 'out of place'?

I often feel alone in a crowd and as if i out of place. I am not a loner but socializing has just never been my thing and i am so not good at it. I don't think its you i think maybe you are just in the wrong places and need to find a place where you feel you do belong.

There have been a couple of times that I have felt out of place, the most recent was when me and my boyfriend were walking along this street to get from a to b but not actually stopping on the street. Everywhere you looked there was some smartly dressed business person and there was us walking along in our casual clothes, I remember saying "I feel a little under dressed". Another time was when I went to an engagement party of my boyfriends past best friend and we knew no one, so I felt out of place as everyone else knew each other and I knew my boyfriend and his parents and that was it.

Hi there nyce, I have experienced that a lot in my younger years and I tried hard to overcome my shyness since It hinders me from socializing to others...I finally was able to make it, if there is a chance for you to change the topic and bring everyone to a topic that you know,that will be a great idea to divert their attention..I am sure they are willing to interact with you, you just need to exert a little effort! be positive, i am sure you can do that!

Hell yeah!..and I don't want that kind of feeling. who wants to anyway? way back college, I am one of the students who will represent our course in this exam in the other school. there I met 3 of the student on the other courses. damn! they knew each other because they've already represent our school with the quiz bee before. there they talk about their past quiz bee, their happy moments and everything.. me? I am just listening to their happy moments, and kind bored and out of place at the same time.. even if I wanted to share some thoughts about them, I'd rather not to talk.

This problem of yours is same with my friend's. Actually, I think being out of place is a choice. Or maybe not sometimes. I do too feel that sometimes. But I don't think that negatively. It is because I accept the fact that there will be always times that I can't relate and it's OK. Accept it. Friends are friends, they are not you. You can't always share same thoughts and interests. It is not a good idea to find new friends because it is not your friends' fault. You just need to understand your self and why are you feeling so out of place whenever you are with them. Reflect. God Bless. Have a nice day.

Well you left out alot of viable information. Was the topic some dumb random stuff, or was this a serious intelligent discussion. I tend to avoid people who talk about things that concern absolutley nothing. I like following intelligent conversations. Sometimes I lack the knowledge to join in but I learn simply from listening. So without knowing why your felt left out in this conversation I don't see how anyone could properly advice you.

I always seem to be "out of place", except when I am with my boyfriend, I am never out of place when I am with him.

Hi nyce_chique, I also felt like that, specially in a party that i dont have friends. so i just stay alone and no one to talk. thanks and have a nice day.

I guess once in a while we all go through that regardless how smart or confident we are. I don't always feel like a fish out of the water, but there are some instances that just like you, I feel out of place and it has always given me an unpleasant feeling. What I do is that I don't dwell much on it. Somehow I know that someone else feels the same way and that another person is just trying to hide his or her boredom by trying to appear interested to what others are saying. I am not that type and that is what makes me feel 'out-of-place' at times, I guess, it's when I don't find the topic interesting. I think this happens when we talk to people whom we do not share the same level of interest...though it shouldn't always happen, for at times, we should also take the opportunity to learn from such situation.

don't feel pity or something else, I think being with lots of people is bot the best thing, sometimes ,you need the private time to be alone, to think anything you like , to feel the life quiet, so ,just enjoy the feeling

Well, you are the one to blame if you don't join in, but at the same time don't feel obligated to. If people are talking about things that you don't care about you have no obligation to join in. If you don't join in though, I don't think that you should feel sorry for yourself. Rather, I think you should try to find people who talk about things that you are interested in.

Youre not a loner.. But stop worrying about everyone else doing their thing. I get like that around people I don't feel comfortable with I just stand / sit there wondering what i can do to be more out going be myself and it never works.. You yourself have your guard up arounding this people and thats fine but you just can't force it down. You need to be surrounded with people that you feel comfortable with so you can be yourself and trust me.. you wont feel out of place again!

Remember this: just because you think or act different doesn't make you an outcast. It may make it hard for you to find a group to belong to, or to stay with the group you thought were your true friends. Whatever the case, stand your ground about what you believe especially when it is right. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF!

If you Feel Like An "Outcast"... Yours is not not hopeless situation. Here are some strategies to help you survive: 1. SEEK A SYMPATHETIC EAR. Talk to a teacher or guidance counselor in school. Find somebody you trust to help you come out of your shell slowly. 2. JOIN YOUTH GROUPS IN YOUR COMMUNITY. It's a good way to build your social skills. 3. PLAY THE FIELD. There was never a hard-and-fast rule that you should belong to just one group. Make yourself a free agent and mingle with different groups. 4. WHAT GETS YOU EXCITED? Find a healthy outlet for your thoughts and feelings. Try writing, painting, singing, or playing an instrument, and from there, you'll be able to find other people with common interests. 5. FORM YOUR OWN GROUP! Who says you can't? Make it a group founded on positive objectives. 6. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. Until you find a group you want to belong to, get in touch with the real you. When you do discover your true clique, you'll be sure of who you are and what you believe in (and won't get sucked into doing the wrong things).

We moved to another state this past fall, so I am in a completely new community. Since I don't know many people yet, whenever I am in a group where they are discussing things going on in the community and the people involved, I don't know who they're talking about, and that makes me feel out of place.

hi nyce chique yes when I was invited to a baby shower and wasthe only senior citizen there, among all the young moms, so at the first moment there was a break I feigned a bad headache and left this young party, wishing I had never gone in the first place.

I often feel alone every day. And I notice it more when I'm with a group of people. It's weird feeling that I can't really explain. It's not so much that I feel different because I have different interests. It's more along the lines of not really understand human nature, lol. I feel like I'm the other worldly creature when I'm with people.

i feel out of place sometimes too... but you know what.. i think we all do...