How to pretend you like the person you hate?
By yenwie84
@yenwie84 (1344)
Malaysia
July 10, 2008 9:30am CST
I always ask this question to myself,but I find it so hard to do it. One of my colleague is very irritated, I cannot control myself from disliking her. What should I do? How should I react in front of her? I cannot control my facial expression anymore. I don't know how to smile to her,not even say to greet her. I am feeling so bad about this. I am trying to be friend with her but I cannot make it. Again today she made me so embarrassed. I hate her. I know I should change my attitude towards her,at least in front of her, I should try to pretend to like her and be friend with her. Can anyone give me some advice on this? Please teach me how should I face her.....
5 responses
@bobet17 (158)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I will tell her/him that I dont like her/him Why do I need to pretend,telling the truth is the best way to set your life free,and It also good for that person that she /he will be able to avoid you,but before we hate someone we will make sure that she/he decerved It.
@Gargoyle0134 (1257)
• United States
10 Jul 08
What are you doing this to yourself for?! MAN!
You don't like this person. Be polite but keep a distance! Just basically, as much as you can, cut contact here and be happy!
(There is no requirement to have to act like you like her. Politeness is OK..but be cordial and do not take unnecessary calls and have as little to do with her as possible. Move on and make different, more positive contacts instead of beating your head against the wall. You hve no obligations here.)
I HATE phony folks. Don't you? Don't pretend.
@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
10 Jul 08
ever heard kill them with kindness?
it's a hard thing to do but no matter how they get on your nerves or irritate you,
just keep a smile on and be pleasant.
if this person is saying things that are hurting you or just shouldn't be said, especially in a work place, maybe you could point it out, but in a kind way.
just nicely say, ya know, I do not appreciate the comments you make and I feel that to be unnecissary.
let her know that you'd appreciate her keeping her comments to herself.
your there to do your job and you don't need the added stress.
maybe if you kindly told her then she'd quit.
and if she doesn't, maybe you could have a talk with your boss or supervisor
and let them know whats going on, that you've kindly asked her to quit this behavior and she has failed to do so.
I hope this works out for you and that she is more understanding to you and your feelings then you would think.
@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I've been there and I know what you mean. I had a person that I worked with, in the same office. I would just focus on what I had to do for work. When break time came, I would find someplace else to eat lunch or sometimes I would have my hubby pick me up with the kids, and we would go someplace for lunch or eat in the car.
After awhile, we just said Good Morning, and Good Night. I may have seemed the bore, but it cut down on the friction that I would feel every time that she was around.
DCMerkle
