Do you still think about your ex?

I am glad you have found happiness now ,and are obviously enjoying it .I guess to some point it is natural if someone has shared a part of our life,especially having lived together that ,we would think of them.I wonder if because someone may have hurt us or treated us badly ,that we think of them because we want to show them that we have overcome the unhappiness that being with them involved.Purely that,with as you say no wish to look back with regret now that you have moved on to much better times in your life.Hope you enjoy every moment and would it help if every time you think of him ,that you say to yourself something like "He doesnt matter now" That way hopefully you will block him out from your daily thoughts. Good luck to you always .

Of course I think about my ex but not everyday. Maybe when something reminds me of him or out of the blue I remeber something he said in relation to something i was thinking about and yes, it could be a memory of some good times or some bad times. I don't think we really ever forget someone with whom we had a relationship which lasted a while unless we have amnesia. That's part of having memories. Well, You are quite unique since you think of him at least once a day but I believe it is not because you miss him but maybe because whenever you feel happy for your present situation, which is everyday,you cannot help but think of the past and him who made you feel so miserable before and it is out of being grateful that you are no longer with him.

Well katsmeow1213, if you wanna hear something really sad??? I do not ever think about my ex mainly bacause I found out a few years ago that he is now likes other men. Boy, that explained a whole lot. I've been married to my first and only husband now x 18 years and I'm happier than I could ever imagine.

I do ask the same thing to my self. Why? Found no answer yet, when i will get one i will send the answer to u too.

I think when you love someone it never truly goes away and that is why you think of him. I think a person wonders what might have been. When you get treated badly you know in your heart that it never would be different. It is hard to trust after some thing like that. You have a good man now. So you are blessed. I think of a few of my ex's every now and then and thank god I am not with them. I hope they are all happy with their lives.

It's not always easy to let go. My ex and I were married for over 20 years and have been divorced for about 10 now. And yes, I still think of him from time to time. My ex was abusive and not a nice man, but he did have some good points about him. Some of which I miss, although I don't miss the entire package. Plus we have a grown son and two grandchildren so I hear about how he sees them and the things they do. I don't think of him daily, but probably once a week or so. Sometimes its simply a memory of an actual good time, and sometimes its a nightmare of some of the bad times. I too wish I could just kick him out of my mind and move on. But, he is there, kind of like the trash that never gets to the trash can. So for now all I can do is try to be as happy in my current life as I can.

i used to but not anymore... i don't think that it is useful to live in the past and keep on thinking of my ex... i want to move on and i can only do that if i forget my ex... i am already married to a loving and caring man now and i am really happy to be with him... so i don't need to think about my ex anymore... take care and have a nice day...

No I really don't. I had to kiss a few frogs. And I finally found my prince. Someone who supports me and who I can offer support. I focus (mostly) on the positive. My husband deserves it. My daughter does too. It may not be that way for others. But I got to a place where I know I have a good life.

Yes I think that sometimes it can be something inside of us that we need to address in order to let go but I think it is not really him that you think about but mostly about how you felt about that relationship and the whole idea of "us" with him. I tend to do that too. I think about why he could not have been a better man and all that stuff but I am in a better place like you and have a better man who I adore, I think it is normal to think about the past but we should not dwell in it too much and we should think more about the present moment and our happiness within that. Sometimes I think about the same things you have thought about and wish that he could know how happy I am know, perhaps that is because a piece of me that was upset at him wants a little revenge or something less than that but something like that. I catch myself sometimes thinking about it but then I stop myself and accept the fact that things in life happen sometimes for a reason and people are sometimes come in and out of our lives to teach us things. I think when we do better too we wish we could let our old "friends" know about it but only to let ourselves feel better about a terrible situation that once existed with this other party. I think it is important in life to just be grateful for the beautiful things and beautiful people that enter our lives and make us truly happy.

It sounds as if we married similar men, mine did all that! My ex is smart, funny, and creative but he doesn't know how to treat people. I was so miserable and almost glad when he left. The divorce was horrible but after nearly two decades of marriage, I got what I should and he is remarried. I still think of him nearly every day and wish I didn't. The thoughts are better now than before, I can remember some good times instead of all bad times. And when I see something in a store or online that he would like I still have that first impulse to get it for him. I wish I could erase him from my mind! Our two grown sons are living with him while in college so I even have to hear his loud voice in the background when they call me. So, I don't have an answer to your question. I'm glad you're happy with someone new and wish you a lifetime of joy together. I don't plan to have another relationship, ever. I'm done with men and that's a relief.

To be honest with you my hubby is the longest relationship I ever had with any man. I had a bad start with relationships in life, the father of my first child, it was bad and as a result my 16 year old has never met him. I think that he damaged my future course of relationships for some time until I met my hubby and so any relationship that existed in between did not ultimately last for very long and so I do not think of any of them. It is only rarely I think of my sons biological father and that is only because when I look at my son I see him so clearly in my sons face which is quite weird.

Previous boyfriends or partners played special parts in our lives and therefore it is but normal for us to think about them from time to time. That does not mean infidelity or disloyalty... I still think about my ex at times and I really wish him well.

It is natural to think about the past, though you do seem to think of your ex quite frequently. I wouldn't worry to much as you are happy right now, and it's not like you're pining after your ex. Your past was not good so perhaps you are taking longer to move on. To appreciate the good you have to experience some bad in life. If you are feeling guilty for your thoughts about your ex, it will make you feel loads better if you think about him less often. Have you ever read Anita and Me by Meera Syal? There is a part in the book where the girl is really angry at her friend but realises she needs to forget her to move on with her life. She imagines a pencil drawn image of her friend and mentally rubs out a small part of the image everyday. It was just a way of wiping her slowly from her mind. Perhaps you could try something like that?

Well I know how you feel. I think about my ex every now and then. And think about the memories that we once shared and how things were so right. But now I found someone so much better. I also wonder why I still think about him. I guess because the relationship with ur ex was probably really special. Like some people its their first serious relationship. First Love, and etc. But I had to just move on and think that's the past. And i always remember the past is the past for a reason. That's because they were never suppose to make it 2 your future.

I think about my x's occassionally. Just the way you do. That I wish they could see me now, and see how happy I am with out them. And basically rub in their face that I'm a lot happier with out them. Though, I normally don't take pride in having hurtful feelings like this, but it feels great when I find out they got screwed over when they did the same to me. Karma. It was a first relationship. You're always going to think about things that happened in the past. What you did last week. What you had for dinner. Christmas. Easter. It's nothing significant. You just take pride in being happier without him.

If I do think about previous boyfriends, it's never in a romantic way, or wishing that I could be with them again! I was never treated badly or cheated on, but the relationships broke up because we weren't right for eachother, so the past stays happily in the past.

even if you remember your x you should just forget him . you r married now and now you should move ahead if your husband finds out about your feelings then he would feel cheated.just remember how u got cheated and how u felt bad in the same way your husband will feel bad he will just feel heartbroken so just move on think of yuour new life get that x out of your mind.just get him of.

You are not wrong. when we are in trouble,everyone wantn't to be fail.so when we have failed,we will to find the way to resolve the fail. so we want to do it again,and we believe we can solve it perfect.

It is very difficult to live your past behind you. Specially if it is not the happiest one. It is very strange but if something bad happen to us we tend to wonder why, what have I done wrong etc. It is hard to accept that there are bad people in the world and you can not protect yourself from all of them. You may wonder what made me fall in love with a man like that or your question may be comletely different. It does not matter. Remember that you do not need to prove him anything. You do not need to prove him that you are wonderful person, worth being loved. You do know that and people that love you know that. Nothing else matters. People like your ex do not change. Just please do me a favour and do not blame yourself for anything that went wrong then. Maybe if it did not happen you would not meet your present husband or maybe you would not appreciate him like you do. Point is that it does not matter! Be happy as you are now and start to enjoy it because you my lady deserve it!!!! The only thing you may do is to forgive your ex and wish him all the best. Get peace in your heart! But only for yourself!

Sometimes I still think of my ex because like you, he's my first love but only during times when I'll encounter something or someone which reminds me of him. Don't be too bothered. It's natural because he was a big part of your life. You probably changed alot because of him.