After marriage, do guys still can go out with friends?

I have been with my s/o for over 3 years, we live together, not married, but might as well be lol. As to your question, he goes out with his guy friends for bowling, drinks, or to sporting events. This has never bothered me at all. He normally tells me days in advance when he and the guys are going to get together, so it's really no problem. Of course, I trust him and respect him enough to know that everyone needs a little 'alone' time or time without their spouse or s/o. It's the same with me also, he doesn't mind me taking a roadtrip, normally only a couple of times a year, to visit my daughter or for a scrapbooking weekend with other women. I can say that if she continues to make him feel like he is being smothered, she will more than likely drive him away, unless he's the type to just stay with her anyway.

I guess it's still important to let your partner do what they usually do when they're still single. It's their way of unwinding and be able to free themselves from stress or whatever. Hey, make them miss you even for a while okay.. hehehe..

I guess it's still important to let your partner do what they usually do when they're still single. It's their way of unwinding and be able to free themselves from stress or whatever. Hey, make them miss you even for a while okay.. hehehe..

I think guys should still have time to go out with his friends so as to strike a balance in his life. The same goes for women.

I think guys can still go out with friends after marriage for as long as there is limitations. Sometimes also it depends upon the partner if he/she would allow. As for me my husband still allows me to go with my friends. I even allow him also to be with his friend.

Has your friend did something until the wife have to keep checking on him? Or she purely has the suspicious and insecurity feeling? The couple really need to sit down and talk about what are the own individual private time each of them allow to hang out with own friends. relationship is based on trust, checking and being overly protective is not good. However, a certain degree of freedom is still restricted since a family is built and responsibility to share ample time with family/wife is required.Perhaps your friend has been hanging out too much?

I think it should be okay. Getting married isn't the end of the world, you know. Actually, it's good for married people to go out with their friends regularly but not as often as they did before. That way, there would be less 'trouble in paradise.' You'll be able to share your family experiences or woes with your friends who will hopefully be good listeners and a good influence as well.

Of course, everybody needs their own friends.

I haven't married yet, but in the future when i'm married, i still want to hang out with my friends, even though i know there's limitation since i have a family :) so i must make sure that my future wife can understand it LOL About ur friend i think he should try to explain to his wife about his situation, so she can understand about his husband needs too :)

It happens to most guys because they don't realize early that married life demands more of your time that it takes some of it for activities like that. Wives, whenever they do that should realize too that guys need time too for their friends and prohibiting them to do such gives them an impression that you don't trust them. For guys just assure your wives that you won't do anything to make her worry.

Well I totally disagree I am married for 6 years, coming close to the end of the 7th year and my circle of friends are also married. We do get together twice a week and our wifes support the same. They too need time to do things that they wish too and allow us to get together, also I read somebody saying that after marriage our family should be top priority. Agreed but the thing is that we also have a life to live and if we dedicate all our time to the family then when will we live our lives.

Hi there yenwie, First of all i know what your friend is going through, many peoples partners are like this including mine. I think that is a good sign that his wife actually loves him and doesnt want to lose him, people are different, Ask for me im happy that my partner does this, it means she loves me. Cheers

WHY NOT?!?!?! Don't ask rubbish can.

off course can...guy is just like others human being...apart from wife, they also need friends...the matter is only if the guy could not know how to devide or manage his time between his familiy's time and peer's time...so guys, manage your time and enjoy your life!!!

Hello yenwie84, I think your friend's wife is very clingy. How long have they been married? otherwise she may be a jealous wife and don't trust him, does he have a roving eyes? does he look at other women? only you know because your his friend and won't tell his wife. Yes I have a husband who used to be like that after other women but now he is more settled and I don't mind hime going out with his friends as I like a bit of peace and quiet, he has not got many close friends like he used to as they were all single men, now he goes out with married friends and I don't worry anymore. Tamarafireheart.

I think your friend has found a right one there!!lol she is obvioulosly very insecure and is scared he will cheat on her, maybe your friend should discuss the problem with his wife before his friends. I do agree though that marriage should not change you, you should still be able to see your friends.

I am not married, but I have lived with my girlfriend for 7 years. So it is kind of like we are married. She doesn't care if I go with my friends. I don't go very often though. It is nice to know I can go if I want and I dont have to fight to do it. With my ex wife everytime I wanted to go anywhere, she would ask me a thousand questions and it would end up in a fight. It would make me want to go out even more becaus I didnt want to be around a person like that. I now stay home all the time because I love to be with my girlfriend and our children.

I cant stand when people get married, they think that they "own" their spouse. That isnt how it works. I feel like if the person was hanging out with friends before the marriage and she was cool with it, he should be able to still hang out and she be cool with it....well sometimes anyway. All of the calling and checking up on stuff is out of control. I mean if she didnt trust him, why did she get married in the first place? That is what she is showing him. is he telling her how he feels or is he putting his head down saying yes dear. If he is then he is condoning her behavior and shouldnt complain about it. That is a big thing with marriage. Compromise. he should be able to tell her he is having a problem with her and she needs to respect and adapt. Why is it that I hear all of the time that there are such drastic changes when people get married? I would think it would be as simple as a piece of paper and a name change. People as a whole shouldnt change just because they get married. Tell your friend to give his wife a piece of his mind. I mean he does have the right to do that and if she doesnt like it, then that is on her. he doesnt want to wait too long to say something because this could be a simple fix which could turn into a disaster if it isnt addressed soon.

I am a married forty year old woman for four years. No, I don't see any problem with having friends or maintaining friends after marriage. It is okay as long as things don't get too out of hand. Like your friend spending too much time with his friends. That doesn't seem to be your friend's problem. That kind of behavior of a wife or husband suffocating the other one can cause a strain. It actually can distance somebody after a while.

It's my husband who actually sometimes gives ME a hard time for wanting to go out with friends alone rather than in a group. I like to have a bit of girl time or spend time with friends without him by my side. I don't think that's so wrong. I would let him do the same!