your thoughts on love at early age
By jhl930
@jhl930 (3601)
United States
July 14, 2008 4:22pm CST
i was reading a discussion yesterday and i have thought about it ever since then, i know that a lot of people think that if you get in a relationship with someone at a early age(like maybe 17,18,19,20)that you probably won't last with that person for the rest of your life, but i honestly think that if you two are meant to be together that you will last forever...but a lot of people were saying that they don't think that you will...so i was just wondering if i have the wrong idea or if anyone else agrees with me and thinks that yes it may be hard but it isn't impossible to stay with someone that long at an early age!
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16 responses
@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I met my husband when I was 15. We were only friends then. I was way too young to date. Then I married someone else. I later got divorsed, and we got married. I was only 20. We have now been married for 15 years. I feel like every day that my marriage is falling apart. It gets harder and harder every day. If anyone says its not work to be married, their lien.
@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
i love at an early age, i was 17 years old, but until now we were still together, there a time when we had problems, but you will still go back to the one that you have or to whom you are with, i hope this will be forever, we are 24 years old now.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
4 Sep 08
I am sorry to say but I think that at that young age you really don't know what love is yet. Love is not just a feeling but a lot of responsibilites too. And at that young you don't know how to handle responsibilites yet. It takes a few adult years for a person to find themselves and know what they want from life and to learn what is important to them in the long run, so at that age a person can not know what love really is. Especially boys. Boys take longer than girls to find themselves, so to speak, and don't really grow up till their late 20's. As girls mature quicker they usually know what they want by middle twenties. But at ages pf 20 and under, no, they don't know what love really is. Infatuation yes, love no.
This is just my opinion, my friend.
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I don't think there is nothing wrong with young love.. I happen to be one of those people that have fallen in love early i am 20 years old and i got married.. I have been married for 3 months now and everything has been going great.. Not to mention i only knew the fellow for 5 months before we got married... My sister was also like this and she has been married for 4 or 5 years.. I dont see anything wrong with it.. I love my husband i wouldn't change it for nothing.. My husband and i have so much in commen that it funny so we are a happy couple and lve being married to each other...
@KittenKitten (71)
• China
15 Jul 08
I began date with my boyfriend at the ago of 17.That year he was 18.Now we have been together about 4years.I just hope we can love each other forever,but i am not sure about future.My boyfriend seem to had a further plan about us.
@polly423 (90)
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14 Jul 08
I totally agree with you. If they're the right person for you, and your love is strong enough then I see no reason why people who are together from an early age can't be together forever. I believe in soulmates and I think that some people are lucky and find their soulmates earlier than others. If you really love someone and believe they're the one for you, and they think the same back, then you can be with someone forever from an early age.
@frankiecesca (2489)
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15 Jul 08
I am living proof that it can work!
I met my now husband when I was 15 and we got married this february. I am 24 now so have already been with him for 9 years and we are very happy! We even would have been married already for 2 years if the original plan had gone through but becuase of lack of money we had to put the wedding back a couple of years! So yes it can work and obviously the ones that don't work out were just not meant to be! I don't think you have to work any harder than any other couples though as think it just depends on how much you love each other!
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
15 Jul 08
It does not matter how old one is when they fall in love or get married. The important thing is that one is physically, mentally, spiritually and financially ready. If the persons are in this stage, then I must say that their relationship have a lot of chance to work.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
I think that there is no such thing as being to young to be in love. As we could see some childhood sweethearts actually have gotten married and until now they are together. Also I think that it's not about the age it is the maturity and the love to keep the relationship. Yes I agree its hard but if both of you do your part to make this relationship last then it would be easy because you have someone that would help you.
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
You are right. Love at early age during teenage does not mean cannot lasts forever. It's all depends on the couple's maturity. If they are matured enough to think about their future and know how to manage early age relationship,then there should be no problem. But if both of them are childish,never think of their future,and just blindly dating,then there is a problem there. Love at early age often cannot resist from temptation. If there is any third party comes in the relationship, it will be easily ruined. That's why we usually say love at early age cannot last forever. I think it all depends on the couple's maturity.
@Adeliza1220 (877)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I agree with what you wrote love doesn´t have an age i know many people who fell in love at a young age and didn´t even last long as boyfriend and girlfriend and have had a great and long lasting marriage. My aunt and uncle met when my aunt was 15 and he was 17 and got married by the time my aunt was 17 and have had a marriage of over 30 years and are happy and still in love. Every situtation is different so you never know what can happen all you can do is be prepared for anything that comes your way.. and that true love does exist even at a young age.
@sweethopia (65)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
I have been with my partner since I was 17. I am turning 30 this December. We have a 3-year old daughter:) The only way a relationship will truly work is if you both work hard at it. If you're willing to stick it out with the person through thick or thin then it doesn't really matter what age you are. I guess when you're young the odds can stack up but like I said, if you're willing to stick it out through tough times, the relationship can last.
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I can attest to that jhl. Me and my fiancee started our when we were in High School. It's been 12 years. We started out when we were 17. It was difficult though since when we got into college, it was difficult to adjust since we need time for ourselves back then. We did gave ourselves time to be alone and discover things on our own without depending on each other.
Then, we got stronger. We became more mature and we had our own experiences apart of each other. I guess it's fate that brought us together. Again, it ain't easy but when you get past the stormy stage, your relationship and bond can't be shaken easily. Take care.
@queenofarms (1659)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I was 18 when I started dating my husband and then marrying him. We were married 23 years then divorced. We are now back together after 2 years of separation. I'm with you, if you truly love each other it will last forever. Now a relationship/marriage isn't a bowl of cherries or without problems. These things I feel just test your relationship.