When Your Kid Throws A Tantrum,What Do You Do?

My daughter will be 5 on saturday. I use a variety of things. I make her stay in her room with the door shut til she calms down. I don't want to subject anyone else to her behavior. Or time out standing in the corner 1 minute for each year she is old. Right now these work. Later removal of some favorite belongings might work. Talking to him about why this went on (after he is calm) may give you some insight.

Hello eihdra, I think all kids at some point or another throw fits, after a while when they learn the fits dont help get what they want it will stop, You are doing good by just sending him to his room, it lets him get it out of his system w/o having to subject others to it, and gives him time to realize what he just did. If he breaks his stuff, he needs to fix it or he will be the one going w/o it. It is normal, dont worry about him being a problem child, because in fact all kids are problem children at some point or another that is how they learn to be good adults. Let him know you understand his feelings but we cant always get what we want and we need to learn how to control the emotional rage that goes thru us in order to better cope with others situations that will occur in life. Peace and smiles

Isn't 9 years old too old to throw a tantrum? Why don't you talk to him when he's not in a bad mood and explain to him that he does not have to do that. Does he have a younger sibling? If so, tell him that the younger one will see him like that, they might follow his example. I don't think you really have a problem child. All children pass through this phase. I guess it is just a matter of explaining to them. Encourage him to act more maturely because he is getting older, then tell him adults will treat him better if he does not throw a tantrum. From what I see, if you do not prevent this, he might bring this kind of tantrum until he grows up. Good luck. I hope it all works out for you.

my 10 year old daughter still throws tantrums. I usually just tell her to go to her room and leave her alone till she calms down and is ready to talk about whatever she decided to throw the fit about. I have to pretty much just leave her alone because I'm not about to get into a yelling competition with a 10-year-old who is behaving like a toddler. When she is ready to act her age, we then discuss and attempt to resolve whatever it was she was upset about. It works till the next time. She's kinda of a high-maintence child and has a tendency to be overly-sensitive to the smallest things. The best thing I've found though is to ignore the tantrum as much as possible (yea I know it's hard when they're screaming loud enough that you have to worry about glass breaking), it's usually an attention getting thing and if you don't reward them by giving them your attention they'll stop and be a little easier to deal with.

My daughters never had temper tantrums. From the time they were old enough to understand, we had talks about what was and was not permissable. I hate to see children having temper tantrums. But what I really hate is for parents to pet them when they are doing it. It just reinforces the idea that it's ok to do. I would just sit him down and let him know that he couldn't do it. Just speak to him in a very firm (not mean) voice that lets him know that you mean what you are saying. If he continues to have them, ignore him and see if that works. If that doesn't work, try embarrassment. Even though my children never had temper tantrums, I've baby sat for several who did. I was able to stop them from doing it. Good luck!

I don't have children, but when my little sisters used to throw tantrums (literally laying on the ground crying and pounding their fists and kicking), my mom would watch them and say, "Yup. There you go. Throw a fit. We're all watching you now." and they would be embarrassed to the point where they would just stop.

Hey, Im not a mom Im a dad. I have 3 sons,my youngest is 8 and he acts just like that.What I do, is get on eye level,talk in a low stern voice and punch him square in the face.No just kidding,but he does act like that.Normaly I let him calm down(and me)and talk with. But I never give him anything when he acts like that,I mean nothing.

My daughter is almost 3 and when she used to be younger I used to shout at her out of frustration but now I just let her cry all she wants. Sometimes when we're in the mall or in a public place I will pretend to leave her and start walking away, she will follow me crying and then she will let me carry her and then she will calm down. I guess you can't do this since your child is 9:p I also do time outs. I make her sit on the sofa for 2-5 minutes or until she has calmed down. My daughter is very headstrong and NEVER listens to me. But since I have been ignoring her cries, her tantrums have become shorter- 5 minutes tops. When she was younger- she could cry for more than an hour until she falls asleep or gets tired.

I have a five year old son that usually is pretty well behaved in a public setting. There have been times when he was a little younger if he didn't get what he wanted he would start to cry and scream. I would just try to quietly talk to him to get him to settle down. I don't normally hit him in public. I don't do that in private too much for that matter either.

I have a 2-year old and seven months daughter. She is in the terrible two phase.When she throws a tantrum, she cries out loud, she throws anything and she really has a loud voice.I don't want to stop her because when I tried doing that, the more she shouts. But there's one time, I was really irritated maybe I was doing something, I told her with a loud voice, "Enough!". And she stopped crying..It worked. Maybe she realized I was serious. So everytime she throws a tantrum, I just belt out "ENOUGH!"

First of all it is sort of comforting to know that I am not the only one having a 9 year old still throwing tantrums. As far as I know this only happens at home so I prefer to beleive it is not caused by a disorder but that it is rather due to being in opposition to his parents. I also beleive that spanking is not the way to go so I always try to calm him down and when it doesn't work I walk away. Anyway - what I wanted to tell you about is what I did about 3 months ago: My son had a tantrum and I couldn't calm him down so I left him in his room while he was still screaming and yelling. Then I decided to return with the video camera. I recorded maybe about a minute of this behaviour. He calmed down quite quickly and afterwards I made him watch it together with me and I asked him what he thought about it. If he thought this was an appropriate reaction to what had happened and how he would react if the boy in the video was somebody else his age. I also told him how I felt about it. Since then the tantrums have definitely been less frequent and when they occur and he won't calm down I sometimes ask him if we should get the video camera out again. He was clearly embarrassed but at the age of 9 I think he was be old enough to reflect over his own behaviour. I didn't mean to be cruel or make him embarrassed and I promised of course to never show the video to anyone. A promise I have kept. I don't think it will work with very young children but maybe it is worth a try when they are at an age where they should have outgrown their tantrums.

First of all it is sort of comforting to know that I am not the only one having a 9 year old still throwing tantrums. As far as I know this only happens at home so I prefer to beleive it is not caused by a disorder but that it is rather due to being in opposition to his parents. I also beleive that spanking is not the way to go so I always try to calm him down and when it doesn't work I walk away. Anyway - what I wanted to tell you about is what I did about 3 months ago: My son had a tantrum and I couldn't calm him down so I left him in his room while he was still screaming and yelling. Then I decided to return with the video camera. I recorded maybe about a minute of this behaviour. He calmed down quite quickly and afterwards I made him watch it together with me and I asked him what he thought about it. If he thought this was an appropriate reaction to what had happened and how he would react if the boy in the video was somebody else his age. I also told him how I felt about it. Since then the tantrums have definitely been less frequent and when they occur and he won't calm down I sometimes ask him if we should get the video camera out again. He was clearly embarrassed but at the age of 9 I think he was be old enough to reflect over his own behaviour. I didn't mean to be cruel or make him embarrassed and I promised of course to never show the video to anyone. A promise I have kept. I don't think it will work with very young children but maybe it is worth a try when they are at an age where they should have outgrown their tantrums.