What would you do with your cat if....

I would get a second opinion. You didn't say exactly what was wrong. I would probably let the cat live a bit longer, at least until he showed signs of real pain or quality of life has really deteriorated. This will give your mom time to say goodbye.

aww...i'm so sorry to hear that. idk what i would do in that position. Prob have the surgery.

Nelly, First, I offer my condolences. My wife, Nellie, and I had to have our oldest dog(he was only 7 at the time) put down due to cancer last year so I truly understand their grief. Realistically, it was an easy decision to put "Stoney" (short for Stonewall) down because he was so sick and the vet couldn't help him at all. I believe that, as a pet owner, we are actually in a wonderful position to be able to make tis type of decision. The only way that you can look at it is for the benefit of your pet, if surgery will only delay the inevitable, or lengthen the time that your pet will suffer, as a responsible owner AND A LOVING owner, the only viable decision to make is to put your pet down. As I said at the start Nelly, my heart truly goes out to your folks and you. All The Best To You and Yours, Ed Jump

Oh girl! I didn't know that this had happened! I am so sorry to hear about it. I know that this decision is hard on all of you. Pets become family members, and this is so sad. I will keep you all in my prayers, that during this hard time you can somehow find peace. Take these last times with Stoney, and love on him. Cats are so smart, and I am sure he thanks your parents for not making him suffer.

I am sorry the cat had become so ill. I would be like your mother and have to have it put to sleep. There just is no sense in letting it continue to suffer. Big hugs to your mom, it is never easy to loose such a significant member of the family.So sorry she had to make such a hard decision.

in my situation, we had a cat that was with us and was aged at 18 years for cat, which would put her at the age of over 100 for human . she had lived with us for many years, and had loved us both , and we her. she also had a full, happy and loving life, which is what any cat would love. for ait hurt while, she also had no problems. but then some time ago ( dec of last year), she had old age , various problems, and very bad health problems happen on her all at once. she used to walk, do things, and also just enjoy company with all of us. her problems got to the point where she was not walking, could not see, had lost a lot of weight, and was stumbling all over the place. it hurt my mother and I to give her a very gentle and loving release at the end, heck, i was in a worse way afterwords for awhile. but in the end, we both gave her what she would have wanted, a loving release to end all suffering and give her dignity in the end. that is what i believe.

As sad as it is and as hard as it is to do, I would have made the same choice. I wouldn't want my pet to have to suffer any more than they had to. I am sorry for your parents loss.

I'm so sorry for you and your parents to be in this position. I too had to make a similar decision about 6 years ago. My cat was only 5 years old and had developed a lump (fibrosarcoma) on her back. The first time we had it removed because it was small - it was about $300 to do that. The vet said there was a 50% chance that it would come back, and it did about a year later. It grew and grew to the point that she couldnt' fit through the cat door anymore. Up until then, it didn't seem to bother her, even if we touched it. But once it got that large, she started sleeping all the time in a dark, quiet hiding place. She just acted sick and wasn't herself at all. I knew if we had it removed again, it would probably just come back, and I didn't want to put her through that once again. On the day we were going to take her to be put to sleep, I was doubting myself about the decision. My son (who was four) was holding her and crying and trying to say goodbye to her. My one year old daughter came up and touched the cat's lump (not hard) and the cat jumped and bit me because I was closest to her mouth. She had never done that before, but the pain must have been worse than I ever thought. I knew then that I had to put her to sleep. If just touching it was painful, I couldn't let her go on. Your parents are making the right decision, painful as it may be. Pets are wonderful, loving family members and it's so sad when we have to say good bye to them.

That is such a difficult decision to have to deal with! I'm so sorry that Stoney is not doing well. I would think that with finances being so rough, if this is a vet that your mom is familiar with and have done business with before, the vet would let her make payments if that is what is holding her back from having the surgery done. But if the chances that Stoney will survive are very slim, it might be better to let the vet euthanize him. That way he won't be suffering anymore. Such a painful choice to make...my heart is with you and your mom, as well as my prayers.

I am so very sorry for your mom and dad. That's a terrible decision to have to make. I know they love Stoney very much. They are absolutely doing the right thing for him. It would be horrible to put him through a costly and painful operation and not have it help him. Your folks are saving Stoney a great deal of pain and suffering. They gave him a very good life; he knows he is loved and cared for. He will always live in their hearts, and they will all meet again someday. Tears for this painful decision.

Hello nelly5, It is most saddest and hardest discision to make if the vet think he won't make the op. the best thing is to put him to sleep. I had to put my little Roly my cat 10 years ago he had a tumor and he wouln't have livid. Its so hard, but sometimes its for the best, you won't them to suffer the pain and not have the quality of live. Tamarfireheart.

Nelly, I am so sad and sorry hearing this, as I also love cats very much. I've been through such situation (even though different case); saw my cat went out from home for the last time and never came back (after 5 years), saw my other cats being poised by someone, etc. My only recommendation is to choose treatment which is the least painful for your cat. I do understand about your mom's feelings so she chose that option. We cannot avoid such situation, but you should be strong as you and your mom love the cat, and I believe the cat understands... Just pray the good for him, even though, well *sad* if he has to go...but he will go in peace... Sorry if I can't help much, but I will pray for the cat from here...