am i wierd because im 22 and still single??
By daryldoyo
@daryldoyo (58)
Philippines
July 17, 2008 3:00am CST
being not that goodlooking, childish, and sometimes acting without etiquette, like farting aloud, laughing like there's no tomorrow, burping aloud and many more in front of the people i know are some of the reasons why i think im still in this kind of situation, i know its not proper to do that, especially by a girl like me. But its me, and i want to be viewed by someone as me and not somebody else.. plus the fact that im totally afraid of what might my family will say to me and my suitor if their going to meet each other. Or maybe i'm just afraid of disappointments, disappointment from parents, or maybe from being dump..my friends even told me not be so "choosy", but how can i do that if there's nothing to choose from??
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21 responses
@tin_cierva (241)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
don't worry girl, there's a right one for everybody.. being you is just fine..
im 23, and yes im single too, although im from relationship last january, but i don't mind, i do prefer to be alone actually.. and it doesnt mean that your weird because you don't have someone beside you.. are you telling me that all single today which is at the age of 22 and above are weird people?..
@daryldoyo (58)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
well there's a very big difference of being a single since birth and single just for this season..i mean having no boyfriend at all really bugs me..i know its quite shallow to think that way but, i feel my ego's crushing within me whenever i got into this kind of topic..it makes me feel so inferior and all..well eniweiz tnx for the response...
@painkiller77 (2073)
• India
17 Jul 08
people perceive us from our outer looks. so i would say that people will judge you as a good for nothing type of girl. keep your heart clean. but yes, it is time that you mould yourself a bit. just try to rediscover yourself. the inner being should be you but with a world friendly outer cast. try this and you will be able to balance yourself by a month or so. all the best.
@daryldoyo (58)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
i would probably follow ur advice,,well it will really takes tym for me to do that but maybe its tym for me to improve for the better,, but im not doing this just for the sake of finding a partner,, coz i want to stick to my principle that they have to like me for who i am..but im doing this for my own good..to feel good,,tnx alot!!
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
20 Jul 08
well being single at 22 is pretty normal. i laugh out loud too when i'm happy. i don't agree with the burping aloud part, if you can control it. at least cover your mouth when you burp as it's the socially agreeable thing. as for farting, it's a bodily function that we don't really have control over. how do you fart silently when it insist on coming out loud??? just relax and be yourself. don't worry about the disappointments. think about the happiness and joy you might get when you meet the other one. even if it doesn't last, at least you've had your fun. cheers ;p
@ljforte1024 (150)
• Canada
18 Jul 08
I think one day you'll find your match. I used to think how could some people who I thought were weird end up with someone just as weird as they were...it's because they go were they like and end up meeting people who are similar. Whatever it is you like to do, do those things more, get out more and you will meet people when you least expect it. I'm 29 and it's not that hard to meet people. I meet men at the grocery store, Mejer's, Blockbuster, gas station, etc because I like watching movies and cooking. Whatever you love do it more in public and you will find someone who loves it too.
Hope that helps alittle
@umart13 (841)
• Ireland
18 Jul 08
Hello daryldoyo. Worrying about what you don't have is one of the worst things you can do in your life at any age. Stop worrying and start to live your life. There are single people all over the world at all ages from 1 up to 110. If you are single enjoy it. If you want to meet somebody then make an effort to do it. Arguing that you are you is fine, but to meet somebody - that is, if you really want to - means making compromises and making yourself attractive to the other person. Who knows? Maybe you will like yourself, when you change image? Then when the show is over, you go back to being you again. Simple! Or Not???
Good luck from Germany!
Umart
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
18 Jul 08
On the one hand, there is nothing at all unusual about being 22 and single. And there is nothing wrong with it, if you're happy with it.
If you're not happy about it, then you need to come up with a plan. I wouldn't worry so much about disappointing your parents - if you meet someone that is compatible with you, then your parents will probably get used to them.
It's scary to put yourself out there and potentially be dumped, but unfortunately it's a necessary step.
@meiyeec511 (405)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 08
I don't think that's weird. May be the suitable partner for you net yet appear.
Just follow your fate. You are still young, just 22 only. Sometimes it more flexible just by yourself.
Do not say that there's nothing to choose. There are a lot of people in the world, so far you have not meet the right person for you.
No worries, you will get a partner when the time arrived.
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Well don't worry. I have a few friends who are 29 and are still single. Hehe. People may think it's weird but you can't really force some relationship to happen. Let things run its course. There's no need to rush. There are so many advantages of being single for now. You have a lot more time for self-examination.
@mscott (1923)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Not that weird to be single at age 22. Weird to be doing those things, well, I guess that depends if you live in a civilized society where people actually learn manners. plenty of people do those things in their own homes but not around others. You don't have to stop having fun just to mature.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
18 Jul 08
Hello daryldoyo,
Hey you anly 22yrs old what are you worrid about being single enjoy yours fart and burp all you like you are a fun girl and don't take any notice of anybody or what they about you farting and burping and when you do meet someone don't worry what your family would say either. I met my husband when I was 27 and now we've been married for 28 years so don't you fret these planty of time so enjoy being single.
Tamarafireheart.
@kbjunior15 (1309)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I did not marry until I was 25. I graduated college, had lots of fun, dated lots of girls, did lots of fun thing and then got married. You are not weird at all to be 22 and single. Enjoy life. Have fun. Worry about settling down later.
@Adeliza1220 (877)
• United States
18 Jul 08
You are not weird for being single at 22 you are still young and have alot ahead of you. I am sure that there will be someone who will accept you for you, the thing is those kind of things happen when you least expect it not neccesarily when you ask for it.
@shinymood (405)
• China
18 Jul 08
Not at all. I was 29 when I got married. I'm not good-looking, either. My mom used to worry about me but i never do. I am happy with my life and i am a confident lady. My husband is a successfu business man and he likes me for being myself. Cheer up. You are so young and there's everything before you.
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
17 Jul 08
No why would you say that you are wierd for being single at 22.You have a lot of time to get married. Stay single as long as you want to.Sometimes staying single is better than getting married. Take your time dont rush into it. Have fun as you can because once you get married thats the end of all your fun.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
I guess other people really find it weird when a girl does those things and would later relate it as a problem why you are still single and no guy is interested with any girl doing such things 'unlady-like' as others would look at it.
However, its not weird to choose to be single even at that age. Some people at that age are even busy with their careers or at work doing a good job and inevitably getting promoted.
Who doesn't want to be liked by just being themselves, all naturally themselves with no inhibitions due to social expectations. Then again, if your friends implied not to be 'choosy', who knows that guys at your area are 'choosy' as well.
Also, we can't deny the uncertainties when getting into relationships. As you have enumerated, meeting the parents, disappointments or getting dumped. However, we'd still be uncertain with things that we don't know unless we make a step forward to find out.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
17 Jul 08
Hi daryldoyo, There is nothing weird about being single at 22, many women are waiting until they are 30 or older before they marry. Some men will no doubt be turned off by your lack of etiquette in certain situations, but you are not alone in acting this way, and you will change when you are ready. Blessings.
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
17 Jul 08
There is nothing wrong with still being single at 22. When I was 22, I wasnt even looking for a boyfriend, much less a husband. I'm 29 now and still single and I understand about there not being any men to choose from but if you want to find someone, you have to stop worrying about what others think and just get out there! I dont have a problem finding guys, I just always end up with the wrong ones but I know I will find the right one one of these days!
Higs, Tianna
@cherishfxd (5)
• China
17 Jul 08
I am 21 years old and I am still single now.But I think it's not weird because we don't meet our Mr Right.I still believe I will meet one who understands my heart one day.Don't worry,just be wait.Wish you happy every day.