When a friend was never a friend

I felt hurt but not really for me. She and I where never that close, she was just part of the group. I really hurt for my best friend who was really close to her, until a few years ago. My best friend won't say what happened but they where living together and suddenly she came to stay with her dad and never went back she left everything even her clothes. I also was hurt for the guys she dated, they are very close to me; like I said one was my ex, we dated for 3 years and stayed friends after we split. I know that it is possible that her words where twisted but she had to have said something along those lines about us or they wouldn't have a comment to twist. I was shocked to see she would talk about us and hurt for those who where close to her.

You know hun she may have had another groupd of friends between the time you all hung out to now so she could have been talking about just about anyone may not have been your group at all.

Ya, I am sure she has had many friends. The problem with the comment is the when I was in school part. We met her when she was 13 and most of the group of friends have stayed in touch and we are now in our 30's. So while we may not have been the group of underdogs she befriended the guys are the "ugly guys" she dated to make them feel better about themselves.

The cruel hand of human nature. It is truly remarkable that people think they can hurt others and not have it come back to them some day. Even as a kid I understood that if I wanted to be treated good I had to treat others good. It is interesting how even though I was not a close friend and my hurt isn't totally for me but more for the others that considered her a good friend I still feel like we gave her friendship and she used us. Part of my issue is that we where already a group of good friends that had known each other for several years before she moved to town.

Ya, that is about it. We had all been friends from grade school. Most of us from kindergarten. When we hit high school we met up with some guys from the next town over that started going to the same high school as us. She came to town 2 years after that when her mom sent her to live with her dad. She was alone and we took her in and welcomed her treating her like we had known her for just as long as everyone else. It is a small town of about 3500 people so everyone knows everyone and it is hard to break into those tight friendships but we never made it hard for her, she was just like the rest of us in our eyes. I can't be more proud of her achievements. I just can't help but wonder if she always saw herself as being above us or if she just feels like she has to make herself look that way to get ahead in Hollywood. Ah, well I am not going to harbor any ill will. I am happy in my life and I hope she is too.

in other words she came to town moved in on your grou. used you to help herself have a social life. then ate you up and spit you out. then stepped on you to make a good interview.

Hi Gabs, from what I have been told by my best friend/ her former roommate she has totally let the actress thing go to her head. My BF said that is one of the reasons she left everything behind she just needed to get away and once she was away she didn't want to go back and get mixed up in the things that this girl was into. I think the big thing for me was the shock of thinking she was a friend. I stopped talking to her when she told my husband that he should dump me and go for a really hot chick like her. I let it go thinking she was drunk when she said it but now it seems she may have really meant it. That was a few years ago so the hurt I felt this morning was not so much for me as it was for everyone else who still is in touch with her. Well that and being called an underdog that she made friends with because she felt sorry for us, that is a laugh because we befriended her for that same reason. She was new and alone and her dad was never home. Well, now that I have vented my feelings on it I can honestly say I don't care what she thinks it is her loss because my friends are really good people and we love each other very much.