I am a loner most of the time at work

Where do you work? In a small, medium or large companies? What do you mean by you felt the rejection from them?There is no need for envy, my dear girl. What you can do is be like them! You don't haVe to be in a clique to have friends. I am also a loner, but I chose to be that way. I get along great with my colleagues, it is just that I don't like the idea of a clique whereby you have to do everything in a group. Thus, one can still be in a group laughing and goofing around with each other, but yet, need not be part of the group. You get what I mean? Anyway, you could most probably start off the day with something small for example: - 1. Smiling at everybody who comes your way. If they smile back, then great! If not, it's okay. Just keep smiling. A smile automatically makes a person look more approachable and friendly. 2. Once you can get them smiling back at you, try to start off the morning by greeting them a very big morning! 3. Offer to make them drinks when you are making one for yourself. You will be pleasantly surprised at how far a simple hello and a smile can do. So keep that smile and keep believing. Hope that this will help. Good luck!^o^

know what, i was like that especially in my elementary and high school life. I used to isolate myself from my classmate, but there was a reason why i am like that. I'm afraid then to be rejected that is why i choose to isolate myself. I'm also working woman now and im happy i surpass that stage, although most of the time im rejected but it doesnt bother me anymore coz there's also who accepts me. I hope you get something from my story...

Work environment is very much like high school, lol. There are established groups who have been doing things together for years. As a newcomer, it's sometimes hard to join those groups. You usually don't fit in perfectly. But if you take a good look around, there may be people who feel as lonely as you do. Maybe even somebody in another department you deal with. Extend a lunch invitation, and don't take the first rejection as a no. Even with the groups, try and socialize with one person in the group first. Again, extend a lunch invitation. Talk with the person over the watercooler. Stuff like that. If you socialize more, you will eventually find your niche in a group or even have a regular lunch buddy or two. Key is not to wait to be approached but to be the one doing the approaching. If you feel insecure, try the joining a watercooler discussion thing first (doesn't really have to be at the watercooler, lol). Sometimes it takes time to make friends. Don't be discouraged!

Yes i too found it very difficult to make new friends at work. But if you help them in some way or please them in some way they will become your friends. Its natural that a new comer is not welcomed in a group which has already been established. Even now i am terrified of joining in a new job because i have to get used to working with so many new people. bUt making new friends will take time. Just be patient and try to do good. This will earn good friends for you.

I would not suggest this. But maturity says, be alone to be happy. And thats really true. If you find a group of people and today you join them and they will be good to you until they find you are meeting their views. As soon as you argue with your points they start rejecting you. Finally you will be alone again as you dont like rejections. But its better to be alone as I can quarrel with me alone. :) I do really enjoy the loneliness as it wont disturb me by any means. But I love to make friends and I have a lot of colleagues and friends who come with me for lunch in office. But none of them really like each other. I dont know how many internally hate me. but I really dont understand why people hate. At least at this age you should have been matured enough to not hate people. Whatever they do its their views thats it and its nothing to do with you. If it is affecting you then you can raise your voice otherwise no need to do anything right? What I suggest is to make more friends as you are good in that and be with them Be always good with them whether they do good to you or not. Finally if they come to know their mistakes they will come back to you as you are very good. Friends are there to share and care. Find a friend who really makes difference. All the best. :)

Even books are good friends, make it a habit when u feel alone.