Will you give seat to a pregnant woman when you are in a bus?
By yenwie84
@yenwie84 (1344)
Malaysia
July 18, 2008 7:07am CST
I saw this incident three days ago. When I was in a bus,I could not find a seat. There was a pregnant woman came up to the bus, no one had the intention to offer her a seat. I felt very sorry for this woman,being pregnant like around 7 months with no seat standing in the bus. If you are one of the passengers who is having a seat,will you give your seat to a pregnant woman? Please share with me,thanks.
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108 responses
@kingcrapper (1536)
• United States
18 Jul 08
7 months pregnant and no one gave up their seat for her! Call me old school but to me that is just something that you must do! If I were there I would have gladly given up my seat as well as if the person was elderly or needed special assistance. The worse that could happen is they could reject my offer!
That is the weird thing about people these days, they are becoming more and more selfish and self centered. Who cares what happens to other people as long as I get what I want! Pretty sad really. I see this idea more strongly ingrained in my students every year. It really is sad.
@gigarange (1165)
• United States
19 Jul 08
That's so true. I wonder why people gets so cold, cruel and self centered. It all boils down to he person's heart and good manners.
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@fran429 (502)
• United States
21 Jul 08
I TOTALLY agree with you, kingcrapper! I'm just as 'old school' as you are & I'm still just a baby at 27! I think it has a LOT to do with the way I was raised in the South in a rural area where everyone helped everyone! It's really sad about the way the world is coming along in their whole self-centered material world!
@jijomathew (519)
• India
18 Jul 08
well ya of coyrse i will be so happy to do that anyway who will not do that ,giving seat to a pregnant lady is really a good help you can give to anyone it makes people around you feel that your a good person.great job you helped her keep it upi hate people who do not do it
happy that you are not like that,
well bye!
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
It happened to me too. I felt the labor pain in the morning so my hubby packed my things and we wait for a taxi outside but none came so we decided to just take the LRT (metro train) to avoid traffic. Inside the train, there's no seat available and I just stand while hubby is worried if I can still manage the pain. People are simply ignoring me, others pretend to be sleepy when a little boy probably aged 10 give his seat to me after a few stations. These are how the educated people of the metropolis is behaving.
To answer your question, I always give my seat to pregnant, elderly, father carrying a child or simply those women carrying a heavy bag.
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
Hi Fran.. i like your idea here but why it doesn't entered in my mind? I guess it would be a blockbuster if i did that! Nevertheless, that little boy will be blessed in his entire life.
@fran429 (502)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Hi Juliefaye, That is ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE the way people treated you! In LABOR no less! You shoulda made a big deal over that little boy who offered you his seat. I'm not a quiet person! I would have told that little boy LOUD and CLEAR that the ENTIRE train could here how THANKFUL you were that HE was raised so well mannered to give his seat to a lady who was IN labor on her way to the hospital & NOW you don't have to worry about delivering a baby ON a train because you were standing & causing so much stress on your body! Then I would have looked at the big fat perverted fool sitting right next to where I was standing, since that jerk couldn't give up my seat and tell him he should thank the little boy too since he no longer has to worry about me breaking my water on his foot *grin*
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
18 Jul 08
Hello,yenwie!I always offer a seat to the old and disabled man while traveling in a bus.Of course i have not seen a pregnant lady traveling in a bus without a seat.if seen such a situation I must offer my seat.thanx.
@paid2write (5201)
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18 Jul 08
Yes of course I would offer it to her.
If I see an old man or an old woman, someone with a disability, a parent with a baby or with young children, I will always ask if they would like to have my seat.
I have done this and every time I did it I saw men who were still comfortably seated looking a bit ashamed or embarrassed.
I was once standing on a crowded train and I could see a young man with his arm bandaged and he was obviously in pain. I was quite shocked that he had to stand for his entire journey because no-one would let him sit down.
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@honey15rose (85)
• Japan
18 Jul 08
Yes, of course I will offer my seat. I do that not only to a pregnant woman, but also to an elderly and a woman with a kids and also to a disabled person. People who ignore that situations are considered selfish.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I would if something like that would happen to me but, in most cases, it hasn't occurred at all.
Most of the time, I'm either seated at the window side of the first row or the last row of seats in a bus. Passengers who come aboard would immediately go straight in the middle to see if there are still seats available. Those who could offer seats would mostly be those seated at the aisle but, those that aren't can still give there seats if they want to.
If I ever get into a situation wherein a pregnant lady needed a seat when every seat has already been taken, if I'm one of those whom are already seated, I'd immediately give mine
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
19 Jul 08
Of course I will give up my seat to a pregnant lady. That's without question. There's no problem for me to stand. In fact, I will not only give up my seat to someone who's pregnant, but also to old ladies and men, women with baby in arm or with small children in tow, or someone who is handicapped in any way. We should practice chivalrous acts like these. Who knows, one day we will get old too (and some of us will get pregnant too!) and we will wish some kid souls will give up their seats to us.
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@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Of course. I have done it in fact. I know how it feels to be pregnant and I can't tolerate myself from seeing a pregnant woman standing. it takes one to know one.
@littleone3 (2063)
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19 Jul 08
Yes i would as i know what it is like. When i was about seven months pregnant, with my daughter, i took a bus that was very full and not one person offered me a seat. So i was standing for all of the journey which was very sore on my back.
When i use to take the bus i always give up my seat for the elderly, disabled or people with children.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
19 Jul 08
i most certinly would & can't imagine people sitting om their tails & not doing that.poor thing, hope she did not have far to go. shame on everyone on that bus.
@scorpiobites (298)
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19 Jul 08
I was riding the bus to go for an appointment in my sons school,my sson sitting with me when a pregnant woman come up and my son gave his seat.
When I was talking to the teacher she was telling me that my son done something wrong that's why I was ask to report to the school.
But when the Principal comes ,to my surprises he touch my son on his head and s
he said he's good boy,because he offered his seat when she was in the bus.Good deed's save my son from bieng kickout in school.
@alena824 (376)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Definitely. In fact, I have done so in the past. I just cannot stand the fact that someone in a delicate condition will have to suffer when there are others who should be offering their seat to her. Old folks, too, are my concern and when I can, I always give up a seat for them. I don't want to be in the same position at some point in time so I try to pay it forward, so to speak.
@embattledsparkle (1072)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Yes, if I saw someone that pregnant, I'd ask her if she'd like my seat. People should be more nice to each other but it seems like everyone is caught up in themselves.
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@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I would definitely give her my seat. Being pregnant is not easy and standing in a crowded public transport for several minutes is not really good for any pregnant woman. In fact, I believe that people who are healthier and stronger should give up their seats not only to pregnant women but also to the elderly. These people has special needs and we should treat them with extra care.
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@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I'm pregnant myself and this reality appalled me! I mean, that's really cruel. She's pregnant for god's sake! Somebody should have thought that she's much closer to a probable accident standing up like that! I'll be giving her my seat at once. There's no question there. I gave up my seat more than just once for oldies because you know their legs are wobbly and I'm stronger than them, so I see no reason why I shouldn't give my seat to a pregnant woman.
Well, if I were there standing in the bus with her, I will certainly ask a man (politely) if ever he can be so kind to give up his seat for the pregnant woman. I stick my nose to my own business but I just can't afford to let such cruelty pass like that and let children see it and copy it as well. If no one wants to give their seat at least I sent a clear message.
@aendzie (571)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
yep, I'm a gentlewoman..lol..dunno if there's such a word. But i got use to giving my seat to kids,. pregnant woman and grannys..I think they're very fragile that we have to give them extra care.
and I hate it when men don't give me a seat in the bus..I don't understand I think I need to be very pretty so they would give me a seat. .lol
as they say, where have all the gentlemen gone?