my sister is afraid to give birth, how can i encourage her to not be scared?

Rent "Knocked Up" and watch it with Her! I saw this movie for the first time last week,and I thought it a great introduction to Pregnancy and Childbirth for a first time couple to be..She has You to be with Her,which I think is Great Fear of the unknown is the worst..You can guide Her..Wish Her Luck and good Health for the Baby!

When giving birth to first child, every women get worried. If your advice is not working, get a "3D Ultrasonogram". She will see the movements of her baby in computer screen. This will certainly give her a boost of confidence.

Childbirth is a very natural thing. Nothing to be afraid of. The beauty of giving birth to a child is when you hold that precious little child in your arms everything else leaves your mind. It would be dumb on my part to say there was no pain. For me the pain was not bad at all. I don't even remember what it was like. For when they placed my son in my arms a smile came to my face and a peace in my soul. The first thing that popped in my mind is I am the guardian of this precious child. Mention to your sister that her fears are small considering the little bundle she is carring inside of her. God has her and her little unborn child in the crook of his arm and rocking them both back and forth telling them how much he loves them.

She is probably afraid because people have told her horror stories about their first birth. Relay this story to her and it may allay her fears. The morning of the day I was to give birth to my daughter was the only uncomfortableness I felt during the entire labor. I woke up along with my children's father when he left for school and went to the bathroom. My stomach felt heavy, like a lead weight. I thought that there was nothing wrong, so I did what I had to do, and went back to sleep as it was very early. I rewoke about 10am, and still felt heavy. Again no pain, just heavy. I called the nurse on call at my hospital to find out what this was. She told me that I was probably going into labor, and if I wanted to speed up the process, start walking. If I wanted to slow it down, I had to lay on the bed or couch with my knees under me and my butt in the air. I was tired of being pregnant, so I got my son dressed, dressed myself, and started walking. My plan was to walk around our apartment building, but my stomach was so heavy I could only make it halfway. I went back into my house and made three calls. One to my grandmother to let her know that I was going to the hospital and I needed her to get my son, the second to the school to let my children's father know that it was time, and the third was 911 for the ambulance. When I got to the hospital, it seemed like the doctors and nurses were more worried than I was. I told them that my grandmother, who didn't live far away, was on her way to get my son, but I guess she wasn't coming fast enough for them. He on the other hand, was amazed at all the little machines they had in my room. But finally, my grandma showed up and all was taken care of. I was taken to the delivery room, still no pain. After an hour or so of me watching some premium cable , the nurse came in and asked me did I want to take the epidural now. I was like sure!!! Go ahead and pop that right on in so I don't have to feel anything!!! I had had no pain up until this point, and thanks to the epidural, I didn't have a single labor pain throughout the entire ordeal. About an hour after that, my children's father showed up. He was a little perturbed, because instead of seeing me in pain and writhing, he met a happy woman watching cartoons and eating snacks. He was like "I hope you aren't in here for nothing and we have to go home, I did have a test today." I turned and told him "Don't let my calmness fool you, its happening today. They already stuck me with an epidural, and if you hadn't noticed, this is the delivery room, not the ER!" The only thing that made me mad was the wait for everything to go down. I had been in the delivery room since 11, but I didn't even get checked (besides the epidural) til 6pm. The nurse comes in and tells me to push, I do, and she got excited. "Stop!!! Stop!!!" I look at her like "What?!?" She goes "You could have delivered on that push alone! I am going to get the doctor" I was mad. If I could have delivered then, why did you stop me??? The way the nurse was talking, we thought the doctor would have come right away. It was another hour and forty-five minutes before we saw him! After an hour I was teasing my kids father like. "C'mere, you've seen how this was done the first time, come catch the baby! We don't have to wait on the doctor, you know how to cut the cord, come get the baby so we can get this overwith!!!" He just looked at me like I was crazy, part of me was serious because the doctor was taking way too long!!! But the moral of the story is, each person and each pregnancy is different. Just because you are pregnant doesn't automatically guarantee that it will be a miserable painful experience in labor. If you pay attention to your body, and notice changes, you may be able to catch it early enough not to have any pain at all.

two words- epidural and c-section. if she is afraid, those are her new best friends. i was scared. but by that time i was also ready for it to come. and i wanted it out more than i wanted it to stay in. of course if she is scared and not comfortable with the idea it could complicate things when she does go into labor.

Hi there to your sister! Just tell her that having a child is the greatest gift of God that a man can never experience not unless to use an advance technology. There is no feeling that will ever be compared after giving birth and having your own baby of your own blood and flesh plus the fact that he came from your own body. That's the greatest miracle that God given to women like us! God bless!

Every birth is different. When was young I worked in the nursery at the hospital and I have seen some women come in to give birth that had one good pain and had the baby and others took hours to have theirs. I think the secret to an easier birth is to learn how to relax and work with the contractions. If it is possible She should take some lamaze classes. These classes will teach her a lot about what to expect and how to work with the contractions. If you can't find live classes I'll bet you can get DVDs from the library.

Tell your sister how lucky she is to bear a child. And that she should not be afraid because all her family members and loved ones are there to support her in the process. Also, tell her that bearing a child is not a right. It's a privilege for her to be very proud of.

The more I would think about it the more I didn't want that big baby to come out of me then I didn't want to have a c-section but I ended up having to have one anyway. Tell her to ask for the medication when she starts feeling uncomfortable. The easiest way I could deal with what was going to happen is to educate myself about it I would watch baby story on TLC and Discovery health all the baby shows they had. Try and talk to her more of the out come instead of the pain she will have to go through. Its all worth it.

Hi roniroxas, Tell her not to worry, because this causes stree to the baby. They have all kinds of medication for labor pains. And if she choose to have something before the baby is born she will not feel a thing. Unless she is doing the natural way. I was told the same thing, that since this was my 1st I would have an early delivery. I went full term, I got the saddleblock, which bad then was about the only thing that I knew about. didn't feel anything, With my second baby it was C-section. Do you ever watch ROSEANA? this reminded it me of when Jackie was pregnant, she though that the baby was never going to be born, she asked Roseana, how was a baby so big going to come out from down there. How did she know when she was ready, Roseana told her that when her bellybutton pops out, she is ready. It was a funny sence. but tell your sister not to worry, before she know the baby will be here and she will forget everything. Sister, don't worry everything is going to be A okay. Dont stree, just relax and sleep as much as you can. Let us know how she does and when the baby is born. Good luck to you.

I guess everyone has fears with their first pregnancy and delivery. and sometimes with the second and subsequent ones as well simply because it's been a while and every labour experience can be quite different! personally, the solution to this i think is to read extensively about delivery. then the more knowledge you have the more assured you are about various scenarios and don't feel like it's a big unknown.

Hi roni. How are you? When I was pregnant myself, I was scared. Plus the fact that we all know that giving birth can be a great risk for both mother and baby. What my husband did to help me, was to educate me on every possible steps that I have to go through during childbirth. He explained to me that if I know what's going to happen, then it will help lessen my fears. He works in the medical field so the first thing he did was to have me watch a video of an actual childbirth. That way, I will have an idea what happens during that process. It was scary to watch it at first but he was right. Because after watching it again, it lessened my fears of the unknown. Watching the video and reading on every article related to childbirth, helped me prepare on what I have to face. You can help your sister, not only by giving her advices. But to educate her,the same way my husband helped me. I was still nervous when I was to give birth. But the fear wasn't that so great as before. Because I knew what I had to face. And that gave me comfort. Goodluck and I hope that your sister will have the courage and preparation she will need.

You can just reassure her, but no matter whether she is scared or not that baby is going to come out one way or another.

A bit of hypnotherapy might help.

Well of course pregnancy has its risks but then it will help her go away with it if she could just stay calmed at all times. Getting all that nervous with her condition and everything will just worsen things up. Always bring a happy disposition in life right now since you have a life that depends on you. Be strong for the baby because that is the product of you. Just enjoy your pregnancy and everything will be okay when the time comes.

Hi there! I have simple words for your sister.... don't be scared, everything is worth it when the child comes out! Once she sees her child, she will forget about all the pain she has gone through because she will then focus on the miracle in front of her. . Be strong, I'm sure she will do ust fine. Goodluck and congratulations on the bundle of joy! Happy parenting!

I think I can understand your sister's feelings very well because I was the same in the past. I was so afraid to give birth and I even cried for it some times. I am scared of the pain. I remember at that time my husband asked me any wishes, I told him that I wished men could give birth. Finally I was in the hospital and I didn't feel pain because I had to have the operation. I felt bad after that. I think there is no better choice for a women. It's an experience for women. I have heard that giving birth in the water may less the pain. Perhaps you suggest it to your sister. Besides, I think it's better that her husband will be with him at that time so that she can have support. I love China

good day.. tell her that child bearing and child birth is as old as humanity and they did alright didn't they? I mean child birth is a normal function of any given mothers to be and don't worry your body would help her on her way to it. She needn't be nervous, of course there is pain but that's part of it and with today's medication, it would lessen it a bit for her. With all the stress and anticipation, the trouble is worth her while. A life would join her life, to be love, to grow with her, love her and call her mother, the best gift in this world a woman can have.

[b]I'm a first time mom. I understand how she's feeling right now. She is afraid of giving birth. I'm a first time mom and when i give birth to my son two years ago. I'm really scared. To be honest if you had normal delivery you can really feel the pain, that's the truth there's no avoiding it. The sooner you will prepared yourself for the pain. Much better.[/b]

hi! Your sister is one of the many woman who is afraid in giving birth. It is normal for those woman that are pregnant and about to give birth. You need to be with her always. Comfort her and give her encouragement. Always talk to her and give inspiration.