Marriage Changes Everything
By Bytemi
@Bytemi (1553)
United States
July 21, 2008 10:06am CST
When MYLOT first started I made a post asking whether marriage is just a sheet of paper or does it mean something. I received some very strong views on the subject. No I took the leap and I got remarried and I have another question for my fellow mylotters.
Why does marriage change everything?
Why does the sheet of paper change a relationship?
How can I stop the change?
Any advise would be appreciated.
4 responses
@dextornap (333)
• India
21 Jul 08
The first thing about marriage is that its a bond between two persons, call it a legal or a social proof that you have to be together in all circumstances. Now here comes the compromise part. The second and most important thing is Marriage means compromise. You are not yourself. Living with someone new, backed with all the differences in lifestyle and upbringing, always calls for compromise at one stage or the other. Hence whatever you call it, a sheet of paper or something else, your life and relationship is bound to change with every compromise you make.
This change cannot be stopped, but can be minimised. Before you enter such a relationship, you can have a detailed discussion and make informed decisions about each and every possible steps you gonna take (in general) during your life together. In my opinion, when marriage is a legal document, why can't be the life ahead must be an agreed upon relationship, specifically and solely decided by the two partners, and no one else. This need not be a legal document, but an understanding both can share for a healthy life.
@fmuldowney (139)
• Ireland
21 Jul 08
Being marriage is almost the same as living with a partner. For me it was a matter of sharing everything, which to a independent person, can be not what you want. I like the feeling of freedom, so my own partner feels the same way, so we give as much space to each other as possible. We have no urge to marry, just to fit into society and other family members. I like my own company also, so it is true much changes when you share so much of your own life to another.
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@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
21 Jul 08
My husband and I lived together for 3 years before getting married and honestly we do just about everything together. We commute to work together, we eat dinner together, if one of has to go to the store, we go together. It has always been that way.
However, on the same note he has hobbies that he does without me and I have hobbies that I do without him. I feel like lately something is off and I don't know what it is. It might be all on me, but it does not feel good.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
[b]Marriage changes everything. That is true.
First you must learn to take in to consideration
the feelings and decisions of your husband or
wife. You are no longer a single entity. You
are now joined in a responsibility with other
human being. You can't stop the change unless
you will not get yourself out of the marriage.[/b]
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@rechardson (27)
• China
21 Jul 08
when you get something,you'll lose other things.we get married to make life better,if it doesn't.we have no need to do except marrying for children.
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