Do you an your partner fight about money?

I like to own a Mustang, but with two kids and with gas prices being high, that's just a dream. You should write up a list of pros and cons of the jeep and the same with the van. Then when he comes home, sit him down and show him. Plus explain to him that him taking the van back, only showed the kids, that he didn't value you as a partner in your marriage. If you have boys, he just showed them that as a man, he can do whatever he likes when he's married and his wife will just sit back and let it happen. Same if you have girls, they will expect their husbands to do everything. It probably won't happen, but that makes a good argument with him. I don't think you should keep your mouth shut, but no need to get all upset. The pros for a van would out rank the jeep by miles. I have been looking at a 2nd veh icle for our family as well, the mini vans today aren't really good on gas than the older ones. We had one, when we just had our first. I liked being able to put her in, groceries and other things I needed to haul around. Plus it was really good on gas. With a jeep, it's only good when it's hot and you want to take the top off. Want to go mudding, it stinks on gas mileage. You really don't look all that cool in one during the cold months, when the flap comes lose while going down the free way, and it's obvious that your freezing, .

I think that you should sit him down and tell him that it isn't the fact that you don't have the van anymore, as the fact that he didn't feel that he could come to you to talk to you about it before he simply took it back. Tell him that you are worried, and a little hurt and really confused, and you are wondering what this means for your relationship? (mini van's aren't that wonderful, trust me) Now I am sure I wouldn't fight about it (unless he came home with a Jeep, then I would fight pretty hard) However, I don't think keeping your mouth shut is a good idea, in a relationship silence is not golden....communication is the key! Best of luck to you, I know mini vans are a hard sell to most guys ;)

I have never heard of even being able to bring a vehicle back once you purchase it. That is strange to me. I would talk it over with hubby and give him a list of reasons why you really need the van. We use to argue about money all the time....to the point we almost divorced. Once it got to that, we both learned that we had to compromise and discuss purchases before jumping into them.

I wouldn't say fight it out, but I would definitely talk to him about it, stating the reasons you think it is prudent to keep it. It may turn into a fight, but at least you have said your piece rather than bottling it up and it turning into resentment.

The key to a good marriage is communication. If something bothers you, you have to tell him. Otherwise, when you just keep it to yourself and soon more disappointments arise, you might just get fed up and cause a major fight. So when you do talk to him, don't just rattle on and on. Really talk to your husband. Tell him that you are not angry about his decision but was really hurt by what he did and that it would matter a lot to you if he will consult you with major decisions like that. Ask him nicely for his reason for taking it back. Don't accuse him of wanting a jeep. That would flare up and not really get to discussing your family's needs. Maybe you could discuss again all the options available to you guys (seeing as you really need it), what type of vehicle you like (a van, jeep, suv, etc), and of course its pros and cons.

I wouldn't necessarily say to fight it. I would sit him down and make him listen to your ideas and concerns. It is very hard for some men to understand that a family needs a good sized occupancy vehicle. My fiance and I are talking about getting a van but, at the moment we have a good sized 4 door car which works for us since we only have 3 kids. The only problem with our car is that if we go shopping for groceries or to wal mart we need more carrying room or to get a sitter! I do think you should talk to him about this and point out the reasons why a mini van would be better than a jeep. +

Fighting for money that has never happened in our life. We always discuss and solve our problems well.

We sure do. It is all we fight about all the time. Puts a strain on the relationship and we have broken up over it a lot in the past. I hate to say we seem to currently be going down the same path and I hate it. You would think we would learn better. I do know I am not as quick to bite my tongue this time around. I wait for my TOM and then let him have it.

My boyfriend and I don't fight about money really. We both understand there is a limit to what we make. I think you should talk it out with him and find out why he took it back without telling you.

I would not argue with him but I will try to explain the advantage of having the van than the jeep. what he did is not also right changing the plan without letting you know it? In the first place both of you decide that and then he will just change the plan by himself? Not a good picture. He knows he does something wrong in here. Not good either for you to shut your mouth but you have to explain to him. Not quarreling or whatever but you should come up to one point and that is, what advantageous and good for the family not only for the benefit of one person. good luck.

I would say when you cool down a bit you and him should maybe have a little talk about it . My fiance and me do fight about money . We have had small and big fights . Money can really stress people out Just be sure to show him all the reasons you feel you can afford it and go from there . best of luck

Yeah, my ex and I used to fight about money. It's straining on relationships if you have to fight about something. I think you have to discuss the jeep/van situation til you can work out a compromise for both of you, because if you're both helping to pay for something I think you should get equal weight in deciding what to buy.

with gas prices he may think he can get something that will be easier on gas. i dont know how many kids you have but my daughter has 3 kids and they manage with a camry sedan. which is so easy on gas and has plenty of room. i know, cause its my car and their van sets over here in my drive. lol! to much gas. but, if you wanna battle it out thats your choice. good luck

Yes We Fight ever! 'cause I Want to reserve and she wants to spent! :D No i'm kidding we didnt' figt for money! :D OT : you are at 995! Congrats for your soon 1000. I'm waiting to celebrate my 100! :D

I would talk to him. I think you have figured out that you can afford the van notes. He is thinking of himself and not the family. You are being realistic and practical, while he is not. If he wants a jeep then perhaps he can sell his other vehicle and get one with the procedes from that. Family comes first and sometimes guys need to be reminded of this. If you sit down with him and show him that you can afford it then that may help also let him know that you have to be practical. What is needed is a van a jeep can come after.

Well coming from a man I know my wife would kick my butt if I ever pulled a stunt like that. However we have great communication and if there would have been even the slightest bit of doubt we would never have made the purchase. We dont have to figure out a budget before hand. We know what we can afford before we go shopping for a major purchase. I really think communication broke down some where here. As for arguing, well arguments dont solve a darn thing. I guarantee you will get a lot further by just talking Dale

Wow! I would most definitly fight about that! He is not taking you or the children into consideration here. At the very least he should have spoken to you before returning the van, and he should also trust you when you say you can afford it. I find it to be quite disrespectful, and my husband sure would get an earful, and probably a few nights on the sofa.

You should communicate with him, however I think the fights should have been worked out prior to any purchase. You should have worked out a compromise before even going to a car lot.

I don't think that you should "Fight" it out, however, I DO think that you should show your husband what you planned out in the budget, and talk and discuss your points as to why you need the van over the jeep, and how it will make life easier for the both of you in the long run and everything like that. But, there is no need to be angry and get into a fight over something like a car. A car and money are both very important things for living a busy lifestyle especially with children, but having eachother and your family is the top priority! Good luck to you!

No!!!Fighting for simple reasons will cause problems in ur future..A fathers way of thinking will be completely different from others.....ur husband might be thinking of ur kids future....or me may invest in some other place...And also u should never get convinced for every thing for wot ever he does...u should have ur own respect i ur house...You should act like a family....wen ever u want to argue wid ur hubby u should mix ur feeling n love..so that it will end peacefully n ull get ur work done...so all happy...!!! Enjoy ur family life with out ne fights...