i love my husband... but...
By lovemylyf
@lovemylyf (5)
Philippines
July 22, 2008 3:01am CST
I dont know why im feeling this way. it all started when my exbf started sending me messages and keep on calling me. my husband is not here, he works overseas, the same thing with my ex he's also not here. my ex still not over me and can't get over me.... I really love my husband and as the day go by i think im starting to be tempted to get into a relationship with my ex. and in fact my ex would not mind if he will just be the other guy.... i dunno! at first i was really slapping right on my ex's face how much i love my husband and never will i commit adultery hehehe if that is what it should be called.... but as time goes by i am starting to drift away. my ex is very sweet who doesnt mind if the worls is watching him but as long as he could show me how he loved me will he will do anything. unlike my husband, he's the type of person who will not show sweetness unless he's drunk. i dunno.... but whenever i attempt to show motives to my ex, my conscience started killing me...
6 responses
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
22 Jul 08
Listen to your conscience. STAY AWAY from your ex!!! Think about the people that will get hurt by this. You don't want to kill your marriage~ I can tell this because you say you love your husband.
If you are lonely, go out with a girlfriend.
I'd suggest that you cut off all communication with your ex. If not, he is going to be more and more appealing.
Your husband is working overseas so you can have a great life. Remember he works to provide for you. Don't ruin his life or yours.
Remember...the other mans grass seem greener~ but when you get there, you realize they have the same problems if not more.
@Vidhyarthi (1)
• India
23 Jul 08
In my openion you should love your ex-friend and do what ever you wish untill you Husband return from the Oversea. Your life is Gifted by God to enjoy Kisses, suck, and XXXas it is a need of the human body.
@nanikj (26)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Write down all the reasons that you aren't with your ex. Then write down all the reasons you married your present husband. You need to examine what is on the list and either change your phone number, your e-mail address, or however your ex is getting in touch with you, because bad things ALWAYS start in the mind. Start writing your husband e-mails of how much you love him, and how you can't wait for his return. Fill your MIND with your husband, not your ex! You ex is playing with you and it is giving him much joy that you are letting him do this. He ONLY wants a plaything, that doesn't mean he hasn't gotten over you. Most men who still have a flame burning for their ex wives are too afraid to say anything about it, because USUALLY it is their fault that she isn't with him now. They wouldn't ADMIT to you or anyone else that THEY made a mistake. Does this make any sense? Think about it. Think about your child. Think about your future. Time goes by fast enough. Do you want to raise your child by yourself? I say all of these things because I have been where you are, and I know what you are feeling. Don't let this ex get the best of you!!!!! You are better than he is!!!! He had his chance, didn't he? It's time for you to get on the offensive, not the defensive. Stand up for your man! Would you want your husband to start talking with and flirting with his ex, or another woman? This will never stop at talking, unless YOU stop it! You have the POWER girl! Nanikj
@fluffnflowers (1594)
• United States
22 Jul 08
It sounds like you need to cut the contact with your ex-boyfriend. Even if you're not in a physical relationship with him, there are such things as 'emotional affaires', and it seems like you're headed that way, if not already there. Your ex should respect your marriage and respect your desire to preserve it by leaving you alone when you ask. It sounds like your ex is an ex for a reason, so you need to leave him in your past and stop talking to him!
Good luck. I hope you're able to cut ties with him and prevent your marriage from being compromised.
@lanyoublue2008 (882)
• China
22 Jul 08
You are so pity girl, I have also experience the similar situation ,however, I have no way too, I hope you could be more better than me !
@Anne19 (300)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
You are in a very complicated situation. I hope everything will turn out fine. You have to remember that your ex has been your ex because things didn't work out before. And you have chosen to marry your husband and spend the rest of your life with him, because you believe he is the right one. I believe that those reasons would give you the strength to decide for the welfare of your family. Sometimes we are attracted to the flame, but always remember fire can get you burn. Don't throw a stable and reliable relationship just because you feel a spark with someone whom you're not really sure of.
