How to be a good husband/wife at house?

You can't really be a "good" husband or wife right away. It takes work, effort, time, and commitment. Since you are interested, I will help you out. The way you are talking about a family now isn't the right way, a wife shouldn't be doing all the cooking, the wife and the husband have equal parts. The children should be taught to help the parent in the kitchen prepare the meal and should be shown values & discipline. The family should also enjoy meals together and should talk to each other openly while eating. The husband should make his first priorities his children and wife, not his job. The wife should also give the husband some space if he is tired and vice-versa. There is no condition, just be a warm loving family and use my tips, and you'll have a healthy relationship. Glad I could help.

Don't consider too more about this thing, if you love your husband by heart, you know how to do,you don't need to do really the same as what the other one has done, you only need to know how to express your love is enough which could help you become a good wife!

sabahking- hi. Forgive me for saying this, but you have to think far beyond who will cook and how you will shop. I understand these things are important to you. Make sure your partner knows exactly what you expect of her before you get married. What you want and what your partner wants may not match. In true love, partners find a comprimise. Concentrate on differences in religious beliefs, money values, education and children, to name a few. Marriages have a better chance of working if your views are similar to each other. Cooking is a very small part of a relationship, but it sounds like you want traditional values from you wife. There's nothing wrong with that, or with anything else that's important to you. If you have expectations, let her know. You mentioned you are still a student and I know you will be a different person when you graduate and move onto the next chapter in your life. Enjoy the journey!

if you love who you will get married to then you will do what you think that would make your partnet happy. my wife is a stay at home wife and 24/7 mom. we have a two year old son. but during the times when we dont have a child yet we go to work. so the breakfast is prepared by the two of us. sometimes me and sometimes her. she cooks lunch and dinnner for i dont cook, but i wash the dishes and prepare the table. the work around the house id not kjust for wives it is for husbands as well. now that she no longer work outside the house we still share the chores inside the house. there are no conditions... you just need to talk about it and we should be aware of what our partners need.

As as Christian woman, I follow the word of God in my day to day living in order to achieve what God desires of me as a wife and a mother. My guidelines are found in the Bible (Proverbs 3:10:31): Proverbs 31:10-31 The Virtuous Wife 10 Who[a] can find a virtuous[b] wife? For her worth is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. 13 She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar. 15 She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants. 16 She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. 17 She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms. 18 She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night. 19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle. 20 She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet. 22 She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants. 25 Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come. 26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness. 27 She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: 29 “ Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.” 30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates. Hope you find these useful. God bless you!

Hi sabahking, In a marriage you gave and take and trust each other and not le one person to do all the work in marriage, husbands should also make breakfast and dinner and take care of the children, sometimes it is too much fro the wife o do everything but woman works very hard to bring up children so husbands should help out, and both share. Tamara

When you come together as husband and wife you each bring different personalities. And it doesn't come automatically that you can live together as one in unity. It will take time and learning about each other. The likes and dislikes of each other. It is a learning time when you first get married. It is also a joyful time. Both need to keep the lines of communication open. This is very important to the relationship. If something bothers you about her, or if something about you bothers her it needs to be talked about. Most of the time it's the small things that irritate until it grows until a big thing. Another important thing is to say you love the person which is easy when you first get married. Don't let it fall by the side as the years roll by. It is just as important in the latter years of marriage as it is in the first years of marriage. Another thing is don't let romance fall by the wayside. That is another thing to remember. In the first part of your marriage again this is easy to do but keep the romance going long into your golden years of marriage.

I have been married a number of years and I find that there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to being a good spouse. The norm is for the wife to take care of the house and cooking while the husband goes and makes money. This has changed and very often you find both husband and wife having jobs and making money. Meals are easy to order from the restaurant and if you have a maid who can cook then both spouses can enjoy an extra minute in bed. Cheers!!

I don't like to shop. I love my boyfriend and someday I will be his wife. What about your wife? Doesn't she deserve someone to make her breakfast in the morning? You expect her to be up, prepare your food, take care of the kids, without first feeding her? I do not believe one person should be in charge of the food. Eating is essential to LIFE... You need to be in a relationship, before figuring out what it takes to be a good husband. Different people require and desire, different things. You shouldn't just give people what they want, you should want to make them happy. You do not marry a woman, to get another mother. That is not what a wife is about. A wife is there to be your friend, the person on your team when everyone else is against you, and when you have children, raising them is supposed to be a team goal. Children need their father's in their lives, as incredible and amazing as women are, a child cannot just rely on having their mother, their father needs to take care of them just as well. Expecting your woman to feed you every day, is ridiculous. You are a grown man, and she will feel as if you do not respect her, if you cannot understand why she might need the food just as much as you...

I also still a student and i still not marry yet.But i am interested to know how to be a good wife/husband!!like a good husband i think he should always care his wife and his child, give them time to go to market visited historical places. and also a good wife i think also she should prepare the breakfast for her husband and also dinner. and she should take care her childs.

A lot of efforts are needed to become a good husband or wife in a family. In my opinion,to be a good husband should be someone who is understanding very much about his wife,always know what his wife needs and always care for the wife. A good husband also need to take full responsibility to support the family without any complaints. Whereas,to be a good wife,ones must know how to cook,how to take care of husband and children. A good wife must always make sure her family is well secured and everyone is happy with what she does for the family.

when u grow up you will know!!!You will gradually.Now don't think it.

Thers no right way and no wrong way,if a relationship is a good one then you will both find the right way forward to make it work.There shouldnt be a dominant partner,you should both pull your weight and do things together.

SabahKing, A good Husband should Think Her "Better Half" , Just Pamper her, Once a week ,By taking her out for a dinner or a movie ,Give her Space for thinking about u and ur family, Wife is not only for Making food and taking care of your house, she is for u and u should be for her !! Thats it ! and U will get to know much after getting married ! Best of luck in your life!

If you want to be good Husband --- earn good amount of money, always say yes for shopping, don't fight with wife than you are good husband. Wife --- Just learn to make good food , as it is well said that door to husbands heart is through good food. Always wear good cloths and ready for XXX. that is trick most people use.

well, what exactly does a good husband/wife makes? i am not too sure about this as i am still single. in an ideal situation, what you have mentioned is certainly applicable. however, how many of us can support a family on a single income? this single income has got to give the whole family what they want and bring them shopping. the husband would need to earn at least hundreds of thousands to do that. i don't think many of us can do that right? personally, i believe a good husband/wife is one who loves the spouse. with love, everything is possible. i don't believe in excuses like 'i am too tired' or 'i don't think it'll work'. there is only one reason why relationships / marriages fail. that is - one party didn't love the other party enough. not enough to put up with the snoring. not enough to put in extra hours after work. the rest are just, well, excuses. cheers ;p

Ok, this isn't the ice age. Its modern day. Women are not required to be personal slaves/servants/cooks to their husbands. Maybe the wife will work and the husband will stay home and do those things? Marriage is about compromise, respect and team work. If you expect your partner to wait on you hand and foot - then hire a maid! Otherwise you should share the duties of keeping your home, preparing your meals and raising your children.

For me being a good wife is to be submissive to your husband .cook for him and i also do the laundry but my husband is such a good husband that's why most of the time he help me to do the laundry.arrange his clothes,give the towel to him or his clothes if h need to change that simple things means a lot to a relationship that's what i believe in.And being with him to the difficult times.

I think this differs for each couple individually. For us, being a good husband and wife may differ than so and so down the road. I like to cook and clean. I make all the meals and I don't mind. I'll do our laundry and have it folded and put away before my husband gets home from work. I'll do little things like make him iced tea to take to work with him in the morning or buy him his favorite shampoo when I see he's running out. He caters to me in other ways...rubbing my legs and feet while we're sitting watching TV after dinner...bringing me flowers just because...stopping at the store if I forgot to get something earlier in the day. We make it work. But that doesn't mean what works for us will work for everyone else!

[i]I'm not married but I know how to be a good husband someday. Its simple,try to understand your partner at all times. show your undying love and care. Make things in order at all times. [/i]