At a loss...

I feel so sorry for your friend .Ask her to seek an advocate so that they can move legally because they both have a four year old child.

I'm so sorry for your friend. Her situation is really hard. Why don't she try to ask help from her relatives. Maybe one of them will lend her money. Your being there when she needed you most is enough to let her know that she can always depend on you. Not in financial matters though but emotional support. Cheer up don't be sad you have to be strong for her.

Oh how sad. I was at a loss too, after reading this. Is she not a part of the bank account? Like a joint savings account? Maybe you could just help her to get by. In the meantime, why not seek legal advice on this? Why not call on the guys parents? I'm sure they would want to help, knowing that their grandchild is at stake too. It's so sad that he had to be abusive to think that he was the one who cheated. I've always believed that once a guy hurts a woman, they can do it again anytime so if I were her, I'd get the fastest way out of the relationship. Of course, if I were in her shoes, I'd bring this matter to the courts and I would make sure he would have financial obligation for the child. Not for me but for the child. i hope you're friend, and her child, will be okay soon.

She is in a bad situation but I hope she is learning a very serious lesson here.WHy would she put her money in his bank account??Anyway that is not the issue here.Just try and be there for her and let her know that yo are there to help her in any way other than financially.

This is a sad situation how can he do this to her?. I was in a situation like this where my better half was cheating on me but we never had joined bank accounts thank god. We had a 4 year old at the time he ended up takeing him with him but I do get to see my so when ever he allows me to which isn't very often. I never was abuse by him either thank god. I can only imagine what this poor girl is going through. Her best bet is to get legal advice on what to do about this amybe she can get money from the government I heard they give away free money all the time. They give money for everything you can think of the website is governmentmoney.com I believe. I will double check it to make sure but they can help her. I do wish her the best of luck and let her know that help is out there she just needs to remin calm and look cause she won't be able to do so if she is all in a panic. Let me double check that site for you and I will get back to you.

That's a very devastating situation. The fact that you've been cheated is painful enough, but to receive physical pain from that guy is simple monstrous. I wonder why God made those kind of people. Or maybe it's the devil that made them (LOL).. I think what you should advise your friend is to get a good damn lawyer. She should ask for child support, her money in his bank account and file a case for physical injury. If she doesn't have enough money go to the some women's organization that support women who has been abused, or those who support single mother who is facing tough situation. I wish her well, she's facing a very difficult time in her life. Be there for her, she needs you more than ever.

Your friend is in a very difficult situation now. She should ask some advice from a lawyer. If she has no money to pay for the consultation, she can go to the public attorney's office located usually beside your town's city hall. This is a very serious case and that I know, your friend is in the good side. Justice is at hand for her and her kid.

It could have been much easier if they don't have a son. But as this is the case, I guess the best advice I could give her, through you, is to help her find support for her and their son by letting her parents know. It's a tough decision and I'm fully aware that this is easier said than done. If for example, her parents are also not in a good financial status right now and they could only support her with food and shelter, maybe it will help asking for some of your common friends to help in terms of money. A portion or a small amount will definitely go a long way when combined together. Online or here in the mylot community, all we could offer and give her are prayers and good wishes for her and her son. It's heartbreaking, personally, as a child is affected with all the situations happening around him. I must admit that I'm almost in tears as I read your discussion and while I'm answering to this now. I'm only controlling my emotions as I'm here in the office doing all of this. I fervently hope and pray that she will get over this dilemma the soonest possible time. May the Lord be with her and her son always and may He keep them in His care.

good day. the first thing I think is to get her financial aid. Without money there's only so much you and she can do. From there she can decide to leave together with her son and live somewhere away from that abusive guy.

I'm really sorry for your friend, I think the best you can do now is give her support and ask her to inform both party parents. Because at least the guy parents should know what their son did, and also maybe your friend can get back her share of money from that guy thru his parent. By the way, you didn't mention does your friend got a job ?? if not, you can help her by trying to find her a job, because it's really hard to get by if she don't have income now, especially she has a son to take care of.

Thats really awful to hear that happened in such awful circumstances. They were not married so its going to be rough for her to get any kind of money other than child support. The fact that she has a 4 year old son makes it even worse because shes going to have to find a way to maintain a job and care for her son. The best advice I could give is to tell her to contact a lawyer to see if they can take any kind of legal action (They were together for 7 years and were engaged so that might have SOME merit). All I can suggest for you is to maybe help her take care of the 4 year old while she gets her feet back on the ground. Other than that, I wish the best of luck to you and your friend and hope everything works out.

Who do they have to seperate? At least they share happy life of 7 years. can she live better even the guy give her all the money? He is not completely a devil and his action doesn't means he will give up her and his son. i believe let themseves tackle it. They were deep in love, and perhaps there is still love deep in their heart. Love will tell them how to do and drive the devil away. We are too reasonable to get situation worse, so why not we leave them alone for some weeks. If he will be so cruel to discard the pitiful woman, we know exactly how to help her. But feelings and passion are really one of the most complex thing.