Do you mind if your boyfriend or husband is earning less than you?

If I made more money than my husband but we were ok financially, I would be ok with it. If we were struggling and needed more cash, regardless of who makes more,we both would get part time jobs to make up the difference. I think that when you decide to make a commitment to each other and your family, you choose to contribute what you can, man or woman. It is a partnership that both need to nurish, not only financially but mentally.

I think if you really love someone you will almost accept anything, if you look at things like money and let that make a difference then you don't really love them at all.. when true love is there nothing else matters...

Yes, you need to "support the family" but who says it has to be the man that makes the most? Just because it's been like that traditionally doesn't make it right. Women usually made less because it was thought they were not as capable as men; I'd prefer to be seen as an equal, thank you. So, all things being equal, it should be a 50-50 chance that the woman will make more (of course, that isn't really the case still, since women are still generally paid less than men for the same jobs). Personally, I do earn more than my BF. He works in education and I work in the arts, neither of which is particulary high-paying. But, I've been at my job longer and my BF has changed job a few times, so I have risen higher up the payscale. No shame in that. We both work hard and contribute to the household with more than just money, and I think that is what counts.

Hello , I dont think it matters and i think that too many people out there worry about it . the way i look at it is when you are with someone it is team work , and what is mine is yours . Also, we all do a fair share even if it is not work

i think sometimes money is not everything. have you really really love to someone? i think when you really really love someone, you will be understand but i believe everybody is different

When you take care of yourself and your family it shouldn't matter who makes the most money in the family. I think that is very old fashioned and silly. As long as your man is ok with you being the "bread winner" in the family it definitely should not matter. Currently right now I make a little more than my boyfriend, however with his job there is a lot more room for growth so I figure by this time next year he will have already gotten a promotion and will then be making more than me. If you really feel like you can't be with someone just because they are making less than you, that is insane and you should check your priorities.

It doesn't have to be a bad thing and not every woman has to struggle as there are woman out there that have amazingly good jobs. I earn more than my boyfriend at the moment and when I finish college I will surely earn more than him. Even if he gets his diploma it's the same type of diploma I allready have. I don't see why it should be a bad thing. I do not want to have kids and if we do have kids he wants to be a stay at home dad. Why not? I will be making the most money anyway and I love being at work and doing something for society. A woman can support a family just as easy if she wants to, thing is most woman want to stay at home with their family which I can also understand. Take care .

Love bears all so to me i dont really be sad or angry or put down if my guy is not really earning more than me.I just need him to love me as forever with no change i dont mind the money he earns is less or more i would surely speak to him if the family is not able to face the appropriate needs and ask to plan the family according to our income..

I don't think the size of your paycheck should determine whether or not your love will last. I've been married for 18 years and it is only in the past year that my husband has made as much money as I. It's not something that we've ever had a problem with and he does quite a bit more at home than I do so that pretty much makes it even for me. Money matters are the number one cause of divorce so it's something that needs to be worked out before you take any serious steps. Plan out a budget, stick too it and all will work out.

This is a great question and it is something I am actually dealing with right now. I am not married but my boyfriend lives with me. We are having a lot money issues and it seems to only be stressful on me. I am not sure how to handle the situtaion at all. We have a great relationship otherwise. He makes me laugh, he is kind and he loves me but he can't work and he doesn't help around the house too much either. I have talked to him numerous time about this and he changes for a few days and then it right back to the way it was. When is enough, enough? I really don't know.....

I have been in relationships where the man made less than I did. It didn't bother me as long as he continued working and contributed to the house hold. I don't want him to turn to me to take care of him. Even though he makes less he still should be able to afford his personal needs (entertainment, clothing, grooming supplies, etc.) and contribute something toward household expenses even if it isn't equal to what I can contribute.

As long as the guy was capable of paying his half of the bills and expenses, then I wouldn't care how much he made. Right now, my mom is making more than my father, but that just meant they had to rearrange what each of them handled in the household. They're perfectly happy with that arrangement.

no, it would not be a problem to me if he earned less then me and shouldn't be if you love the person.. money shouldn't even be an issue at all.. Otherwise you be more concerned what his wage salary is before committing? This is the thing i really hate about money, it can course much problems between a couple.. with comparing, lie its some kind of competition, how can that be real love? Id be with a poor man if he loves me and is there for me.. and id want to help him as much as i could.. Love and happiness is not measured by how much money he or you have.. Really, if you think in that way. you wil allow money to come between you and person you are with and that is not good for a healthy happy relationship id be happy right now with someone that cares, respects and loves me.. also fun to be with, energetic and with good sense of humour, i like intelligence too.. And none of that cost money One day he could be earning more then you, then would that be ok?? Well thats my view on this subject hehe.. take care

Hey!!!! My opinion is it doesnt matter as long as you love the guy then nothing will get in the way, rite!!!!!! As long as he earns a good living and provides for you and the family that the main thing!!!!!

Well just like you said most people in a relationship got blinded by love. But I think this topics are not really an issue for women but rather an issue for me since they are the one who is more affected by this. man is considered to be more powerful and authoritative but if being in this situation its there pride that was being punch on. From all the responses I have read most of them doesn't really care so I think its best to ask the guys if they would mind if there girlfriend or wife to be earn more than them?

I think if you're really in love with a guy, then you tailor your monthly expenses to suit his pocket. How do you think the guy would feel if you refused to marry him because his earnings were lower than yours? Most men I know, want to support their family and be the main bread-winner, besides which, if you start a family, then your own earnings cease. So, I feel you have to look at this in a more practical way, and take off your "snobby head". Firstly, find accommodation which is sufficient for your present needs and which isn't too costly. You can build it up into a better home once you're in there, but the important thing is that your partner can afford to pay the rent and bills out of his own earnings. Maybe you could just pay the food bill and save the rest for a rainy day, from your own earnings. Partnerships are all about "sharing" my friend. If you adopt the attitude that the person you "love" earns less than you, so it can't be, then you'll end up lonely. Pull together with him, and you'll find things will work out just fine. Brightest Blessings.

If you ask I clearly say no might be because mine is a love marriage , I am happy with what my husband is earning for our family, infact I am earning more than my husband but my husband not only works but he also takes care of my children equally like a mother and helps me in all of my household work, I am lucky to get him but it depends on situation if he his not helpful even I might have not agreed with his less earnings.

I dont mind ,as long as there is money coming in then thats fine by me,who earns it is immaterial really.The man likes to think of himself as the bread winner,but in this day and age is has no meaning anymore.Sometimes the man cant find work,so its easier for the woman to work,and if the rates of pay are better,well then that fair enough.

if that will happen, i think i will understand as long as i see him trying his best and really works hard for the family. financial aspect in a family really does a lot, and it could ruin or break a relationship if the couple will not try to yield and understand each other. but for me, it will not make a man less if i earn bigger than him. the thing is, i should see him trying to support the family the best that he can, and trying to be responsible for the family.

Even though womans rights activists have fought and fought to have equality in pay with men, i think that deep down, every womans has a bit of old fashion fairy tale desire in them that the man will bring in the bacon and take care of the family. I admit, I enjoy making the same amount (well i think I do) as a guy that does my same job. However, when it all comes down to it, I would like my man to earn more then me. I just wouldn't feel right being the mother, the house cleaner, the cooker, the choufier, AND the money maker.