are all women the same

@sisco100 (2338)
United States
July 23, 2008 11:03pm CST
hears a question for both men and women. i've been in many realationships with different types of weman and in all of them they seem to end the same way. some say its the type tht i pick but i know thts not it, cuz i've been with smart girls, dumb, hot, and less attactive ones, goths, punk rock, hippies, all types and they all ended up to be the same in the end just use me for wht they need and when they find some one better looking or something they just end it and make up these lame excuses for their reasonings. do to all of this it has made me kinda of a woman user, cuz if they can use me for wht i have why cant i do the same. it makes me kinda reluctent to express my feelings when i know there just going to get hurt. are there any woman out there at are trusting and loyal, cuz i've yet to find one or one to prove me wrong. so is there something tht i should look for cuz i'm tired of thinking tht their all the same and tht they shouldnt be trusted. well if u have any opions on this or anything please feel free to post them.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 08
The brief answer to your question is - Yes, all women are more or less same. You will find that all are normal and behave in a similar fashion, barring some exceptions. The basic nature of a woman remains the same everywhere because of their genes and brain. I have also found most of the woman alike.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
24 Jul 08
How can you say this deepak, do you want to say, there is no difference between Indian women and western women....as far as I know, Indian women once fall into relationship, remains faithful till the end specially if she is married.........yes or no??????????????
@snoopy88 (452)
• Australia
24 Jul 08
It's funny how you conclude that all the different type of girls you gone out with are woman user. Where and how did you met them in the first place. Of course, not all women are users, at least I know that I'm not hahahaa Cheers'
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• United States
25 Jul 08
Women tend to always reflect what you give. If you are a player, then they are going to learn to deal with you. If you are a romantic, then they will run that way as well. Treat them right, and they will be there for you. (of course, there are exceptions) Generally though, women want to be understood. Give them what other men do not, and you will get your hearts desire.
@momalisa65 (1971)
• United States
24 Jul 08
No offense, but after reading this, I'm wondering if there is something about your personality, that you are not aware of, but all these different girls are noticing. It would be better to keep improving your own personality, instead of becoming like the people who treated you badly. Those are my thoughts.
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@shilpa_p (198)
• India
24 Jul 08
All women are definitely not the same.What i can understand is that you feel that way because of all the bad experiences.I cannot explain why they may have backed out but just think of them as the wrong people for you.Because people who genuinely care stick around no matter what.I don't blame you for using women.Experiences shape the person you are at any given time so i think its a natural reaction.But there are good women out there.Maybe you need to take it slow.get to know the person really well,become good friends and stuff.That way you add more substance to the relationship-you know.That something extra thats needed in a relationship.Spend loads of time with the person before finally getting serious or anything.You need to wait for the right time.I guess its like theres a specific time and person for you to get lucky so till then keep trying.Don't be dismayed when it doesn't work.Just take it as part of the process of getting a clear picture of what you want,like,expect and are looking for in your lady.That way when you finally meet someone minus all the things that annoy you and good things you'll know for sure what to do.
@shlooper (309)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Not every woman is the same, the same way that men aren't the same, but if they all leave you for the same reason, it has to do with the human instinct, "if you aren't happy where you are find something better" They were unhappy in that relationship for some reason. Some people are users, but many of us aren't. I have been in a relationship for years, and I wouldn't leave him for anything. When they leave, you might try asking them why they were unhappy in your relationship. It might be something wrong with them, or maybe you are dating people you aren't really compatible with?
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@sisco100 (2338)
• United States
24 Jul 08
thts the thing is i ask and i know there reason arent the truth, cuz i'm friends with alot of girls and i have this sence with theres something wrong, and i'm the kinda of guy tht will do anything to make my partner happy, plus they tend to give me the classic reason tht i've hear way to many time to even belive tht its the truth. also after the brake up and i start dating someone else they seem to wana get back with me and they all tell me tht they had it good with me, but they cant ever eplain why they ended it with me
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
we cannot really generalize people. everyone is unique. if you have experienced the same thing with different women that you've met, then i guess, you have not meet the real one yet. but that should not give you the license to hurt other people. you should not allow anybody to destroy your well being. stick on what you believe is right even if people hurt you. for though they could hurt you, still it is your decision whether or not you'll allow them to destroy your belief from what is good from evil.
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• United States
24 Jul 08
You are wrong. Not all women are the same. All women are different. Some are reasonable, some are demanding, some are servants to others, some are emotionally unstable, some are independent... all women are different. I am not like the women in my family. I have a AA Degree, I am an independent thinker, and I do what I want to do, I do not like to follow rules. I know that their are some women out their who do whatever they are told, they do not question anything. There are some women who manage to do everything all at once.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
24 Jul 08
Hello sisco100, Sorry to hear about your bitter experiences with women. If you are serious kind of person and really want to have faithful life partner and make a good family with lots of children and happiness, then I think you should go on world tour....lol........I mean I think you will find someone good in some Asian countries as Asian girls do care for moral value and are still not so advanced in their thinking........Best of luck.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
24 Jul 08
Hi positiveminded, I think you are really positive-minded, and I like your bold answer. First of all I never said Asians were not intelligent, of course they are and that is why they handle the situation wisely. Coming to tolerance by Asian women, so I agree that social obligations are forced on them but not all men are devils....surely some men are really serious in life and they bring happiness in life of women and that is why this world is going on......... do you want to say that every women is harassed by man, no....not all and not always.......all that I wanted to say is that western women changes partners like they change clothes, but Asians women may think twice before taking any decision.......besides it may take another 100 years for Asian women to become financially independent and act so boldly.........have a nice day.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
24 Jul 08
now that is like a wise guy,,,,,,,,,all the best. I am sure you will find someone made for you and only you...
@sisco100 (2338)
• United States
24 Jul 08
so thts wht i hear the in other countries girls are more loyal and faithful to there men. well after i complete school and get a job, i was planning on traveling the world cuz i know there are some countries tht i wana see and maybe i'll find the one for me there.
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@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
Definitely the answer is no! You even answered that in your post that you have been to different kind of girls. If that happens always and if its like a cycle already why don't you try to assess yourself. Maybe by that way you will be able to find the answer why this thing always happen to you.
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@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
24 Jul 08
All woman/people are unique. If you keep having the same experience, you need to take an honest look at yourself. Either you are doing something to attract this type of woman, or your doing something to make them react to you this way. I'm not saying they are right for doing so, but I have learned that we are the ones who bring and attract these people into our lives. Not to get too corny, but if you read the book "The Secret" it makes sense. We attract what we think about. Just because that woman looks different or has different interest, if you allow your mind to think, 'all women are alike...they only want to use me' then that's what they will do. Law of Attraction. I'm not being judgemental, in fact, I'm trying to work on this in my own life. My relationships seem to end the same way. The men end up behaving the same way. But if that's my expectation of them, then it's a self fulfilling prophecy. And I've dated very different types of men. Some older, some younger, some street smart, some college educated, laborers, professionals. Obviously their different, so why does it come to the same conclusion. Must have something to do with me. So I have to end the cycle and I don't believe it is by becoming a b*tch.
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@ebhjboo (121)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Possibly this is because you just haven't found the "one" yet. You will one day and she'll be just as committed to you as you are to her. Just hang in there!
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Well, sisco, it could very well be that you haven't really come across your soul mate yet. I am sure that she is out there somewhere. You will meet somebody who you can enjoy life with. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places. Not all women are the same. I am a woman. I'm different from other women in some respects. You just have to be patient.
@mansig (67)
24 Jul 08
I think all the women are not same as two ifferent people have different identity how can they be same.
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• United States
24 Jul 08
not everyone woman is the same. you just got to find the right. start dating a woman and get to know her before you start a relationship with her. if it wont work out in a relationship then tell her you dont think this will work out. but dont go jump from relationship to relationship. date and get to know someone first. like me i jumped straight into a relationship with my ex bf despite everyone telling me to watch myself with him. when I had money he made me spend it all on him but he wouldnt let me work. when he had money he wouldnt want to spend any on me. he cheated on me constantly so I will find it hard for me when I get into another relationship for me to ever trust a man. we were together for 4 yrs and we have a beautiful son together but that 4 yrs was basically me getting used for anything I had or would come across. If I would have gotten to know him first I would have known how he was. So get to know these women real good. be friends first or date for a lil while.
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@debjit (339)
• India
24 Jul 08
I can't agree with you at any point, although am a man like you. Have you ever looked at yourself properly? I thing the main problem is with you not with those girls you had relations with. You have confessed in your post already that you had so many relationships. Then it's no doubt that you are a kind of relation-hopper. Try to be more trustworthy with your partner, you will recieve the same thing on the other end. One, more thing buddy, befoe drawing any conclusion so fast, you need to be more careful.
@neelygal (1022)
• Bahamas
24 Jul 08
All women are not the same,you just havent found the right one yet.Keep looking and you will find her one day.She will treat you right,love you right and give yo all that you are needing.Good luck with your search.
• Malaysia
24 Jul 08
I'm not agree with you. Everyone different. Different person, different characteristic, different mind. But I think 1 think is same, all women will need something tha make them feel secure.
• China
24 Jul 08
Hi,i think we are all users technically,as we all know the saying:there is no eternal friends but usage! someone wants love from others,someone wants friendship,and someome also wants money from others,so there must be someone who fulfill the needs.In other words,the relationship between humans is paying out and getting in, Think about it seriously please! So take your experience for example,you said that they all wanted to use you more,yes you are right,why they select to be with you at the beginning,it's you have what they need:love?caring?even the money,and no matter what the want from you ,the nature is the same,so maybe that's the reason you have the thought with the girls you dated before,i wanna you get what i said.so just change your mind and seek the one here who is perfect to you!
@klamor20 (242)
• Canada
24 Jul 08
Well one thing you should know is that all women cannot be the same because all men cannot be the same too.So if you have decided to use women you are also joining the bandwagon of people who are the women user. first look at yourself and think about how you have been living your life, the girls you are talking about where have you been picking them up. let me tell you as you are looking for girls who can be good to you there are also women looking for guys who can be good to them. so if you are now bad you may not get a good relationship.
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
Women are not the same. They are different in terms of personality/character. I just wish man that you'll find your match one day. And you might as well say that you're the luckiest man on earth coz you got her.:)