Couples - Compatibility

It is always good to have a partner who is quite different from you. There would be a lot of things to talk, debate on, laugh with. A nice feeling.

He is a male and you are female -the strongest opposite forces in paly- so you are having mutual attraction which always be here to keep you together whatever be the other traits behave like,LOL.So far bathing and showering are concerned, there is no problem, because you do your part at different points of time. But we, my wie and myself have seldom noticed having stark opposites like you two have. Of course, we will have to delve on the matter more observantly .

ha..ha..We too fall in the same category. We both have different likes. He is from a big family. So he likes to have small get togethers very often. But I like more timings to be spent with my own family rather than gettogethers. He likes to watch action movies. But I hate these movies. I like romantic movies. He wants to watch TV or listen to music with a high volume. But I don't like to increase the volume. These are just a few titbits...The list won't end if I go on write. But still you know, life is all about understanding and adjustment..Only then life will be smooth. And we both like the small arguments and fights.And to be frank they add spice to the relationship. I think life would be much boring if we get a partner who has the same likes and dislikes. Life may become mechanical. It is not that partners who have different likes and dislikes have less compatability..It means that they have more fun and enjoyment adjusting to each other.

Hi, I also agree with you. I don't believe in that not until I met my husband. We're also exactly opposite. I am a type of person that easily annoyed unlike him. I only noticed those differences when we're married but I think its good for us since it gives spice to our relationship. Now I believe that tow different people makes sense. :)

i haven't married :) but me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a month now. we're too opposite. every time we talked, we can't meet half way because he's from the field of medicine and i belong to humanities. we quarrel sometimes but we see to eat that we compromise on things. giving up is not the solution, you just learn to compromise things. :)

My husband and I are opposites. I have known this from the first time I met him. He is very out going and up for almost anything. He never meets a stranger. I, on the other hand, am a bit more reserved. It takes a while for me to come out of my shell around new people. He would rather hire someone to do some things...putting furniture together, installing sound equipment, setting up the computer, that sort of thing. I would rather do it myself. When I have free time, I want to spend it at home. He wants to be out and about, even if it is just going to Wal-Mart to watch the people. These are just minor differences. We have had many arguments, many discussions and many laughs and tears together. Some of the troubles we have had together would, and have, torn others apart. We deal with them by being friends first and foremost. Most of us wouldn't dump a friend over some of the things we dump our spouses for, would we? Anyway, being friends has kept us together for 30 years.

I think being opposites is a good thing in that why would I want someone who is just like me lol...and it is also fun doing the things that your other half enjoy together, to me it helps to build and bond the relationship since the other party knows that you value their hobbies and passion enough to want to share in it at times with them even if you're just a spectator cheering them on with your support and encouragement.

Although there may be some truth to the "opposites attract" saying, I believe it's best to think more on the same wavelength. Thinking more alike brings less conflict and disagreement. Also, there is more understanding between people who were raised in similar environments and families. That is not to say that if you were raised differently, you can't have a healthy relationship. It's just that it's a little easier if you aren't disagreeing on every little thing. I believe that marrying someone from a similar background just makes a relationship a little bit easier. Great discussion, momiecat.

I have been married almost 18 years and my husband is my exact opposite in many areas. Like you, I find this annoying sometimes also. However, in my house I am the one that likes the cold and my husband likes it warmer. We also usually vote for opposites, this has brought on many "good-natured" arguements. So, as with everything, there are good and bad points.

Hey Mommie cat :) yes opposites do attract.. me and huuby are soo diffrent .. he likes to watch TV I don't.. he loves sports I don't.. I love it cold he likes it warm. I always have to be moving he always needs to relax .. I guess thats why we love each other so .. if we were exactly the same I think we would be realll boaring .. the only real thing we have in common is we both smoke and we both love going to the gym ..:) Hugs

Hello momiecat, Do opposites attract? Maybe! I hear this often, but I believe it is an overrated cliche. Do people, who are very similar repel each other? Yes and no! I never hear people discuss this, but I have experience of dealing with people I find attractive, but who can be just as headstrong as me. This creates a friction, which builds up like an electric charge until we fight with each other. Even after months apart, we find that our friendship is deeper than we both thought. I think relationships are very complicated and are always capable of surprising us! All the best. Umart

what is more interesting is the diversity think if everyone thought so equal, we would have probably had built a world of impeccable the presumption of obtaining anything without respecting the desire of others conport a problem of coexistence we say that no claim is brought up to do things that others do not like but this is problem common I personally consider it a defect,I will Council fit in each case to the temperature otherwise you should go and live in an island.

My husband and i have alot of things in common.We dream,we have the same goals and purpose in life.We both have kind heart and helpful but there are also things that we view differently and we have different likes and dislikes also.He hate shopping and i do really love it.He is very simple and i am not.He like unsweetened ice tea and i like sweet,things like that.But we tried to compromise things and we get along well with each other.Its because we love each other and willing to understand whatever differences we have.

Well, there will always be differences...after all he IS a man and how can we expect them to think like us! :) I guess it depends on what areas are opposites. My hubby and I do disagree on temperatures, shower vs bath, etc, but none of those are important issues. The important thing is that you think alike in the areas of great importance such as faith, family, moral values, etc.

opposites may attract. but it may be in case of gender only. when you are to live your life, you have to be similar in some ways for the relationship to work. if you are different, then at points you will be having conflicts.

hi momiecat. I think that your partner can attract you in 2 ways. First of all - if he is your opposite. And second way is when he is just like you, and you have always consider yourself as quite weird or untypical, that you are fascinated with someone like you. My boyfriend is quite opposite to me. And I like it. But there is few things where I would like him to be just like me. I don't watch TV and I completely don't lie, even small lies are not welcome;). He would be perfect if he would be just like me - no TV and no lies. But he is almost perfect hehe and it's enough. He watch TV but he also enjoy reeding books, goin to a cinema or to a art gallery, so he isn't that bad LOL. And he is not a lier when it comes to serious topics, but he is able to say a little white lie;). My boyfriend is shy, and I am not. And I like it . He has different interests, he knows more about history, and I know more about bilogy for example. and this is also good, because we can share our knowledge and views and we have always something interesting to talk about. I think that a man who is completely different that I am wouldn't be so attractive for me. My boyfriend is not career oriented, and I am the same. We both put much attention to our health and to have some rest. It is something important for me and I think I wouldn't be able to be with someone who has very different philosophy of life that I have. Have a nice day, jazgottt.

My husband and I are opposites in many ways also. He is always wanting to watch the same movies over and over again and always horror movies. I like horror sometimes but I prefer comedies. Sometimes he will compromise and sometimes I just watch the other tv or read a magazine. We used to sleep on a water bed and I liked it because of the heat, I do not like to be cold at night but do not like it hot either. I like lots of covers to burrow in and he does not so I put an extra blanket over my side of the bed. e likes to always stay home and I like to go places sometimes to get away from the house. If he is feeling lazy to stay home and I am not I will go visit a relative or go browsing at the Goodwill and such or go for a walk. Marriage is about compromise and we all compromose to some degree even if we are not opposites. We focus on the many things we have in common so that the opposite things really do not matter. They just keep things spicey.

What do you think makes you stay with your partner that you know for sure that you're different? IN relationship two opposites never attract,they might attract and later seprate. But what overcomes all these differences is LOve ,the reason why you want to stay with him despite the fact that you're two opposites is LOVE,it overcomes all!

After marriage only we come to know the reality of the opposite attract. We used to understand each other. Early stage of marriage there were great difficulty in managing the adjustments. Later on it reduced and we used to adjust.

So I guess I am not alone in this matter I also seen that way in my Husband and I like he like to drink a lot of hot drinks and I also like to drink a Icy cold drinks and he also like to open the aircondition everytime and I am also opposite of that so I guess opposite attraction stay together like the electricity it must be negative and postive....