Friendship on internet

Thanks a lot for your response. Its nice to know about your BOF. I too have one. Hope your closenesss does not fade.

Same to you my dear friend. HUGZ!

We have to be very careful about how much information we give to these e-friends. Just a few hours after posting this discussion there was a news on television about how one person was being blackmailed with some information given to an e-friend. Such incidences frighten us.

Very Thought full of u deepak Takwe care

I too go ahead according to my intution. But then sometimes one could go wrong. I interact with a lot of friends thru emails and that is the only way I can get to know them better.

Mayka, your intution or accessment may go wrong in case of one or two people, but not all.

I think if you look around you will surely find some nice people around. You have to use your judgement to see who is good and bad.

awwww.... Moneymint... you're just not looking at the right places... I'm not talking Match.com or anything... just different communities. There is this game site I play on where I met a few friends, Myspace is another place to find people who have similar interests as you, and I'm hoping to find out that MyLot is the same! You just need to keep your eyes open!

yha your ryt.^^, hu knows what will happen if both of you will be close to each othe nah^^

I too would think that falling in love with someone whom you have not met would be dangerous. But a lot of mylotters seem to have met their husbands or wives thru the net. But in the first place it is difficult to decide whether to trust them or not.

omg! a lot of them?? whoa.. hihi, hmm.. yha.. its really dangerous to give someone trust that you haven't met personally but dont just think negatively maybe she has the personality that you can do really trust her^^

I think if you continue taking part in discussions you will improve your English a lot. Thanks a lot for your response and happy posting.

I met my best and closest friend online three years ago. I believe that we can develop a deep affection for friends. He is kind and trustworty, always very polite. If he is not a real friend he would not have spent 3 years being so polite and sincere talking about literature,nature and life. I admire his soul very much and this is a pure and worthy friendship from which we both learnt so much. As for love, I'm only 17 now so it seems a little far away. I do want tmeet him in the future. But he is in North America, so far away that I'm not sure about that.

The only problem is that too many friends is a trouble. If you have too many online friends you won't have enough time or energy for each of them. So at last it seems that you know none of them. I prefer to only have one or two online friends, and give my trust and time to them and I hopefully will make a friend for life. And we have a lot of things to do in life, not just friends. Friends motivate us to make better use of our life and the better life brings us nearer to our friends. Just that peaceful feeling is the most beautiful.

Yes all of us have secrets that we would not like to share with everyone. I think we should just use our judgement in deciding how much to trust these online friends.

You do not fall in love with the words on the computer but I think it would be the person who has written the words. Even though there is no face to face intereaction but still a lot of words are exchanged over the net.

Hey great to know you are falling in love with a guy you met online. Which site did u meet him? Mylot or somewhere else?

Well I would not try to get one. Am happy the way I am just now. Thanks a lot for your response and happy posting.

I think for many it is easy to share and be open on the internet but very difficult to be friendly the same way when they meet face to face. Or else they have pictured a completely different picture of themself that they are now reluctant to meet the person. I have made a lot of online friends but I am not too sure if I would be comfortable meeting them face to face. It is not because I have told them any lies about myself but its just that I am not that friendly and open in my daily life as I am able to talk to people on the net.

Hi again mayka, It shows how complex humans are in their relationships, if they can accept a person online, but that there are visual or physical barriers there. An online relationship somehow does not seem complete without meeting, but then again meeting physically does complicate communication. If people are honest with each other online, then there is a direct line of communication. I look forward to meeting the first of my XING contacts. I started there 2 years ago. Have a good weekend. Umart

Its good you do not have many secrets in your life or else life does get a lot complicated. Hope you manage to travel and meet your online friends one day.

There are people who bare their souls and give away their hears on the net.

Its good to know that you trust everyone. Thanks a lot for your response and happy posting.

I agree that one should not share secrets with online friends. But online friendships last longer because there are no fights. Unless there are online fights which would be rare.

Fights are either 'rare' or their are 'none', they cannot be both. As for my experiences, it just seems you haven't been on the internet enough. Which is probably a good thing, because that means you have a life. Trust me, friends can have fights online, I have seen some ugly ones, and I myself had a major one with a friend of three years. We haven't spoken in 1.5 years, basically he got a new friend, the new friend didn't like me. He told me that he didn't like me, I said his new friend should have told me this and not talk to me through him. He also caught the WoW virus and turned the room which was about another topic into a WoW chatroom. As nerdy as I am seeing all these "4 sgth 4 stem lther blt"s and other such linguistically shorthands is frustrating when you're not 'in'. They might as well have both spoke Greek (the room only had us 3, so it was like they were speaking in a language I couldn't understand just for jest. They could have took it to IM.) I could have overreacted when I complained about the WoWspam, eventually things escalated until I was kicked out of the little room. After a bunch of nonsense following, a week of attempting to patch things up which only made them worse, it was not worth my energy. So, my guess is that you're still new to online relationships, they can fail just as IRL ones can.

thats a view i agree. it is good to have friends with whom we can share. but lets not forget that these are people who are not in front of our eyes. just because we send a few mails or just because we chat with them, we can't tend to get carried away and start giving personal information. there are chancs that these can be misused. internet is a great revolution in bringing people and cultures togather. but lets be a bit cautious and make it a better place or else it may turn into a bitter place.

http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1246450.aspx link of my post for u

Yeah i know u have replied their Well i TOLD u FRIEND is FRIEND and i believe its not one to decide to draw boundries, With Time Relation grows and expand and it sets its own limitation, rules and boundries their is no set criteria for that, so Let TIME and LOYAKLITY define it Take care

Yes I think I too had posted a reply to that discussion. But that does not give a reply to my question - that is how much attachment and affection should be there for such online friends ..... and where should the boundry line be put for such friends.

Thanks a lot for your response. Great to hear about your boyfriend. Did he turn out to be everything you imagined him to be after your online conversations? Or were there some lies told?

In the basement? And why was that dear?

His personality was almost exactly like i thought it would be...it didn't stray too far off of how he is online. The online thing i can remember being surprised about was...he omitted telling me that he was living in his parents basement at the time until after i had met him.

Trust is rare but sometimes you do meet someone whom you feel you can trust.

But if the online friend is in some other country? How do they meet?

There are instances that people from other country meet each other and settle for the whole life. It all depends on the word trust- but it is rare.

I too would very much like to agree with what u are saying. But sometimes we hear scary stories in the news thats frightening.

Yes I agree with you that we should teach the kids not to give out personal information. And congratulations on completing 1000 posts.

Yes, I do think we have to be very, very careful. And make sure our children are, especially. We should certainly never give out home addresses or phone details.

Your ideas seem to be quite interesting. I think the idea of blocking or ignoring the person if he/she gets difficult is nice. Thanks a lot for your reply and happy posting.