are you married to your job?
By @mayka123
@mayka123 (16605)
India
July 28, 2008 3:48am CST
Your boss loves you and saying NO to any work given to you is never an option.
Skipping lunch, rushing through dinner, cheating yourself out of hours of sleep has become part of your daily schedule. You miss parties and family functions without batting an eyelid. And always give the same excuse "I'VE GOT WORK".
But beware - This is not a sign of a devoted worker but that of a workaholic whose single minded focus negatively impacts other areas of our life like family, health, liesure and friends.
Signs of workaholism are - you are too tired, irritable, socially isolated, may suffer from headaches, insomnia, shortness of breath, racing heart, muscle tension, ulcers
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19 responses
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 Jul 08
Good advice and some useful thoughts by you by workaholic.
I do not fall into this category. I try my best to dispose of my work, as soon as it is assigned to me. I do not believe in keeping anything pending with me, irrespective of the fact,whether it is important or otherwise. I do value my social liabilities and relations very much and I do attend social gatherings and do not forget to wish birthdays and anniversaries to my near and dear ones.
I do not fall into this category. I try my best to dispose of my work, as soon as it is assigned to me. I do not believe in keeping anything pending with me, irrespective of the fact,whether it is important or otherwise. I do value my social liabilities and relations very much and I do attend social gatherings and do not forget to wish birthdays and anniversaries to my near and dear ones.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 Jul 08
I also do not say 'No' to my boss, if he wants me to execute any task at an odd hour, but this does not happen, quite often.
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
28 Jul 08
Hmmmmm
what a definiation
when i joined Job, and in textiles export and in Marketing
i was like that, rather more like that
12-14 hours daily work. and will u believe in dreams i was despatching and checking samples
then i said to myself, what am i doing, then i control it, but it never means i miss my targets
Take care
Take care
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
i don't think so... as much as i love my job, i don't want to be married to it... i want to have life... i want my social life, my family life and my health... it is much more important than my job and money... so i don't think i will ever want to trade my life for money... take care and have a nice day...
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I am an independent contractor. I get to work from home. So no, I am only married to my hubby. I am lucky and I know it. I think it is healthier.
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@gabbana (1815)
• China
29 Jul 08
Yes, i am. nearly all my time is spent on working except very few hours sleeping and surtfing the internet. My boss neednot to press me to work, i'd love to, keep myself busy ,so that i have no time to bore and reward myself on off days buying lots of stuff, working happily and spending money gaily.
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@onlinetomakemoney (605)
• Australia
31 Aug 08
I would say if your like this then you need to seek help and fast. There is so much life to enjoy. Why would you want to miss a minute of it.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
4 Mar 09
[i]Hi mayka,
When I was working, I really really love my job and enjoy the company of my office mates but I am not that devoted to my work, after work, I always find time for recreation....Every Friday, I have a night out with friends to release stress and enjoy life! LOL!
SO, I would say in the past 3 jobs I had, I was never married to those but I would say, I was a great employee![/i]
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
28 Jul 08
i'm definitely not married to my job. i do whatever work my boss gives me but i'll not miss functions because of work. my boss is quite understanding about it as well so there will never be too much work. i treasure my family much more than my job. to me, i can always find another job but i'll never have another family. i believe that a job is something that pays the bills. i get my satisfaction and happiness from my family. cheers ;p
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
28 Jul 08
i was my own boss soi ushed ny self even harder. all those things you mentioned tho i did. i am now paying for it w/bad health. stop & smell the roses. i was a hairdresser & all those people i accodated for 48 years don't even know i exist anymore since i can't do their hair anymore. i hear from 2 or 3 on a regular basis but that's it.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
28 Jul 08
i know what you mean. i had to raise 2 sons by nmylseh. of course they were my first priority but u have to work har to do that. hope things are comfortable for u now.
@MaeTsuen (257)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
o.0 i am making sure that i will not to get that stage. my hubby is my priority... i always make sure that i will leave our shop at this time so i cant go home and have lunch with him and then have coffee afterwards. he is always 1st in my list.
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@ruby222 (4847)
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30 Jul 08
No imn ot married to my job,to me my family come first and everything else takes a second place.IT is all very well to be obssessed with you place of work,but no one is indipensible,and we can all be easily replaced, but if we burn ourselves out then there is no one to replace us within the family unit.So work would take a dsecond place to my family any day
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I work for my husband for 18 years now. In the beginning I used to sleep with the business phone by my bed so that I wouldn't miss a call. Yes I was always working. We always talked business and I never seemed to leave the job. After some years it started to catch up to me. I learned how to "turn it off" in my mind. I would refuse to talk work after a certain time. At first it took that dedication to get the company going. When I realized we were ok and I didn't need to eat, sleep, and breathe work, self control was the answer to my workaholic state!
