How do you maintain your cool?

Though I am a short tempered person, still I cool down very quickly. I cools down by listening to music,or discussing with my family or friends with any other amusing topics,and hence distracting myself from the provocative discussion which had heated me up.

I am usually pretty calm tempered. When I am in a situation that I feel unfortable in, I usually keep quiet or leave. If I am working and a co-worker is bothering me, I usually say I have to do something (make coffee, ect.) I usually try to get away from the situation if I can so that I can calm down. If I can't leave then I usually try to think about something that makes me happy (like my pets.) Sometimes it is very hard to maintain your demenour especially when someone is downright rude, but I usually try to make it seem like it isn't bothering me, because that's what really gets to people. Then I let it all out by excerise or something fun to cheer me up. Have a wonderful night!

Not easy Dpk, Certainly not easy. There was a time ,my colleagues used to hesitate bringing up any problems with me, as I would take off and say something really nasty.However, I slowly realised the damage it was doing to me. I've tried various ways , counting numbers, singing songs in my head, smiling, basically anything that get my mind off the subject. Now, I've learnt in a small way to switch myself, keep my mind blank. That certainly has been helping.

I'm not easily having a bad temper I need to control, but if something happens that does get me agitated I try to focus on my breathing and put my feet firm on the ground. I will tell people what agitates me and try to talk about it to make the bad feeling or unpleasent circumstances go away, if at all possible. If I would feel like losing it or like crying I would step away from the situation for a couple of minutes to get myself at ease and then come back, but this hardly ever happens.

That's a difficult question for I am the kind of person who could be extremely cool at times and equally enraged some other time. Its difficult with deal with the latter. I try to confine myself initially and and then once I cool down I let go. I feel, letting go is the only way I can come back to normalcy. Its tough though. Sometimes,I resort to fun movies, games, sudoku.......and other things which give instant happiness. Thanks.

Hi deepak i am not that calm and cool all the time some times i rweally lost control. at office i may end up shouting at people responsible and at home i try to keep quiet and leave that place The best way is to distract my mind from current situation Take care

I'm a very short tempered person though the only place I really show it out is at home. Outside the home I am able to maintain my composure even when I am very angry inside. But most often I know that it can be made out on my face that I am unhappy though I am not showing the anger in other ways. Just two days back I had an incident at the school where I was very surprised at the way I reacted...very calmly and under normal circumstances the situation would have created a lot of anger inside me....but this time I didn't even feel angry inside and was able to stick to the topic without feeling angry. Having been through that situation, I think not judging and just sticking to facts and what I knew helped me to maintain my calm. Even when the situation was going off track and people were trying to trigger my anger, I refused to be pulled into it and said I will not comment on it and let us stick to the topic. I didn't even let the comment affect me because I put it out of my mind at once. Honestly, I'm still trying to find out the exact reason for my being calm so that I can do it again in a similar situation:)

The best way for me to keep my cool is to remember that I am in control of my own emotions, and if I REACT to something annoying, by losing my temper, I'm only letting that person and/or that situation control me, and I am way too stubborn to be controlled by anyone or anything.

[i]Hi dpk, I am not very good in controlling temper! LOL! I will express myself right away but when there are guest in the house, I will wait or ask anyone who makes me mad to follow me in the room so we can talk about it! Same if I am in public! At work, I always talk back to anyone in a professional manner just to express my side! But, there are cases, where I will just take a deep breath and count 1- whatever to make me cool down! LOL![/i]

I don't know but as long as somebody isn't actually insulting me (or someone I care about) I can usually be pretty calm and rational about almost anything. Once it gets personal though, I have a much harder time keeping cool. No point in losing it with somebody who's dealing with a situation that's not their fault (like a flight delay) but if they get nasty that's where I can lose it.

I'm generally a very calm person. I lose my cool very rarely, and when I do, I attempt to leave the situation so I can try to calm down and gather my thoughts so I can voice them out the way I want to, rather than go into an outburst of incessant swearing and/or shouting. If said situation gets out of hand though, and I can't get away from it and the person does keep egging me on, I will just blow up in a swear storm... heh, thus why I try to get away when it really starts bothering me.

I am a very even tempered person,and it would take an awful lot to make me lose my emper,but I do belive that many could benefit by going to anger management courses,it certainly could help some who I know,lol and maybe throw in a yoga class or a pilates class for good measure,the more relaxed you become,the more likely you are to be able to hold your temper.

im sometimes a short tempered person. when im already about to really get mad i try to control myself by being concious to my surroundings. like when i get mad in front of a lot of people i could still think a little bit and realize that its not a good idea to blow up in front of a lot of people bec. i would be the one to be put to shame. at home though and not a lot of people are there i do my best by listening to soft music, not talk to people and be alone for a moment till i come down. but when im about to be angry or am already angry i think it would be seen in my face. im not the type who wants to hide emotions. id rather show it out there for transparency. hehehe...

What really bothers me, if people keep on asking personal questions especially when you just met them. Yeah sure, Asians are relational. But come on? Personal questions...so what I do, I keep in mind that there are a lot things to reconsider before wasting my time and my emotions on some, you know, useless things. If I know it's not worth my time...I'll just smile...smile helps...or just answer back with your broad smile "why do you wanna know?"

Hello, my friend :) It's usually quite difficult for me to loose my temper. I might get irritated at something, or upset at something but rarely to the point that I loose my temper. But this is how I always was, so I am not sure what is the best way to control one's temper. I tend to take things in stride, analyze them, and think before I talk. I prefer not to waste energy in getting mad, because I use that energy to find a solution. And I hate to waste time with problems that have no solution. But this is not a technique, that's who I am. Sure, that have been times that I have hit the roof - not many thankfully - and in those times, I preferred to distance myself so I could think or so I could calm down in order talk about it in a more logical way. There's no point in talking in anger, mostly because it's hard to make sense when one is really angry, because when people are angry they tend not to focus on the problem, and because if we're angry with someone that person is probably angry too and both will be defensive, not listening to what is said but just thinking on how to respond.

I am a very transparent person. I'm not good in hiding what I feel. If you see my frowning, crying, laughing or raging mad, that's really how I feel. But even though most of the time what you see is what you get in me, I can control my temper, well, sometimes. When I know that there's really no need for me to burst out, I just step out of the room, take deep breaths and stay alone for a couple of minutes until I'm good already. But most of the time, I admit I can yell and get annoyed easily. I can always lose my cool any time something unpleasant happens. There was this moment last week, my 2 guy friends and I planned to have lunch in the outlet near our university. We set up 12 noon meeting time. Being the punctual girl that I am and knowing those 2 guys for being late most of the time, I left the house at 11:30 AM and decided to commute instead of taking the cab. Commuting usually takes about 45 minutes to 1 hour from our house to our school. Surprisingly there was no traffic and I arrived at the place at 12:15 PM. One of the 2 guys said he was on his way already and then the other one is just about to leave the house. It's 12:15 PM already! So you know what happened, we ate lunch at past 1 PM. It's not about the late lunch, it was about them being so late and me being on time. I really got so furious I didn't talk to them for minutes. And I told them in a half joke half serious way that next time we're going to meet, when we say 12 NN, I'll leave the house at 1 PM to be RIGHT ON TIME for them. After that, I'm okay again. I can be really crazy at times.

I'm a very short tempered person these days, I don't really know why. Maybe the weather and the circumstances got the best of me. Anyhow, to maintain my cool, I usually just try to concentrate into not reacting too fast. I usually go to sleep if things aren't how I want them to be. Sadly, the person who I always rant into is my boyfriend. I know he's got a lot of things too in his mind, and he has a problem of his own, but I can't help it. I do apologize to him and try to make it up to him. But something, I just know I hurt him with my words. But now a days, I really try hard, and he is so supportive and understanding that's why I love him so. So, that's it, I usually sleep and drink cold water. To maintain my cool. Specially now that the weather is truly hot these days. =)

I try to stay in control of the situation before my anger gets out of control. If I'm at work and I have one of those customers on the phone insisting on having an argument, I usually just put the phone down so I don't have to listen to the rant and pick it up every now and then and agree. Once the caller finishes venting, they usually calm down and want to be helped, I can still help them without being angry. In person, depending on the situation, I try to take deep breaths and clear my mind. I'll pretend I'm on a beach with a cool drink in hand and that makes me smile which really confuses the other person. It also keeps me from opening my mouth (and sticking my foot in it)and it gives me a chance to think about my response. Smiling disrupts the rant as the other tries to figure out what the heck you're smiling about! Have a great happy day!

LOL! Wow, this one is a difficult one for me to answer since I do have a bit of a temper and, I sometimes don't keep it under control. But, it sort of depends on certain factors for me as to how well I will be able to control my temper. One is my cycle. When I am premenstrual, I can't usually control my emotions and my temper. But, if I realize why I am so prone to a rage then, I can do my best to just remind myself that if my hormones weren't misfiring all over the place, I wouldn't be so aggravated and so easily ticked off and ready to pounce. Another time I am more prone to lose my temper is when I haven't been sleeping well. That one is harder for me to remind myself of but, I try to keep it in mind when I have a moment where I am about to fly off the handle over something stupid. So, basically it is just all about me having to remind myself that I am only handling things the wrong way because I am hormonal or tired. But, sometimes I just need to get it out and off my chest and I just allow myself a little bit of a temper tantrum. LOL!

If I can get out of the environment where I am about to burst, I will. If it's in the office, then I'll try to just go out of the building or something. If I can't do that then I just go to an area where there are windows or an area where there's a balcony and just try to breathe fresh air. It helps if I avoid the person for a bit, just to help me calm down. Listening to music also helps, I usually listen to loud and noisy songs when I'm angry, I think because I can relate it with how I'm feeling. And also, shopping is a good therapy for me albeit a very expensive one. If all else fails though, and especially when I'm at home, I just put a pillow on my face and shout as loud and as long as I can. Other times when I can't seem to scream, I just burst out crying -- but only when I'm alone..