Is it OK to call your lover only 3 times per week?

i can understand your situation from my experience.its good if you can be together most of the time but if its not possible then at least you are giving a try.

..for me, its ok.. what is important is the assurance you've given to your partner that no matter what happens, no matter if you can't be together all the time, your love will remain.. it is important also that trust is established in a relationship.. of course, you have to dismiss bad accusations and suspicions when one doesn't reply to your messages or when you can't be together.. remember that both of you are busy..

I think if you cannot call your lover frequently, it should not effect your relationship. The mutual trust, belief and understanding are the important aspects, which matters in a long distance relationship. If you both have mutual understanding and fair amount of trust on each other, I think your relationship will go a long way and it will be a healthy relationship, even if you call your lover only three times in a week.

I once had a long distance affair. And we set the days to call each other so as not to disturb to one's other duties, etc. It all depends on your agreement. That, for me, is totally negotiable. Well, it would be better if you call more than 3 times a week.

There is never a set amount of times you HAVE to call your significant other. Although it would be nice to hear from your loved one every day, some times it just isn't possible. If both people are totally commited and its an adult relationship then there shouldn't be any problems. I don't know anyone who doesn't run out of hours in their day....and some times, that little phone call just isn't at the top of a priority list. As long as you have talked to each other and both know that there is an open line of communication and that the days between calls doesn't mean anything negative then its fine....Otherwise you might have a control freak on your hands and thats just a whole big headache that I would suggest you rid yourself of because what I've learned from experience is that those people can cause more stress and pain in your life than they are worth.

If you really love each other,you don't have to be together every minute. I mean,really love. My wife and I didn't work at a same city for six years,and in those years we could only see each other twice a year. And we didn't call each other every night,either.

I would say considering the circumstances, three times a week is fine. It is better than once a week or once a month. I am sure that your lover understands and you understand that both of you are busy. You do not need to call each other every night. It does not mean that you are ignoring each other.

If you both are happy with only calling each other three times a week, than it is OK. Like you said, it might not be ideal, but when is love really ideal. If you make it work, that's all that matters. Have a nice day

Hi Yes I think it is ok, my daughter has been in a long distance relationship for nearly six years and sometimes they will cal every day and others because of their hectic lifestyles it may be a few texts and a couple of calls. As long as their is complete trust in the relationship I don't think it matters the amount of calls rather than the quality and sentiment behind them. Ellie :D

Hi koharukusumi..I have a long distance relationship just like yours, sometimes we only text once a week but he has a horse breaking yaed and is always busy..we see each other as often as we can I trust him implicitly and sometimes all I text him is a kiss then he returns it a while later..or just a few words then other times its a normal text we spesk as often as we can sometimes though it maybe only once a week-the main thing is he trusts me there is communication and we are there for each other and love each other-love conquers all and that is wether you are apart or together bright blessings littleowl

if your lover calls you on a daily basis its ok for you to call your lover 2-3 times a week, otherwise you shdcall on adaily basis, otherwise the continuity is lost in a budding relationship, you get me

well it really does depend. calling your love one every once a week is still ok. long distance relationship is really very hard to make it work. i said it really depends because it will really depend on both of you. as long as no party is complaining then there will be no problem. if you feel that he is not calling you as often as needed or vice versa, then that is the time that your relationship will be hanging in a balance. hope you could make that work. have a good day:)-NEIL™

Its absolutely OK.These are the days where we need to concentrate on career

Just keep up with the relationship and it's fine. I'm a bum here at the house and my girlfriend landed a job earlier than me. We rarely see each other, but a text or call can do. She even visits me here(poor me, no money). But if you are really busy just try to make up when you see each other, and always try to say hi to him once in a while. Just as they say the farther you are the fonder you get.

I don't see what it should be ok. We all have busy lives and 3 times per week seems reasonable. I am sure that there are times that there will be more phone calls, and times when there will be less. As you point out, and not going to one extreme or the other, it's ok to feel secure in a relationship to the extent that you know both can understand the busy life of the other. Sure it would be much nicer to have a chance to be together more than twice a week, sure sometimes there will be a need to call more , but it sure is ok - as long as both feel fine with it. Having lived trough a long distance relationship - far enough that we weren't able to see each other for 3 years - apart from a few weeks each year on vacation time, I know that it can certainly be ok. There were times where we would call each other every day- sometimes more than once - and times were we called once a week. There were even times were more than a week went before we called - and no emails at the time to compensate:) - Still here we are almost 25 years later, and still doing fine. What's ok is what works for both, there really isn't any specific rule that says this is better or this is worse.

well it actually depends on how both of you take care of the relationship, and how you see it. long distance relationship can work. i know, because i am in one. it's not easy though. it takes trust, respect, patience and deep love for it to work. and you should not see it as something passing, but instead it should be real and the person should be somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with or you'll easily get astray. my boyfriend is a seafarer and is only here 4 or 3 months a year, but we are able to make the relationship work. we dont call each other up everday, that's impossible, calling me is very expensive for him espcially when they are in europe or in the states, but when they are in asia, he calls me up 3 times a week. but even if we dont get to talk everdya we email a lot. we do very very long emails everyday, like 5 or sometimes 7 paragraphs, and we just dont seem to run out of topics to talk about. when he is in the country we travel to different places together and enjoy each others company. get to know each other better. i can imagine my life with him already, and i know despite us not beside each other for most of the time, we still are able to get the fire going. he's being a seafarer is only temporary, when we have saved enough and have our own family, we will settle here, and wont have to leave me anymore. i know, we still have a long way to go, but at least we have plans so it should be easier. if you are positive about the relationship, it can work out too.:) cheers.

If you see each other 2 days and contact each other 3 days then only 2 days go without interaction. I do not see this as abnormal. Some days I do not contact my boyfriend, other days I might ring him 10 times or so, just to arrange things or tell him an odd thing or two. We rarely talk on the phone for long periods of time.

Communication is very important in a relationship specially in a long distance one.Well, 3 times a week is good at least you really have communication but being busy is not a reason for not calling each other specially your both in love with each other.You can send text messages if you can.I know how much you miss each other.I hope one day you will be together.

yeah love is a joy,,but i tell u wat if u will call ur girlfriend or boyfriend just 3 times a week then u would certainly kill ur lover ,,oo wait i m taking ur question wrong,,r u trying to think that ina week only 3 times a week girls must call their mates and the remaining time the remaining time he must call u??

When you love somebody...and that "somebody" is far away from you...is very hard :( .My girlfriend has gone at her grandparents ( in vacation ) and I started to miss her very much after the first day she left, it's very difficult. I try to talk with her every day,to know how she is doing, if she is fine....to show her that I miss her and I care about her...but, as someone said before, you can't talk every day ( let's say that you don't have credit on your mobilephone ) ...and this doesn't mean that you don't love that person.If a love is strong enough...it can resist to everyting and everyone.