Do you speak up and take control?

i tend to not say much. but more recently i had to speak to my sister because we're both adults. but she was taking advantage of my continuously by not keeping her word. it was hard but i tried to reason with her, and she did try to make things right, so that was a relief.

Of course I do. First I try to make some reason and let them know indirectly that I'm not a person who would take orders from others. If they are too dumb to understand that, then I go to plan B by making something more clearer than before. If they are still dumb enough to not understand it, then I shout it out at their faces. I have faced the situations many a times and I have grown strong enough to say no. I used to be talked down at school a lot, all along the time I took their Shyt, but on the last day, I just let it go and held up one guy against a well when he tried to dominate over me. And since then I have felt very good about it and still remember the time, and gain my strength from that memory. bourne

I am somewhat non-confrontational, so I have a tendency to let a lot of things slide that I probably shouldn't. But when I get to a point where I'm very aggrevated and I'm being short with people who haven't done anything to me, I take action to correct the situation that is really bothering me so I can get back to being myself again. I am much more confrontational when it comes to people taking advantage of my kids, however. I have three adult children who are just navigating their way out in the world. I notice that some people, especially in business, will try to take advantage of their inexperience. I see them try to handle it but I see where they are falling short. I will ask their permission to allow me to help. With them either present or listening, I will address the situation calmly but with assertion. They end up seeing how they should handle those situations, as well as understanding how sometimes older people will try to run over them, or take advantage of them.

I take control of things when it needs to be... My family knows this... Being aggressive is not a bad thing if done the right way... A lot of people associate being aggressive with people rasing voices, being mean, attitude issues... When you make your point & refuse to back down on it, standing your ground is not a bad thing... I understand there are different ways of doing things but with some people, that's the only way they'll understand... Things like these are hard to pin down to one way or another because there are so many different situations... Being aggressive is a trait, how you deliver, or express, your aggressiveness is your chracter... Or is it vise versa... In any case, if the situation calls for or requires my attention, I will state my mind/opinion & if it's family issue or where I will be affected, I'll see to it that it's carried out...

Sometimes we try to be tactful when telling others off, so as not to hurt their feelings. However some people are either so insensitive or thick-skinned that they don't get the message, or worse, they think you are talking about someone else. At work, I'd take the direct approach and just tell them off; of course I'd have to be polite and focus on the issue, and not the person. This way, things got done, and the relationships improve now that they understand my working style. At home,we are all very close (parents, siblings), so I don't feel being taken advantage of. Even so, I'm able to speak up - it's much easier.

I learn lot of knowledge while i saw your post,when i speak with other people i will think what words should i say,and how do i say,i think speaking with pople is skilling,although we often speak,some of people don't know how to speak well.

i used to be a very quiet person and keep everything for myself... but recently, due to circumstances and many things that i had experienced so far, i learn to speak up and be assertive... but i speak in a polite manner and try not to hurt other people's feelings... it is good to be assertive sometimes as people can't bully you... take care and have a nice day...

LOL more often than not I couldnt/can't keep my mouth shut even if you super glued it LOL...I tend to speak up very often and very openly BUT if its a topic or situation that may hurt another persons feelings i do my best to be very tactful about it...I still dont candycoat things mind you but I'm not cruel with my words by any means.

It depends on the situation. I'm a retired Marine, having served more than 21 years, so I don't have a problem with speaking up if something needs to be said. Especially if I see someone else needing help, I will jump in and go to their aid. I don't get ugly about things, but I will let my voice be heard. I've never been accused of being meek and mild.

It depends if I think what I have to say is important and really needs saying I will say it but I do try not to upset people along the way or hurt their feelings sometimes thats not possible though. What I dont like is people who think their opinion is the only one that should ever be heard that winds me up i always have a lot to say then lol!

I really thought that I should talk and be heard. I am not the kind of person to keep quiet especially if I found things not properly done or said. But the thing is, most people misinterpret me. They think that I was stupid to talk things to my superiors though I know and they know that it was wrong. All childishness of them.

no i do not i dont think that i could take control i'm scared of hurting someone feeing.... my husband does leave messes and i have to go behind him and pick it up never say anything about it because i'm scared that he thinks i am nagging him..

i ignored and take control while cleaning the areas But sorry because when i am tired of doing all of that i i will be out of control and say something about the situation then we will argue But after that i will be quiet agaun the next and coming week Lol. But there will be a talk and fixing of the problem to clear out everything

Yeah... I believe being assertive mean stop listening to others. I personally feel you need to understand the context and take your viewpoint rather than being assertive and not listening to the team. Best outcome would be arrived upon giving equal opportunity to the rest of the members as part of the discussion. This way none of the member would be discouraged and would enable next level members as well.

I take control when I know that taking control will help the situatio. I will not allow my husband or myself to be taken advantage of. I do not take control because of my ego, or because I eed to be in control, I take control because there are time when I am he only assertive person in he situation. My husband isn't the type to take control, so I need to.