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Hello, deemple. You need to take some time off this relationship. I feel so sorry about your situation. I mean, how could he betray you for four years? He is married to you, he should at least have told you that he didn't want to be with you anymore, that he had another woman on his heart. Now, it all depends on you. Do you love him enough to forgive him? If you are saying that you do not love him, you should not even be together with him anymore. You should leave, find a new place, get your divorce and start living on your own. You don't need somebody that will only hurt you, will only cause you harm. You are a free woman, get your divorce and live! Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Hi deemple! I feel so bad for you,it always seem as if the person being cheated on is the last to know. Your husband sounds very selfish, he wants his cake and want to eat it too. If a seperation is what you really want, then i say go for it. I can understand your confusion, i'm not even involved and i'm confused. I think you should put you first, let him deal with his issues, and you deal with your's. I wish you all the best, and hope that you soon find your way out of this nightmare. You have done nothing wrong, but marry a man that has no respect for his vows. {{{HUGS}}}

I do not know if this affair is true or simply a smear campaign from certain quarters of the office. I do not refute that half the time affairs would usually involve with the other party younger by at least a decade or more. However, I would just like to advocate a little more homework and confronting the current issue with your husband amicably before you decide on the drastic. I think sometimes it can be unbelievably shocking to be the last to know about an affair but this is usually so (sad to say) when one party like you had been having all the faith and trust of the other party. There are hundreds of dimensions to the cause of cheating, attributing to a single possibility might not even be near to the real situation. I feel that you really need to sit down and talk with him, there's no point arguing, using strong words and strong arm tactics here. Love is mutual and to say that you do not even feel for him is simply self denial and evading the real issue. Try and talk it out, be supportive and understanding - lead him out to talk it out with you. Ending one's life over such issue is really foolish and an act of escapism. Worst of all, it does not solve anything and worthless. Life is precious so do treasure it.

I am sorry to hear that. Be strong. There is this old saying "when the door closes, a window will open". Hope for the best. I,too wishes you the best.

well for one this happens alot to both men and women. i know tht something like this isnt the best news or something tht u wanted to find out about ur man, but at least u found out when u did, it could have gone on longer and tht would have made it even worst. personaly any one who dose tht to their partner isnt a good partner to begin with and its something tht he'll do to the women tht he's have an affair with too. just cuz he dosent want a seperation dosent mean tht u cant just move out and start with ur own life. u can start ur own life with ur own back account, and things like tht. it just means tht he cant get married again, and if he dose he has to get seperated from u fist. this many not seem good right now but trust me, things will work themself out. karma can be a bitc* sometimes and he'll have whts coming to him.

First of all dont let these dying feeling over rule your mind dear!. Fight for your rights towards him and file a case towards him (even if fake) just get back at him.He told everyone about his affair, now u tell everyone what he's done with you. You have to be brave coz if you are looking still on the brighter side of this matter you are really mistaken. This matter can only be solved by one way and that is getting back to him with the same thing he did to u. I am not saying you go and have an affair but atleast take some strong actions. Talk to people around you and then make them fight for u. He has to seperate why wont he As if he can do anything to you and he can do anything with his life without you knowing and you cant do anything!. This is sheerly wrong! Take action and kindly stop thinking about these negative thoughts i know its hard but control. You are not gonna die thats it!.

i do believe that it's better to live and stay with someone you love and care for. if the love and trust isn't already existing in your relationship, it is better to end it. you've been blind for 4 years and been hurting so much already. so, i guess it's better to stop the agony and have separate lives. i know it might be difficult at first but it's better to start a new beginning without him. you might even be happier living your life alone than keep on being hurt for so many more days or months or years.

i'm so sorry to hear about what you had undergo... your hubby shouldn't betray your love if he really loves you... i will force him to stop the affair or have the separation... he can only choose one woman and he can't be greedy by wanting to have both... good luck... i hope everything will work for you... take care and have a nice day...

There is nothing new to this very bad news at all. Having said this, these are the hard facts that we should accept. ITs not such a nice and perfect world and we must learn to live with it and move on. Clearly he does not love you because he would rather be with another woman than you. This should be very clear. You must leave him and move on with your life. There is no doubt about this. If you decide to be with him you would always have no trust with him because of his adultery, and both of you would always remember the moment and years of his adultery. It is hard to be in a relationship without the trust factor. You could never love a person 100% without the trust, knowing someday he or she could do this again.

I think that if you are unhappy you should leave him. You don't have to stay with him just because he wants you to. You will not be happy unless you leave him and live your own life. You have to get out and get on with your life in order to be happy. Doesn't your happiness mean anything? I think it does and if my husband cheated on me I would leave him in a heartbeat! Good luck to you and I hope you will make the right decision to move on. :)

first off, You are not the only person who is feeling that way. Many wives are hurt by their husbands because of adultery. You have the right to feel that way and You have the right to fight for what you believe in, I personally think that it is no good to still be together because it is meaningless. Maybe financially you need him or something but can you handle being hurt everyday? Sometimes, you know what will be the answer because people can still change and maybe your husband will realize that he is wrong. But if it happens to me, I will leave him. I think that I deserve to be love and so do you.

it is so wrong what he has done to you. he betrayed your trust and your love. i wish that i could help you more. he was deceitful and living a lie in your marriage. you don't deserve that. he has failed you as a husband. since he is fighting you over a separation, he probably wants you around for his ego. that he can have 2 women. you have to try to get thru this until perhaps there is a way that you can leave him. i can only imagine how painful it must be. how emotionally draining it is. if you cannot leave him, and he won't leave you. try to wait it out until you can work something out. i will be praying for you, my dear......love, kathy

ive been into that kind of situation. i only knew it because of my officemates who saw them doing some groceries in a supermarket. of course i confront him usual thing happened he denies it. man are liar and a cheater. they wont tell even if you kill him. im a working mom when it happens. im busy working and going home tired. i cant rest cause ive a household chores waiting. so while the washing machine is running im cooking our dinner. cause my daughter will eat already. my husband didnt stop, it gets worsed, he dont go home for days. if he arrives he'll just get clean clothes sleep for 1 day and then gone for days. what i did though my mother inlaw didnt want me to live. i left his son with my daughter without saying goodbye. i heard they separated, he got into another relationship and got kid. our marriage is not annuled yet. i can sue him. but my daughter told me not to waste my time and effort to a worthless man. anyways, i believe in karma.

omg that so sadd =( .. my boyfriend was liek datt but with my BESTFRIEND =(... but ur husband is so bad for betraying you and make your love a waste. dont worry everything will be just fine. god have plan for every one of us., its not the end of the world,

i feel sorry for you that you have been going through this. if you are sure that you want to seperate from him then i would definitely leave him. i would do it when he doesnt know and then when he comes back he will see that i am gone. and then you can file for a divorce through your lawyer.but i hope you feel better it is nothing more worse than the betrayal of someone that you love.