should she still be my friend?

Well, for me, she can get my forgiveness, but no friend any more. I don't think we can still be friends after going through so much. Yeah, maybe friend is more important than ex, as some of mylotters have said, but if she's a true friend, she won't try to sleep with my ex. That's what my thought is. I hate those who try to find their pleasure in my ex. And i will never be with my friend's ex or current bf no matter how much i love him. That's principle of friends. But yeah, it's your life, you can decide. If you can forgive the unhappinesses and if you still believe in her, it's ok if you will resume friendship. For me, never ever!!

I c2k208. I am so sorry for what they did to you. My opinion is friends just don't do that to friends.....period. There are some things that are just off limits and even though you and your ex were not together at the time, he was off-limits to any of your friends and if she was truly your friend, she would never have went there in the first place. The friendship has been destroyed, she could apologize six ways from Sunday but you will always wonder, "will she do it again?" I think you should tell her to "go to hell" and find yourself a "true" friend. Good luck!

I don't know if you've resolved this already, but... What kind of friends were you before this happened? Was she a good friend or was she someone who was toxic but you held on anyways? Your ex-boyfriend says that she came on to him before the two of you even broke up, am I reading that right? So I agree that she would probably do this to you again. I personally feel that to be a friend, you have to have trust, and you don't have trust with this person. There's no need for you to be friends with her anymore...is there?

It will be a bit hard for you but I know you can do it. It is easier to forgive someone but something like that isn't easy to forget. It's going to be hard for both of you to reach a level of friendship as close as you've had before. The truth is, the trust has been damaged and it cannot be taken back that easily. But then, who knows? You could be good friends. You can definitely give it a chance. It is totally understandable how you felt. I would feel the same way too. Give it time and again, forgive. Take care.

this would remind me of the the song by the corrs "forgiven not forgotten". i believe about forgiveness and it is the right things despite of the untoward situation that someone slapped on you face. you can also fell better when you forgive even how devastated you are for what she did. (in this case) BUT that doesn't mean you have to forget the situation thus it's alright that you won't befriend her. you don't have to say bad words to her just leave it that way, coz if you do that, there's no difference between you and her.(this is just what i believe having a diplomatic attitude) and i noticed also some inconsistency in the situation that your ex had given you. if he think that your ex-bestfriend is not a good person and he turned down the b-job then why did he slept with her? noticed the disparity? i could understand if you're going to curse her for that matter and you can go ahead with it. hahaha but in reality i just don't want to do that.

Well according to me you haven't seen the truth.She was your best friend and the one who is saying you all these was ur ex.In my opinion you should go with your best friend because friends are more important as they help you in all situations.It would have been another thing if you would have any proof about what your ex was saying.As he dont have any proof you shouldnt beleive him as he might have planned all this to break you friendship with your best friend.Forgive her and continue your friendship.

if i were you, i would have never accepted her again a smy friend. the person who betrays me long way can never be my friend. till it deoends on you whetehr you liek to forgive or not.

Wow! That is very nervy of her to befriend you to get to your man. That only shows her true colors. After reading your other comments regarding this ex friend I would have to say don't give her a second chance. Don't even give her the time of day.

What they both did to you was definitely wrong. But yes, things happened and there's nothing you can do about it. What's even worse is that trust has been broken. But I encourage you to forgive them both. I know, it's easier said than done. But if that'll set you free from the horrible things that happened between you, your ex and your best friend, then forgivness is the answer. If you don't, you might end up just hating them both forever, completely ruining your friendship with your best friend, and you're gonna end up having this baggage in your heart that you're not supposed to be carrying. Free yourself from hurts, pains and grudge. If you learn to forgive them both, you're gonna set yourself free.. and you will be healed as well.

If you still hold a grudge against her then don't be her friend. If you are willing to forgive her then be her friend. Go by your feelings.

I believe that past is past and can not be returned. What happened to your bestfriend and ex was four years ago. But the thought of treachery is there and it really hurts because she is your friend. Well, it takes two to tango so your ex is also guilty of it. If she is really sincere to be your friend again, then accept her but talk to her that if she will stab you at your back, then she should go to hell.

yeah its true you shouldnt fall out with friends over a guy .. but from what your best friend was doing i dont think she was worth being friends with at all .. they could just do it all over again.. but she might really be sorry... but thats the risk you have to decide for yourself if u want to take it ..

Maybe you can forgive her but sure your relationship would not be the same as best friends. It's hard to bring back the old times. Take your time to heal the wounds so that you can forgive fully. To forgive is to forget. It's so plastic when you say you had forgive her when deep inside your heart there is an anger that growing. Maybe you can tell her..."It's not easy to forget what you had done to me but let me take my time to heal my wounds." Maybe soon you can forgive her when you are not hurt anymore. Or tell her straight ... I forgive you but as of now I'm not ready to be your friend."

It shows here that your best friend becomes your best enemy. However, the friendship of both means a lot. Learn to forgive and forget the pasts. If God can forgive why can't you. It's important that you patch up your relationship 'coz that matters most. Maybe this time, she will change for the better. Now, at least you've know her ways.

Only if you think forgiving beats forgetting

i would have nothing to do with her. you can forgive her but you cannot forget what she did and you will not be able to trust her. besides with friends like her who needs enemies?

Firstly, i hope you are doing great. Forget about all these bad memories. For me, i think even if you will be her friend back it wont be close because it is definitely not the same anymore with all these stories! So either who to trust more your ex or your friend, the things she did could you guarantee that she won't do again? It kinda violate the 'rules' of being best friends for my opinion. So I think you should go with what your heart says. Just go to hell or ok we could be normal friends back. Be wary.