go head ...pee in the bed!!!!!!
By MRSJAYDA
@MRSJAYDA (32)
United States
August 5, 2008 8:41am CST
well, needless to say i an a parent, that's why i am posting here, i am not quit sure what everyone else uses this area for but, i want to scream(yep...i know u can't hear me), my 3 year old son is driving me nuts with this pancake thing, it can be 4 in the morning and he wants pancakes, and not just any old pancaked, he wants to go to the pancake house aka ihop, yes, not moms batter to the pan, not aunt jemimahs microwave pancakes, but ihops 3 (short stack) $4 ones or if his dad incourages it 5 (tall stack) $6 ones, i have come to my wits end, there may be more wit but i don't know where to renew. i just want him to pee at 4 and go back to bed like other kids i know, or maybe have a class of milk or water before he watches "just 1 caillou" before he goes to bed, and now that my 2 year old daughter is poty training, both are up at 4 for potty break, and she chimes in with him, i am stern about not going the 8 miles to the nearest ihop but the struggle that insues is enough to let them just pe in the bed.....lol.....would never let that happen but have had very , very, strong urges...lol. does your child have a need to feed or a specific food, all times of the day, night and morning? tell me about it or how to cure it, please!!!
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13 responses
@alori61 (344)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Well unless this is what you want to do the rest of his life you need to end it now. The child has gotten the idea some place that he is going to get IHOP at 3AM and he's gotten it often enough you have trained him to no only eat at 3AM but that enough of a fit and he's going to get it. Who runs your house a 3 year old? You want him to stop then send him back to his room make him stay there and what ever you do don't give in. One or two mornings and he'll quit asking. He'll throw a fit, scream bloody murder temper tantrum major but it you don't give in he'll give up. You need to take control.
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@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I think I'd let them wear a pullup or a diaper at night. That is to hard for you having to get up at 4 every morning. As for as wanting pancakes, maybe they think it is time to get up and have breakfast. I would keep ihop as a special treat and only go there once in awhile. You are going to have to let them cry and scream a few nights and when they realize it isn't doing any good, they will quit. Another trick I use is to make what they eat at home special, maybe add a cherry on top of the frozen pancakes or some whipped cream. Good luck, you have your hands full.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
5 Aug 08
My kids don't do that. They like a variety of foods so they've never really demanded anything. Your son has to watch tv before he'll go back to bed at 4 in the morning? you must be exhausted. I think you just need to get tough and not let him do any of that. He may scream the first few nights but once he sees you aren't giving in he'll quit. My middle daughter fought going to bed. We were laying on the couch with her till she fell asleep them taking her to bed. But then I was pregnant with her brother and we both weren't fitting on the couch and I knew once he came that I wouldn't be able to lay with her and take care of him, so we decided it was time for her to go to bed in her room like her sister does. Well the first few nights she fought it a little and cried and kept coming out of her room, but then she just gave in and now she willingly goes to bed like her sister. Be tough, it will be worth it.
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@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Wow, that's spoiled. First off, before they go to bed, send them to the potty. Since he is up at 4 am, you need to stop giving him any beverages after dinner. He should at his age be able to make it through the night. To avoid the 4 am stuff for now, when you go to bed, slightly wake them up and put them on the potty. Separately, so they can't even talk with each other. Then back to bed, no talking, not many lights, off you go, go to sleep. If the 4am crap starts, just put him on the potty, then back to bed, lights out, nothing else. If you give in, you'll have a big problem on your hands when the demands get bigger. A little tough love now will go a long way later.
If he keeps going with the demands like that, start time outs, take toys away, whatever it takes. You created a bad habit, you need to break it NOW.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
my kids understand that we can not afford to buy what they want right away. We have to wait for the right time like during pay day or when time we have extra money. They know that even if they still young. It is just a matter of discipline and letting them understand the situation. If we always give way of what our kids want,it would be a problem that is hard to cope later on.
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@silvermage2000 (150)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Well obviously send him to the bathroom and have the special underwear that helps little kids with potty training. Also don't give into the going to ihop all the time and set to once or twice a month depending on good behavior.
@swampy1980 (25)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I am sorry to hear your troubles. I have read some people telling you to try to put an end to him getting up at night. One person said he can make it that long. I don't feel that way. I think each kids is made in their own way. I have a child that is nine that has to wear pullups at night. I have tried ever thing. I even took him to the DOC. they told me that some people make the most of their Pee at night they gave me a pill to cut back how much he makes. I gave it to him for a little while. It did work. But I did not trust it. I was scared of something that made him NOT MAKE HIS PEE. So we do the pull ups The doc. said that over time he will grow out of it. And it is mostly boys with the problem. I do think you should try not to give in to the TV and foods at bed time. The keeping the light low is a good Idea. I would also (IF it is a long way from where he sleeps to the bathroom)get am little potty for him to pee in by his bed that you could empty. The less he is up the less he is to come fully awake. I wish you luck.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I'm sorry but i just had to laugh. 4am for potty then a quick dash off to ihop for pancakes. Oh I remember those days getting up to continue potty training. Maybe in the morning you could show him the calender and fix a day and time to go to ihop. then let him mark off the days. I would also stop allowing him to watch caillou (what ever that is) Night time is for sleeping not TV. Keep the light at a minimum just enough for him to see to pee. I think I would also start moving the time to get him up a little later by about 15 min.every week too. Hang in there girl. This too shall pass.
@ladymoonstone143 (1507)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I know there are times that it is easier to give in for what your child wants rather than to go thru all that fuss and hassle BUT not all the times. Our kids are smart, they will have us train rather than us training them. They have to learn and understand the appropriate time for everything. My 4 year old loves to wake up at 5 am before and holler Mommy until I go to her room and check. I told her it is still dark and she might wake her Papa and her sister. I tucked her back in and give her a kiss. She will talk for a little bit and I just answer yes or no or hmmm...and tell her I see her in the morning. Now, she wakes up at the right time...usually 8 or 9 am.
What I usually do when my toddler say she wanted to go to Chick Fil A or a certain kind of restaurant...I tell her, sorry it is close. I will give silly reasons why the restaurant is close, like, they haven't wash the dishes yet or they are having a general cleaning, etc. I know there will be lots of why and why but they will understand sooner or later.
Goodluck and hope you will not be driving to Ihop most of the time nowadays.
@austere (2812)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
nyahaha..it must be so hard for you not to give in to those little ones huh?hehe well that's pretty expensive for a pancake!! you should try giving them alternative foods that they could like that's not expensive and that you could keep in the fridge. and try to talk to them about it. that you want to cook it for them because you want it extra special because they are your kiddies, if you'll try to explain, maybe the little ones will understand. and maybe they will like the idea of you preparing their pancake or whatever food you can prepare them. i dont have a child yet. am, single, but i have little siblings and they are no picky with foods at all. they eat what you give them and when you explain to them why, they dont feel happy about it, but then you'll see that they somehow understand.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
5 Aug 08
You are the Mother, he lives in YOUR house, you get to make the rules. He may pitch a fit, cry and carry on for a few nights but unless you want to start your day at 4a.m. everyday you have to turn the t.v. off and let him realize that you are in charge and he may not always get to do what you want to in this life. If he doesn't learn this now you won't be able to control him later. And his kindergarten teacher will have a hard time. I know at least two children that was expelled from kindergarten because the teacher couldn't control them. Just ask yourself if you want him to be that child and do you want to be that Mother? GOOD LUCK!
@josga2008 (320)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
Yes, my children do crave certain foods, and they would hapilly snack on them all day if I let them. I do give them these foods from time to time, since they like them, but I also present them with meals that are healthy for them and tell them that this is the food they get. If they don't eat a full dinner, then that's it, they have shown that they aren't hungry and they don't get to choose something else. If they get hungry later that evening, I present them with the dinner they left behind again. I also explain that ,, when they go to bed, that's it for food until breakfast. If you let your children snack in the middle of the night, you are setting yourself up for a very stressful situation. Sure , they may object and cry, but don't let them feel guilty that you are starving them, not snaking at 3 a.m. isn't dangerous in the least. They will eat at braekfast. Once they know that this is the rule , and you won't change it, they will eat appropriately before going to bed, and they won't bother you for food at 3 a.m.
