I am confused- JOB / HUSBAND??? Whom should i choose?

That is a tuff decision to have to make. I'd probably keep my job since he is going to have to be traveling for a year. Since he is going to be training for those 3 months, he will probably be busy and not really get to spend that much time with you. You will need to take his feelings about it into consideration to. Does he want you to go with him for those 3 months? Is there anyway you can travel with him for that year? That is an awfully long time to be apart.

It really depends on You. I think you have a rough idea here what to do. I'm sure you must have a preference. Just close your eyes and ask your heart what she wants. It may be a difficult decision but more importantly, the decision you make must be one that will make you happy. I'm sure your husband wants to see you happy. Whatever decision you make, I'm sure Your husband will be in support of it.

I would keep the job because you will eventually be left there alone and need something to fill your time anyway.

If I would have been in your place, I would have left the Job and lived with my husband happily for three months and I am also confident enough to get the job back again without any issues, you should have that confident in you I am sure you can also get the job it is not a big deal but if you loose the time you might miss your husaband as you said he his going far from you for a year , I think it is right time for you to stay at home and take care of hub for 3 months and enjoy for yourself, it is just my suggestion but do what ever you like , Listen to every one but do what your hear tells you. LOL I beleive in this statement. Happy postings!

I Would keep my job. When he leaves for the year you will have you friends at work to lean on and to support you that will mean a lot. I think your husband will understand. You could always fly to where he's at on weekends, or he fly to you. Right? ;-)

i don't think you should leave the job....cause you might regret it later. i am not trying to force an opinion but in your case i just don't think it is worth it. in any way please ask your husband and take into account his opinion and views. my mom used to work in SBI but she left the job because my dad got promoted and we had a little family problems too.so in her case the discussion was some what inevitable sooner or later.but even though the circumstances she somewhat regrets that decision now. so think about it.have a nice day. :)

What a difficult situation! I think, since you will be bored and lonely after the three months, you should stick with your job. Is there any way you could arrange for a substitute for the 3 months, or even just part of it? I know that is a long shot, but maybe worth trying. Whatever you do, don't give up your job. If you could travel around with your husband maybe it would be worth the sacrifice, but that would be difficult, too. Is there any way your husband could sacrifice his job and do something else at home? Men often have the idea that their job is more important than your job, but that is just not true. I gave up a lot and travelled overseas with my husband. It was rewarding, but I came home with no experience and no real skills to qualify me for a job. I often think now how short sighted we were and how much that second paycheck would have helped later on.

Is there a way that you can take a leave at work and go with him for three months and then come back to work? If so, i would do that. However, if that is not an option, then I would go with my heart. I know that being without your husband at home is hard as mine travels for work too. However, I have to keep working so I try to schedule extra time to be with him when he is home.

Hi Karjyo.. Really in a tough spot, you are. It seems that you don't want to lose your job,as well your affection and precious time that you share with your hubby. But then in my life, i give priorities to my family.. It is for the family we live. When i say family.. it includes all the love and affection that we share with each other. So any thing other than this comes to me as a second choice.. and if i were you, i will quit my job, and spend time with him. Certainly, you must be of a high caliber and therefore no problems for you, or otherwise, it will not be tough for you to find a new job, after three months. Take care, and Karjyo think twice before you act on a decision.. Have a good time.

It's a hard decision you are about to make, and either way you choose, it will be a difficult one. If not now, than after three months. You have to go with your feelings. If you have a normal, strong relationship, you will be able to survive this time apart without problems. It will be hard, but it's doable. If your relationship is stable and you know you will miss each other too hard, and you can live with only his income you can choose to become a stay at home wife (don't know if you have children, 'cause it's always good to be home for the kids too ). And if you worry that your relationship isn't strong enough to survive the time apart, would you really want to give up your job, and have the possibility that you will break up and you will end up without a husband and without a job. I'm not saying anything goes for you, but these are the three things that would come to mind if I had to make a choice like this. Have a nice day

Hello,Karjyo! Your husband is going for three months of training and after completion of training he would be required to go on exhaustive tours and he will not be available to be you.so in that case what makes you perturbed I don't understand.You continue in your job till your husband finally settles up so that both of you will be happy.thanx.

Don't be confused. Just focus on what you really want to do. Personally, I will take a 45 days leave so you won't get fired and at the same time you can be with your hubby for a month and a half before he leaves. I'm sure the school you are employed with will understand your situation and so is your husband.. Good luck!

[b][/b]Try to ask your husband if what he like ask advice with him.If he said leave your job and be with me then do it coz remember he be away for how many months or yeat.But if he said continue your job,then do it coz your job is important also.so when he is away you will not get bored because you have your work. I think the best choose would be to leave your work and be with him for three months.

You can work while he's away. Anyways, he'll be back in three months. I know you'll miss him for his absence, but absence make the heart grow fonder. It's hard to find for a job right now, so if I were you, I'd keep the job.

Hi karjyo, I believe that you should keep your job, your husband will be back and a job would help the time to go much faster when he is away. Hopefully then, you will have many years together. Of course the decision is one that you and your husband must ultimately make on you own no matter what others tell you. Blessings.

I guess you should weigh it first and knows your priorities. What you want and what's the best for your family. List the advantages and disavantages of that two choices maybe through that, it can help come up a solution.

Hey there well this is just my opion one in many but I personally think that you should do what you think is the best for you if you are unsure of that then you should write all the pluses and negatives of both and it may help you to make your final decision on what you wish to do.Good luck on your quest and god bless you all ways. love loveyoohbaby xoxo.

I am in the same sitTuation. I am married for five years with two children and my husband is never at home! He travels all the time, visitingus for two weekends at the month and I am telling you it is not so bed! I live my life with two kids, he earns money, and weekends and holidays are ours. At the begining it was horrible but now i even feel pleasant about it. You get used to it! Don't give up your life and job! You can have both-housband and job! Feel fine!

Hello karjyo, I can totally relate to your husband! My wife is also a teacher and you know what I also asked her to stop working cause I believe I am earning enough and I would love if she can focus on our baby and me. Kinda selfish but true. Well it is up to you, follow your heart!