Working wife

Yea right, maybe they are just tired afterall the days work doing the chores but what about us getting late from the office having to squeeze our heads out to finding solutions to some of the issues at work. Oh no, I think it would be too unfair for me to judge the parties. I guess we really have to sit down and talk. There's been a lot of sensible thoughts. Thanks a lot.

yes, actually she knows the time I do come home, she should be awake to welcome and recieve me, all I am working is for both of us and the children. It is disappointing!

It's reasonable you to want to be greeted when you come home from work, but if you do get home THAT late, you shouldn't be so mad if your wife is asleep - particularly if she's been working hard on the housework or if the two of you have children. I mean, sure, it must be disappointing, but it's not as if she isn't glad to have you home - she's just tired!

At least you are there to recognize and acknowledge. Sometimes it's good to feel that your efforts are well reciprocated.

Thanks for that kaleegirl45, that makes sense after all. Today I just stayed in bed and do nothing but my lot. I called some friends and I bet he could overhear us talking and planning to go out. I know if this lasts long it wouln't be healthy for our relationship but he's got to understand that I can manage without him and he'd better be threatened. If he doesn't make a move now I might forget I have a husband.

Good Morning lady, Good for you, next what you should do is when he goes into the room, leave, take your laptop and go make yourself a snack, something that smells good. I know he going to be wanting some. and make only for you. keep doing what you did and I'll bet he will have a chance of heart. And if he doesn't get yourself a pet. They are always to greet, cuddle with you and they don't talk back.

Hi lady, Not to alarm you, but if my husband was acting like that it would make me wonder if he fooling around? If you go with your friends and he doesn't tell you anything, if I were you, I start asking question as to why is acting that way. And if you don't want to ask him anything, keep doing what you have and see how long it will last. let me know how it goes.

It's on my mind, but can't afford to do it.

Hi Verity, you're right, he should talking to her as soon as he walks in the door. What is wrong with this man. He need to get his priority straight.

Yes, Kalee, this husband of Ladyrain should be reminded of his unpleasant attitude. Ladyrain itself should do some reminders to let her husband awake of his wrong attitude. Ladyrain, yes, there are several husbands are like that, but as your husband you have the right to do some actions to make your marital relationship harmonious. Marital obligations are not only finding money for the welfare of the family, the most important is love and respect. How could your marital relationship and family bonding survives without the essence of love and respect? Does money and other material things make your marital relationship fulfilled without it? The answer is NO. Because when you have entered the matrimonial sacrament, this is a sacred vow between the husband and the wife in which each of the party is obliged to exercise all the marital obligations to cherish their marriage. Ladyrain, please do not suffer all these things by yourself alone because you do not deserve it. Assert all your rights as a wife. Let your husband know that he forgotten the major aspect of his roles and responsibilities as a good and ideal husband. God Bless....

Hi Tamarafireheart, I so feel the same way too. There are times I would say that my back aches and he'd just ignore me. I just want a little pacifier and touch but to no avail.

I am working as a sales manager, so most of my time's occupied with sales calls, meetings, teleconferences and checking reports. At the end of the day I get really tired, tired enough to even step on the clutch while driving. And when I get home so late because I have a meeting I am ignored. Despite that I manage to call him and inform.

Lady, if you're a stay at home mom, and he tell you that you haven't done nothing, I would say you're right I haven't done nothing. and I start put all his clothing in a different basket, let him do his own wash, let him do everything that you have done for him. And he'll know than that you haven't done nothing. Show him what it is that you don't do.

Oh i want to cry with you. It brought about my teary eyes. I just hate husbands treating their wives like that. I never longed for anything but a simple gesture of appreciation to what I do. I hate doing this because whenever this starts I could always compare my life now and then.

Lol, how I wish. Sometimes I want to nag for the things that he wouldn't do but just controlled myself so much that I don't even wanna do it.

I can understand where you coming from. i don't think it's fair that just because you stay home, you have to do everything else. I don't work outside the house, and the only job I that pays me some money is not enough to get away. When i first started staying home, I clean, cook, wash and whatever else needs to be done. Then, I finally notice that I was not getting a thanks and whenever I cooked a meal either they didn't like it or they decide to go out to eat. Well let me tell you, that has stopped. I clean what I have to clean, i don't pickup after anyone, if you can't pick up your stuff it will be thrown on your bed. and I mean everything. they get hungry, they make their meals. So young, change your ways and see what happens. Sometimes I wish i could just ran away and leave everything and everyone behind.

We always have a chance for open talk but it seems like it's not his cup of tea, he'd always evade on every instance. Good for you your partner is bouncing back the efforts you've spent.

When i am so down and feeling low, i'm just glad there's mylot who comforts me. Thanks to all my friends here. Thanks shana.

Many thanks for the Best Response. You made my day.

Wow it worked for you, thanks for sharing.

Hi Daddy, you are right I am terribly expecting he'd understand my mood because I took the effort of calling him that I'd be late because of some issues. So I expected he'd ask the status of the prob when I get home instead I was ignored.

Hi Daddy, you are right I am terribly expecting he'd understand my mood because I took the effort of calling him that I'd be late because of some issues. So I expected he'd ask the status of the prob when I get home instead I was ignored. I'm approaching this from a calm point of view. Your way, your decisions, your expectations have left you frustrated, right? This is your life. Continuing to do this the way you have done them will continue to have the same results. If you want different results, then you have to do something differently. I do not think you are terrible. However, "I'm going to be late because of some issues" isn't going to translate in his brain to "I need you to ask me how my day has been when I get home." You are expecting his mind to connect the two together and, as a typical man, he won't. He might have bad days too. When he gets home does it seem to you that he wants you to talk to him about his day? It may very well be that when he has a bad day he wants to come home and set it all aside. It may not occur to him from his point of view that talking about unpleasant things is a good idea. Another problem you might find here is that men are described as problem solvers. If they hear a problem, then they think they must find a way to solve it. Therefore, if your husband hears you complaining about something, tries to provide a 'solution' and this frustrates you, he might develop a disinclination towards talking to you about your work because he feels it gets his head bit off. (Not understanding things from your point of view.) I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life. Nor am I imply that I know more than you. But, your approach seems to be leaving you unhappy so you might, just might profit from trying something different. In this case, things do not happen as you wish so talking about things seems like a better idea than silently stewing over your husband's weaknesses. Conversation only happens if both people are determined to be flexible. In this case, I've given you a neutral and calm point of view and you seem to reject it on an emotional level as if I were saying you were terrible, which I did not. This implies that you are closed to self-examination and therefore conversation with him will be of limited value. You are both participants in your marriage and might need to adjust to better mesh with each other from both ends. I just think it is worth consideration. I hope you have a better day tomorrow.

You are very right, he even have this attitude of rejecting me everytime I'd try to touch him. I am so tired, exhausted and yet still managed to be with him who doesn't even want me at all.

Well in as much as I want to I just couldn't live a life like that. Compliments are good in a relationship so they should learn how to let it go.

Right, we always struggle to becoming a superwoman in all aspects even if that means beating yourself up to doing everything. I work in sales so most of the time I am on high heeled shoes the whole day and when I get home my feet would sore and yet I have to gather and do the laundry . One time I got so tired that I tried to massage my feet, he totally ignored and passed by me like I am the most unnoticed person in the room.

Sensitivity is the key because if one is insensible definitely he could be clueless.

True, thank you.

I understand that's why because of too much respect and love I cannot revert to hia despitea jobless condition that alone is more than any respect he could give.

Well I won't mind going home with bunch of stuffs to do as long as he's there to tell me 'hey rest now and i'll give you a good massage' but it's not happening.

In some given scenario life is not always that easy, not all is blessed enough to have their own office and be the boss. On the contrary I have done that, we have a little software development company but despite that I get the most share of work. I have to admit my brain is the capital for our living, you know what I mean? Hardwork of course is the other extra factor.

Thanks, i'm counting God to be with us always.