If you adopted a child

It is excellent that you adopted your two daughters. I hope that you manage to get their birth certificates soon. It is wonderful that you are so close to them. A dark complexion is beautiful. It is a shame that it is not easy to adopt a child in your country. I am delighted to have people respond that have a successful adoption story like you, thanks.

I had a wonderful family although my adoption was not exactly that conventional since I knew and associated with my biological family, at least when we were in Portugal. What I was talking about was exactly what you describe, giving the child a chance to learn about her/his culture and specific traditions and costumes. I don't see why people should restrict culture or race when screening for adoption. A child in need is a child in need no matter what the background is. But yes, nothing is ever that easy - and the people in charge make it even more complicated quite often Grrr :)

It is wonderful to hear from you in my discussion and it is lovely that you are adopted and would consider adopting yourself. If I adopted a little girl from China she would probably love trips to China Town. I could take her traveling with me to Asia: to the Philippines, China, Japan, Thailand and Vietnam. She would have a much better life with me than in a Chinese orphanage. I know a Chinese lady and she has a son. Few things in life are easy hey.

Yes, I know some people that would make excellent adoptive parents yet they are put off by the paperwork and the time scale. Yes, it is important that children are protected. A pregnancy lasts 9 months but the adoptive process can last two years.

It must be frustrating when there are children who need parents now. I think people who adopt and who foster children are wonderful. It gives a child a real family and hope for the future. It might seem strange to worry about culture when adopting a baby, but I know people who feel they have lost their culture because they were adopted, and have gone through life feeling like they don't really belong. I think it would have been worse for them not to have been adopted at all, but I can see their point of view too. Perhaps that's why they try not to mix cultures.

Hello my friend Vimaal, thanks for responding. When you grow older you might get married and think about having children. Take care and have a wonderful day.

I think that the age factor is silly because with medical treatment I have heard of a lady in her sixties giving birth to a baby. Women can have a baby in their forties and men can father children until they are much older than that. Does the person or the couple have a home for the child? Would he, she or they be a loving parent or parents? I think those would be sensible questions. I think giving a baby up for adoption instead of aborting is excellent and should be looked upon highly. I think that a lady that can get pregnant can have as many children as she likes why not adoptive parents? You had twin boys and I think you should have been able to have a new born baby or child after that. A friend of mine has a girl aged 4 and twin girls aged 2. It is such a shame that adoption is so difficult to achieve. Pregnancy gets a new born baby so adoptive parents should be able to choose an age, have any gender and any race that they like. In the sixties I know a lady adopted a girl and she came from a teenage mother and a boy and he came from a business lady. Both are grown up now and are such lovely people. Children wait in orphanages rather than go straight away to a loving family. I think abortions take away people should be in the world. If they were born then adopted quickly into a new life the world would be a better place.

I think that I would love an adopted child as much as my own children. I had one son thirteen years ago then another just over one year ago. I would dearly like to have a daughter. I am sorry that you have been unable to conceive again after having your son. I think that if adopting was easier more children that need a home would get one.

I think that social workers go overboard. Love and care are the things a child needs. I am not at all surprised that if people can buy a child if they do this, then the poor family gets money and the child hopefully gets loving parents. I am glad that your uncle bought a new born and has made the child happy so he or she is growing up well.

I know a Catholic couple and the lady was unable to get pregnant. They adopted two boys and a girl. The boys had terrible behavior and the girl was perfectly behaved. They spent a great deal on the two boys when they first got them but are spending less now.

Thanks for your excellent detailing of the adoption procedure your hubby and his ex went through. If a lady gets pregnant and then has a baby there are no home inspections or interviews about money. I think the social workers treat adoptive parents in a very noisy way. It must have been nerve racking for them to have looked at past spending patterns. Most homes I know of have one or two smoke detectors and few of them have a carbon monoxide detector. I think that the authorities go overboard with all their requirements. Then the marriage only lasted another two years. In my home country social workers analyze the couple's relationship. Divorce is hard of children, yes even more so an adopted child.

I hope that you are are to adopt a child during your lifetime. I saw a newspaper article saying that some children need adopting in India and that the Indian government wants to speed up the adoption paperwork. China has rules about adoptive parents like age and how long the couple have been married. I think that a fifty year marriage did start and the couple in their second year of marriage might have made excellent adoptive parents even though they were 28 and 31 years old.

Yes, it is lovely to be able to have your own child naturally, however some people are infertile. I know of a lady that desperately wants to have a girl and she has had six boys trying to get one. She would like to adopt a girl to complete her family otherwise I wonder how many children she will have.

It is a wonderful idea to have a child of your own and adopt a child as well. Yes, I wonder how the authorities would match you and your husband. You might get a child that had a Mexican heritage or from a heritage from one of the Caribbean Islands. It is exciting to think about and I hope that it happens for you one day.