What would you do to tell the person that he has an annoying behavior?
By sheenmadness
@sheenmadness (1286)
Philippines
August 11, 2008 6:55am CST
I know a person who really affects me with her behavior. She's a hardheaded woman with a machine gun mouth. She doesn't want to be told and yet she did things her way that could catch your attention and can't stop you from commenting. She has this attitude that can easily spark for a fight. When she opens her mouth arrogance is what you could see and hear. And just recently we were being scolded by our lessor due to her attitude. I really want to get rid of her. If you were on my shoe what would you do? We've been telling her about her behavior but she refuses to listen. She feels she's the king of the world!
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13 responses
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Try telling your friend in a way like this..."You're too gutsy and confident, but i think you are overdoing it. you're coming off as really arrogant, and it really bugs us all..." it might help but if it doesn't work better to avoid them..if she notice that almost all of the people are avoiding her, maybe she would know then why...on the other hand, if she still dont care why people are avoiding her, they still have the attitude to taking up the air in the room, that even though they're not taliking to you, you still find them annoying to be around...i'll tell you, you should never respond to them, or else they feel superiority, because that's what they want... Hope you resolve your problem soon! Good luck!
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Thanks sharie, yeah your're right she's really like that. She belive that she is really superior among others. That's why I really want to tell her to stop acting that way for a simple reason that it isn't a good manner.
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
that's what we're trying to do. But you know when your working in one same workplace it's really inevitable to avoid her.
@moondrop824 (241)
• United States
11 Aug 08
If your in the work place all you can do is keep reporting her, eventually the managers will get the hint. I'm pretty quiet usually but if this woman ever came at me like that i'd GO OFF on her, i'm quiet... like a snake in the grass and would never take that from her...but in the end i'd probably be the one fired lol
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
hahahha... thanks moondrop. It really crosses our mind. And we're thinking to tell the boss of a reason to fire her. She's too bossy that actually our neighboring office thinks that she is the boss.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
12 Aug 08
well, for me i just tell her directly and honestly right in front of her face... if she can't accept it, then i just keep myself distance from her and i don't want to have much to do with her... good luck with her and hopefully she will be able to change her behaviours... take care and have a nice day...
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
absolutely right lingli, but you know sometimes it is easier said than done. Well, i guess we don't have the guts to tell straight to her face that she is really annoying.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
12 Aug 08
You need to tell her once and for all that she has to change
her attitude. If she has the lessor job than you it is your
place to set her straight and not let her walk all over you.
You can't let her continue to boss you around if that's not
even her position. It makes no sense. You have to do something
or the situation is not going to change and it will only get
worse and sooner or later she will end up losing her job
because someone will get tired of her behavior and tell her
off.
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
yeah you guessed it right. Actually just recently we've been into another fight. Still because of her attitude. We've been telling her but I guess if your already used to that attitude it's difficult to change.
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
That's what we're trying to avoid. If we will do so she might say we have no respect for her that she's old already and sometimes she said because she is only an errand it does gives us the right to oppressed her.
@sparkliquid (58)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 08
Awww shoot, u should show him/her some color! show him/her your own way! Roar, sometimes the boss not always correct. we should tell them whats their mistake and dn afraid of getting scolded.
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
yeah your right sparkliquid. But guess I need to practice more and break a leg. LOL!
@LauraElrod (418)
• United States
11 Aug 08
well if i was in your shoes and would not listen, i would just stay away from her. tell her that until she changes her actions you would rater not be around them at this time, i hope there not in you work place if so go to your boss
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
That's the sad part, she is our office mate. But her job description is more an errand than on the paper works. Supposedly she should be out of the time but she rathers stay the whole day in the office and does all the talking. Grrrr... And when we try to tell her to do this thing she would do it and when she returns she would do all the complaining. We really want to tell the boss about her attitute but we also pity her if she loses her job.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Oh!! if I have this kind of companion in the boarding house or in work? I will not pay attention to her as if he didn't exist. I don;t to be affected with what she is doing so, I will not bother myself about it. I will just leave her alone. As if I don;t know here.. Good luck..
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Thanks celestial. I've tried to do it once but it does give her all the reason to decide for you.
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
hehehe...Thanks lizardus. You know desperate measures really comes at desperate moments. I'll be really the one to tell her but she needs to provoked me more so I could blow up. LOL!
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
well if the person is close to you you can tell it to her/him straight to the point. anyways, its for him/her own good. it will help him/her to have more friends also. now if she really dont listen live her and let her feel that her friends dont like her anymore. it that happens she will realized that there is really something wrong with her.
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
We had actually done it once just to reprimand her. But you know what she said to us. We don't have to tell her that way because she is already old and she knows what is right and wrong. She has this attitude that doesn't want to be told. Though one time we yell at her she admitted that she is wrong she behaves for just a day and then go back to her natural behaviour.
@Manojknair (603)
• India
11 Aug 08
Its always adviseable not to mingle with those characters. A wise man always shut his mouth and talk when it required. Avoiding will make this person to think whay its happening , so that you can reply with a reson for that. You dont like his or her anoying caracter
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
In our case it is inevitable for us to mingle with each other sinse we work in the same company. And if you give her the chance to always say she will do all the talking and decides for you. In someways it helps but most of the times it brings us trouble.
@laura83 (22)
• Lebanon
12 Aug 08
Try to face her with the truth but in a nice way. Choose the right time and place and make sure there's no one else but you and her when you confront her. Besides, the tone of your voice and choice of words have a lot to do with how she would react. Try to make her feel that you're facing her with the truth to help her shape up rather than scold her or pinpoint her weaknesses..
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Thanks laura, I'll try to do it. Don't you think it is hard? But really I would try ^_^ Thanks for posting. Have a great day!
@xaheer33 (1)
• Bangladesh
11 Aug 08
It is said that do the same from whence anybody did anything. We've heard from our superior. If anybody does like this then we should make this in a right way. We cannot do like this everytime but if we won't try it wii be incorrigible for them. We should rectify our mistakes. Nobody knows anything what exactly going to be happened. We souldn't leave these things for others. One of my friends does like these but he could't get an oppotunity agaianst me because i was so strict to him. Although men cannot control human's all behaviors but can make the right environment to do these activities. Whatelse we can do ?
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
yeah true xaheer, but you know due to being just human we have a little hesitations to correct her plus the fact that she is older than us.