Forgive and forget or forgive but not forget?

i guess it really depends on the situation. but honestly even if i completely forgive, i cant seem to forget. i still remember the circumstances but no more bitterness, anger or whatever. sometimes i even laugh about it and talk about it so openly. its just that in my life, every moment counts, even the painful ones, so its not easy for me to forget. But i do forgive easily =)

when i decided to forgive the person that also means that i will forget but i dont think everything will go back to where it was before i mean i need time for healing and eventually if things go well we might be able to bring back the times..

hi acevivx, to have healthy and life long relationship we should aways have policy to forgive and forget. so that their will not be any bitternes in realationship. I think this is most simple and easy for the someone whom you love and needs in life.

This is truly easier said than done. When someone close to us hurts us, it is very hard to get over it. In reality, maybe it means we really haven't forgiven if we can't forget. I think it's easier to forgive and forget acquaintances and casual friends for hurting us because it's easy to forget them as well.

It's real easy and a must for me to forgive. I forget the wrong but don't forget to learn from it. I think "wrongs", whether it be as the giver or receiver, are lessons that should make us a better, stronger persona, and that we should always learn from.

I have been hurt quite a few times in my day. I like to think of myself as someone who doesn't hold grudges. But I think that I do. I have a hard time forgiving myself sometimes for things that I have done in my life. I know that people make mistakes but if they truly want me to forgive them they really need to make a sincere apology. I haven't gotten too many apologies that I feel I deserve. There are some people that I do forgive but can't forget. I guess it is all depending on what they have done and the magnitude of it.

I'm not a person who easily forgets, so how much more in forgiving...I'm a person who believes in practices the saying of the 'golden rule", so i don't want to do to others what I don't like to do unto me. So if someone hurts me, it would take me a very long time to forgive and forget.

I never forget and it's rare that I forgive lol (there's always exceptions to prove the rule). The word forgive means to "wipe the wrongdoing away". I don't keep track of the little wrongs, only the big ones, so this is not something that I can easily do. With me, a person has to worry to balance the records, no matter who you are or how much I love you. Depending on the wrongs or how many of them there are, this could take some time and effort on your part. Usually does, lol. No one's made it to the balance, yet. But I'm still young and there's still time, heh. Anyway, this cannot be defined as forgiveness, because it does not get struck from the record, nor my memory.

When I am hurt by someone I may forgive them but I do not forget. I find it very very difficult to forget the hurt.

For me, it goes both ways. I guess it just depends on the person that done the wrong. Like a few of my ex-bf's, some i can never forget, but others i have. I have forgiven them all and are still friends with a few. But mostly i will probably never forget.

if any outsider hurts u its easy to forgive as u dont know him n its bychance u have met him n not going to meet him again. but in case of realtives its difficult to forgive as u come-a-cross them again n again n as u come-a-cross them u always remember what had happened n feel hurt n u cannot forgive that person, but if u really like him or her n close to u it will be a little easier to forgive n also to forget. but if it happens with ur family members very close to u , stay in front of u all the time its really difficult to forgive them n also forget them, as u expect somethings else from them n u get something different which u have not at all expected, in those situations it becomes even more difficult to not even forgive n forget but also us to live with them. this is what i think , according to me , n what do u feel wheather i m right or wrong?

i can forgive but not forget. cause its a lesson that you have to learn. so dont forget. hard to forgive but im giving it a try.