Unruly kid.. how do you deal with it?

I think it is the fault of the parents and not the child for his unruly behaviour.I have also seen many parents ignoring the bad behaviour of their kids and in some cases approving it also.Parents should realize that bad behaviour is unacceptable in society.Right from the young age they should teach good behaviour.No doubt it is the reflection of his training in the home.However sometimes it is also the peer pressure which prompts kids to behave in certain manner.In that case parents should correct their children in friendly manner.

It's actually on the parents that I really get mad! Why the hell they don't discipline their children? Actually foolishness is really bound in the heart of a child but we are not parents for nothing. Parents should lead them so that they will know what is right and what is wrong. That is why, you are very right in saying that a child reflects how he is trained at home. And he can also reflects his parents as well. Well I myself is a Sunday School teacher and I have lots of children to teach every time and I most of the time has to deal with unruly kids. But a strict teacher that I am, I by the grace of God was able to discipline them most of the time at least while they are in my class. Now in their own houses I hope they will also get to bring the good trainings I've implanted on them. Have a very nice day!

You can say that again. Parents are the first teacher of their teacher and what parents behave do have a great effect on their children. Unfortunately, many don't behave themselves while they are quite hard on their kids. A good quality is formed as they are young and so is a bad one. Hence, I do think parents should behave themselves first and care much about their children's as well.

I agree with you, I get really upset when parents do not tend to their children! How can these precious little people possibly learn how to become responsible, respectable adults if no one trains them. "Train a child in the way he should go and that when he is old he will not stray from it."

That drives me nuts as well. It's all a matter of how the parents control the kids. When I see this both my kids and I just look at each other. It's difficult for me to explain to my little ones how such acts are acceptable by a parent. Even my kids are aware that it is not good.

My kids are ages 5 and 3 and they are good kids, they are sweet and kind and thoughtful but as they say kids will be kids, they are so active and they play a lot but I can say they are really well behaved. Sometimes though it's hard to tell them not to speak when I am talking to someone else and this kids have this attitude that when someone is present (a visitor) they would act out differently. Maybe they thought that I would not react on them since someone is there. At first I really don't get mad at them when we have visitors but seeing how they always react, I now told them that even if there are visitors mommy would be mad if you did something bad. from then on they behave even there are visitors. Is your kids like that?

for me, if i see that is happening right in front of my eyes and i think that it is a bit too much, then i will definitely say something to the parents... i can't stand unruly kids as well... especially if they disturb the public... i will definitely say something either to the kids or the parents to do something about it... take care and have a nice day...

Hi Bebs, [i]I agree about that..I have a very close friend whose kid is very hyperactive and will roam around the house and scatter every arrangements we have..I hate it but I also don't like to insult my friend..I will wait her to stop the kid but she is just up to words like "hey stop that", what will you expect from a kid, she will not stop of course! It's sad really not to train the kids at a very young age how to behave but I know others are very successful in doing so! I guess in my friend's case, she just shout a lot and no soft advises that will internalize to the baby![/i]

Give an unruly kid a good slap and you'd be amazed at the result. I know that in the US and other countries this is against the law but a good clout is an effective way of dealing with unruly behaviour everytime.

Where are the days, when the misbehaving child would be swiftly quieted with stern and corporal punishment. And after the child has stopped crying from the sting on his /her rear end you find out who the child belongs to.

I wouldn't know what to do, I've seen kids like that too, and the parents don't say anything to them, just let them act like that. Don't they get tired of their kid being a brat? I know alot of people don't agree out there, but I would take him home and spank his bottom or take him outside, thats what I would of got when I was younger, and it didn't kill me, I didn't dare act like that in front of my grandparents, they wouldn't think twice about getting you right there in front of everybody. I think I turned out just fine..lol.

I see that kids who are unruly only shows what kind of discipline the parents give that child. I think that parents should be firm in discipling their children along with love if they want to see that they are good parents.

It is almost always true that the behavior of the child is a reflection of how he is disciplined at home - children who are given too much leeway are generally either whiney kids who cling to mommy's skirt - or unruly kids like you're talking about. Once that behavior is established, it's VERY hard to correct it and make the child take the parents seriously. The parents needs to be absolutely firm about the rules and very clear about the rules - and the consequences, whether it be time outs, grounding, loss of priveledges, or spanking, for those families that do spank. Once the rules and consequences are laid out, they must be followed WITHOUT FAIL for it to work. Even going one time without punishing the child for bad behavior is simply reinforcing that the parents aren't going to stick to the discipline. Parents that can't control their kids irk me. Every kid is out of control once in a while, but the ones that are always out of control and the parents just watch like nothing's happening make me want to scream.

If my kid is being unruly I set her straight, I have no problem disciplining my child if we are out or at home. If the child is not mine and it isn't directly affecting me I usually let it slide and hope the parents can deal with it when they are alone with their child. If it is directly affecting me I will ask the parents to get a handle on their child and if they don't I will ask the child to behave.

For the most part I believe that how a child acts is a result of training. But also influences outside the home have a great deal to do with how the children acts. As peer pressure and other things don't help much.