she ran a good race and she fought a good fight
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
Malaysia
August 14, 2008 5:29am CST
I will like to share with you about a woman ... she struggled through all her life with her husband .. He used to beat her for glory .. She was so young .. she was a pet child when she was with her family and the stranger called husband beats her everyday ..
I saw him kicking her, pulling her hair and banging her on the wall but was not able to help ..
One time I saw her sitting down on the floor, eating rice ... crying and pushing (forcing ) the food into her mouth .. as the tears keeps chocking
She looked at me and said .. i have to eat, i have to be alive to take care of all of you .. God ! That picture is stuck in my eyes .. Even now seeing in makes tears fall from my eyes
Yes she was my mother .. She is still around ..still with my father , along the years father mellowed down as we grew older .
She raised 4 good kids, with 3 of us graduated and earning well.. Only my sister failed.. she was the eldest and saw more then us the younger ones .. until now my sister is not married .. and still staying with my parents
Share with me if you know some other people that have won the race of life
Thank You
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@intimate36 (1415)
• Pakistan
14 Aug 08
Very sad story...You are the luckiest person to have such a mother....You should be thankful to GOD , for giving you such a mother...
I lost my mom...when i was only 3 years old...Can't remember her face....If had a mother...like you...this world would have been something else for me...I missed her a lot , when I was young...especially when I got a step mother...
@intimate36 (1415)
• Pakistan
14 Aug 08
I agree with you ....It is because of her blessing...and won't forget to give the credit to my childhood teachers....By Grace of GOD and through my mothers blessings , I got such good teachers....
I took my children , when I traveled almost 3000 kms to see my childhood teachers....
BTW so nice of you , for your kind words
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 08
really sorry , you have grown into a good person because of your mothers blessing and overlooking you from heaven. do not forget to pray for her. hope that your step mother treated you well
thanks
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 08
Yes she is a warrior .. but if you see her, she does not look like a fighter at all, there was one time my teacher saw my mother and he pulled me aside and told me to take care of that women she is so fragile , she looks like she can break into pieces anytime
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Hi sanjana,
[i]This is very sad..I hope this time your father realized already how cruel he was to your good mother and begin to change!
I have known a close friend who is like this, they got married because she was pregnant and she was in love madly to the guy and she knows the guy loves another girl and all throughout their marriage, it was very painful for her!
I have no heard from her when I move! I wish she is happy now since she got 1 kid that time! She was abused physically and emotionally![/i]
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 08
Yes the emotional pain is the worst .. or my mother, she gave up almost everything in her life .. she don have any likings of her own.. she only lived for us the children ..
I wont say my father was bad .. he was just lost , he did not know right from wrong. We all love our father, because he did not neglect us or our education. He saved lots of money for my mother, so if anything happens to him she can still carry on ..
he loves her in his own way...
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Hi sanjana,
Those are maybe trials in their relationship!
@sweetierook (311)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Your Mother was a very brave woman. She sacrificed alot. Not only has she suffered, but it has deeply effected you children. Mabye your sister is afraid to leave because she has grown up afraid to leave your mother alone with him. We can never know the burden that being the oldest has brought to her. I wish your family well. I pray that your father find forgiveness and your mother finds peace.
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@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 08
Yes .. my sister is more comfortable being alone rather than committing her life to some stranger .. She is happier now ... Both my parents are happy now .. They have each other ... but the arguments my parents have nowdays are so funny .. they argue on stupid movies.. neighbours ...
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
14 Aug 08
Hi sanjana..
Thats so sad to hear. Still your father continues the same huh?? Everyone of you are earning and you people can keep her with yourself right? Have you 4 tried to stop the fight? How will your father react for that?
Hey you 4 are really lucky enough to have such a wonderful mom. She has struggled enough for you people. Make sure that she doesn't shed anymore tears.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 08
hi,no he changed , he became a better person. would you believe if i said, he never beat any of us ... never once, when we started to grow bigger .. he stopped by himself
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@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
14 Aug 08
Wow.. Very difficult to understand your father. Anyway its nice to hear that everything is ok now. Enjoy your life. All the best.
@imkissha (10)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
sanjana,
i consider your mom a hero.she takes all the blows your dad gives her yet,she remains strong for all of you.i think i understand why your sister hasn't married yet.maybe she doesn't want to end up beaten like your mom.
my dad beats up my mom when we were young but my mom stood her ground and fought back.she decided to separate from my dad as she was thinking about the effects it might have on us,her children.when my dad got sick,he asked forgiveness from my mom and she forgave him.he passed away few months after.my mom is happy being single now.
i do hope that your dad will remember the person he loved your mom for and treat her differently.BRAVO to your mom.she has won a great race.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 08
you mother is a very couragoues woman ... she is a winner in her own ways
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
15 Aug 08
i really salute your mother and it just shows the never ending love of a mother that will sacrifice everything for her children... even her own life... that's why i always admired all mothers and i never dare to disrespect my mother... i love my mother as well for all that she had sacrificed for me... hope everything is all well now for you and your parents... take care and have a nice day...
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
15 Aug 08
I have no words after reading this.
Bless you and your family. May God especially bless your mom who loved you all so dearly and gave selflessly.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 08
i was not a very religious person in my younger days but every corner assistance came to me.. it was my mothers prayers that protected me ...now i pray for her .. thank you
@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
15 Aug 08
Wow. This topic has me choked up, as it is a topic that is sensitive to me in the fact that I have an issue with abusers. I will just say that I'm glad to hear you all survived, your mother is no longer having to live that way. I would not say your sister has failed, assuming she is the caregiver for your parents. She too is a survivor of what your family went through.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 08
What you say is true, she is now the care giver for my family as the other 3 are out of our house and staying elsewhere .. She takes care of both of them. She is a survivor in her own way .. thank you
@wildatheart (63)
• India
15 Aug 08
Hi sanjana what a "strong" mom you have...i can totally relate with you because of my parents marriage wasnt a great one too ..my mom had to go through a lot emotionally ..though she has never been beaten physically.I had always admired and appreciated my mom for being so strong. Both our moms are winners indeed!:)
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 08
Yes .. woman go through alot of emotional stress .. and they always succeed in coming up the winner .. I love my mother and I love yours too
