how to forget a people or somethings?
By chenmeiyi
@chenmeiyi (972)
China
August 15, 2008 10:03am CST
in life,there are really somethings need us to remember as well as
somethings need us to forget.i cant handle this for a long period
of time,it has been about one year.i fell into the depth of just
remembering instead of forgetting.life is realistic,so i know i should
face the reality and don't always dwell on the things which i will
never reach,like love.it cant be grasped from the bottom of his heart,
it has its own natural ways to come.but i still follow my fault intuition.
what can i do?how can i forget someone in a short period of time?
starting a new love is not the things i want now because i want to stay alone.
what about other ways?how do you handle this problem?thx for share.
i want to have motivation again to do my own things,to concentrate on my
study,to play happily with friends,to enjoy the beautiful scenery outside,
to own a relaxed mindset,to shake off this blue period.
8 responses
@polaris714 (607)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
I can't say there's a surefire way to forget someone, especially if the memories are pleasant. For me, since I couldn't succeed in forgetting someone special, I didn't try. I cherish the pleasant memories. If I really miss him, I play a beautiful memory of beautiful times together in my mind. If I get sad, I let myself cry it out. I always feel better afterwards.
And you know what? My best motivation for concentrating on my studies, and keeping myself in good shape is the thought that I might see him again. I want him to see that my world didn't end when he left, and that I am better, even more beautiful now after if he left and that's his loss.
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@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
17 Aug 08
It is a common experience and you will not suffer too much from those kind of feelings when you are more mature. You should not be painful about losing some thing. You still have a lot of opptunities in your life because you are young. There are still a lot of better opportunities waiting you to seek.
@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
17 Aug 08
yes,i should dwell on the positive sides,i am still young and i have so many opportunities waiting for me .so don't be sad any longer.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
16 Aug 08
for me, i keep on telling myself that there is no use in remembering the bitter past or bad experiences that happen in the past... it only makes our lives more miserable and we are not going anywhere... so i always try my best to forget the bitter past and move on with my life... the past is history for me to learn from and the future is for me to embrace and also brings many bright futures... take care and have a nice day...
@949011 (99)
• Singapore
16 Aug 08
No doubt someplace or somewhere which will reminds you of a particular person or event. I guess it actually depend on one self willpower to let go of the unhappy things. But the most importantly we must enjoy ourselves in life so WE MUST LET GO OF THE UNHAPPINESS and don't let if affect you for too long.
@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
15 Aug 08
Well it can be very hard to get the love of your life out of your mind.But when things do not work out, we must go on with our lives. Get rid of all of the reminders of this man, all photos,everything he ever gave you, try not to go where you will see him. Think of the negitive things of the relationship instead of the possitive things. Make ypurself realize you are better off without him, there is someone better out there for you.Find something else to do with your time, hobby or something . Spend time with your friends, get out and do things.Take walks, go to the park.
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I would put all things in a box and put in closet. Unless you really loved it. As later you can take it out look at it and go yes that was a good year. If all you think of is negitive then you will become that. You don't want that. I lost a good man once and I didn't see him for 16 years. And now we are dating again. So you see sometimes. Things just turn out way different. I never got rid of pic. of us or of place's that we went. As that was a part of my life not just his. Now I still have them and He laughed as he had gotten rid of then and now it's wow lool how young I was. lol. Yes you will hurt. But you will get stronger because of it. Have a wonderful Day and happy mylotting.
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@tapnaroy12 (875)
• India
15 Aug 08
hi chenmeiyi
It seems you too much mentally disturbed. I;m not going to preach you. Just sharing my views. I don't think there is any formula for such a problem. But may be if you make a sincere effort to forget something or somebody, you can start it just by trying to tell yourself to forget whenever it comes up in your mind. That is, say NO (this NO is to remind yourself that you have to forget, so don't recall or rethink) strongly whenever past memories creeps in your mind. Do it regularly.
That's how I have managed to tackle few things which I wanted forget.
@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
16 Aug 08
hi,tapnaroy,thanks very much,i will try as you said,
just consciously keep telling myself that i have to
forget those memories,forget,forget,that's the only
way that i can solve the problem,not to regain past
memories in mind.take care.
@venuschd (50)
• India
16 Aug 08
i had only one reply for it..you cant forget the person who you truly loved..i mea ya life needs to go ..but thing is you cant stop also..you carry on your love..keep the love that you had for earlier person in safe...and do share a relation ..i mean healthy relation with other person..
but its only when..you really wanna start something new..
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
16 Aug 08
Hi dear
Things happened in life
and its stored in ur life, with passage of time u forget it and u put it in some far part of ur brain. U know the decesion we take and either they are good or bad, become part of experience and u learn from it. Ur Future decesion are based on it,
So all i would say just relax and take things as they come, get ur self engaged in other things, the more u keep ur mind busy and occupied more easy it will be to forget unwanted memories
Take care
@chingbeem (910)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
hi chen, there are times that circumstances are forgotten fast, but there are others too that it takes a better experince first,before you forget. hurting experiences will make us wish we will suffer amnesia to make them go away. but it is not how it is...let me share this line with you which caught my attention when I was reading Pulo Coehlo's book Brida:
DISAPPOINTMENT,DEFEAT AND DESPAIR ARE THE TOOLS GOD USES TO SHOW AS THE WAY.
Hope this could be of help.
