How old were you when you left home?
By Humbug25
@Humbug25 (12540)
August 15, 2008 2:28pm CST
I was 16 when I left the family home to make a life of my own. In England it is against the law for a minor to live on their own unless the landlord has written permission from a parent. I guess my mum thought I would be back after a couple of weeks needing my washing done, so she gave her permission. But I didn't, in fact I never went back. I don't have or never have had a bad relationship with my mother I just wanted to be totally independant and that was it.
How old were you when you left home? Did you regret the desision or did you wish you had done it sooner?
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
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16 Aug 08
My mother and I had a very bad altercation when I was 16. I left home and was very fortunate that a cashier in the local bank picked me up the same day and I went to stay with her for a week. I learned things there that I can't write about here! I then moved on, came back, went to college, left college, got a job, moved to Devon then Oxfordshire, moved to London, went to Germany, came back to London, married and moved here to Salisbury etc etc. Mum and I get on well now though.
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@austere (2812)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
well, i am still at home. i still live with my parents and i am already 22. umm.. that's how we Filipinos are. it's part of the culture. the children leave the house once they are married. as long as they are single, they stay in their parents house! and i am very comfortable with it.. there are even some Filipinos who live with their parents even if they have their own family. it's like extended family kind of thing, but in my own family, we don't do that, we would separate from our parents home once we get married, and i think that's good compared to staying with the same house as your parents even if you already have your own family!
@austere (2812)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Same here. if i get married someday.. soon.. i dont know when exactly but my boyfriend and i are talking about settling in the future.. in the near future.. we of course should live in a separate house and start to live our lives together..on our own. Privacy as a marriage couple of course is important and decision making is sometimes influenced by the parents if married couple continue to live in the parents house. so it is always the best option to live on your oen with your life partner after marriage. that will also help you to become independent and solve whatever problems and trials as married couples together.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
16 Aug 08
since my family was very poor i left my home or family since i was 19 but for good.i went to a big city to find a job and can study during the night and no regrets coz since then i become a matured minded and has a high ambition in short i was trying hard to finished my study. sweat and pain i passed all that thanks God i am sucessful.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
16 Aug 08
thanks for the complimenst and thanks to you too with your topic.
@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
16 Aug 08
I was 18 when I left my family and enter a college. It is not far away from my hometown but it is not easy to get there. It will take me 21 hours to get there if every thing is smoothly. I will change different vehicles 4 times and sometime I have to wait for the train.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
19 May 11
I was 21 when I left home to take on a first job at a different city. I was away from home for about 6 months until I decided to quit taking on a job just near where my mom was living. So I moved again with her. I permanently moved out from home when I was 24 when I relocated again because of work. I had ever since lived on my own up to the time I got married and raised a family of my own.
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@CopyPaper (228)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
I don't have had a bad relationship with my parents, too. But I was also left the ancestral house when I was 16, that was when I left for school in college which was miles away from home. It was my first time that made me much more independent.
I just visit them and spend my vacation once in a while. Even now.
@WiteNgtOwl (304)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I was 17 when I left home. I got married and had my first baby at 19. I wanted to be independent to, but after a few years I went back to my moms. I think things would of been alot better if I wasnt married.
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@snowy22315 (180362)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I left home when I was 19 to go to college and more or less permantely when I was 21.
I came back briefly when I was out of a job when I was 23. I dont regret leaving home at that age but when my son was young and I was divorced I should have moved closer to home so he could have had a more secure upbringing.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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16 Aug 08
I was 17 when I left for good, and although I did have to go back for a while it was not for long. I wish that I had not left under the circumstances that I did and had been a bit more in control of myself. But I too was very independant and took to living on my own really well.
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@skenthal (1020)
• Turkey
16 Aug 08
i still live at home and i am 20. i like that i dont have to pay for anything and everything gets washed/cleaned, and well i dont have to deal with finding food. but i would love to move out. as soon as i graduate from university i am going to move out. i cant wait. most of my friends are in the same situation as me, so maybe i can move in with one of my buddies and we can share the burden and chores. still its going to be fun when it happens.
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@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I left home actually at 21 to be on my own. I don't think that my mother never wanted me to leave, but in a way I think that Ishould have stayed a little bit longer at her house. I don't think I was mature enough to be out on my own.
@jackliuliu (20)
• China
16 Aug 08
when i left i was 18 and i went to another big city to work.It was really hard at first .
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@prinzess1515 (1341)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I left home at when I was 21 and with a one month old baby. It was pretty scary.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
16 Aug 08
i only left my house completely when i get married with my hubby... that is when i am 27... before that, i study overseas and also away from my parents... but i always go back to them during holiday... now that i am married, i have my own house and try not to bother my parents as much as i can... take care and have a nice day...
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@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
16 Aug 08
well, i left home at the same age of you but i was still dependent on my family until last year i finally finished my university education.
I don't regret for this because i think i have to get at least the bachelor's degree to find a job in the society. And i studied the right thing that i am interested and now i am using it as a tool to earn a living...
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@RhythmWalker1 (825)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I was 19, had a job and could pay my own bills.
If you are a responsible person and can take care
of yourself, find your own way in life.
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@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Latins tends to stay at home until they marry so in my case I left home when I was 33! Both has its plus and minus sides. Living with mummy is good you do not have to pay bills and all that, but no privacy. Living by yourself lots of responsibility but lots of freedom so it depends what you need and want for your life!
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@lyy284891086 (623)
• China
16 Aug 08
I remeber the first time i leave my family is 7 years ago ,i am 18 years old ,that time i am to a high school i have no choise ,and at last i have to come back each month . i think it is very hard to pass for the first because in the past i had never leave my parents ,even a day. now i remebered that , i think it just nothing for me .
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@charnley123 (3)
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16 Aug 08
I was 17 when I went to University.
I don't remember the first year as being particularly enjoyable, but my brother didn't leave home until his mid-20's.
I go crazy after 4 hours staying at their place now
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