Jealousy
By Mickie30
@Mickie30 (2626)
August 17, 2008 11:16am CST
My husband has just heard from a friend he hasn't heard from in years. She rang him up telling him that she had just split up with her husband and that he has gone off with another woman. My husband was friends with both of them and she has been left with two children. Now she has rang a lot since she spoke again to my husband completely out of the blue. I feel really jealous which I hate and every time she phones I get worried. I wonder if she really wants to have a relationship with my husband and even though he has said that he doesn't want a relationship with her I am worried because all the other men in my life have cheated on me or done something bad to hurt me. My question is do I have a right to be jealous? Do you think my fears are justified? Would you be worried if this was you?
Also this guy who was my husbands friend has said that my husband kissed his friend and that one of the children saw them kissing. The child has said she has not seen them kissing and my husband and his friend say they didn't kiss, but I am worried. Thanks for any responses.
7 responses
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
8 Apr 10
The fact that you've been cheated on in the past makes it hard to trust ppl...been there, felt that...all you can do is try to trust and talk to your husband about your feelings. Maybe putting it on the other foot...if it was an old flame of yours calling up all the time, how would he feel. I hope it worked out for you.
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@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
ofcorse you have all the right to get jealous especially that girl is your husband ex-girlfriend, If i were you I will talk and be frank to my husband, that knowing they are talking and the girl keep on calling him,and he also entertain the girl hurts you most.,yes we need to trust our husband, but if the girl keeps on calling him?well that's another story, you should talk to that girl too..tell her do not bother your husband anymore,your husband can't help her in her problem.try to solve it all by herself with out bothering anyone.
@Theresam (1177)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Take a step back. This is more about trusting your husband and than this lady that keeps on calling him. it sounds like you have been hurt before and you think your husband is going to cheat on you. I think you need to some deep soul searching about how you are handling this.
@sugarplum9084 (1771)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Sounds like that is not a good situation for a wife to be in. Even if nothing was going on, I believe that you have a right to be jealous, because I would be too! You should make your position known, and tell him exactly everything that you you wrote up there and get him to understand how you feel about all of this, even if it is just an innocent reuniting. Perhaps suggest to get involved with both of them, for example if he goes to visit her, suggest that you tag along with him, make sure it is not anything more than he says it is, be involved! You have all the right to. Good luck with everything, I hope you find out more about this and eventually are comfortable, or more so I hope that she just leaves him alone! Happy mylotting!
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I think that you are justified in this and I too would feel the same way if my husband's ex called him every day after she had broken up with her husband. I would inform your husband of how you feel about the whole situation.
@theskerne (33)
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9 Jan 10
I have just seen your comment and was just wondering how things are between you and your husband and what the outcome was
@rup011 (725)
• Germany
17 Aug 08
I think your fears are justified. May I would have the same worries if I were you. You should try an open discussion with your husband and convey him all your fears. I am sure he will understand. I think prevention is better than cure. But do not get into a fight because of this other woman. your husband may feel that you do not trust him. So you have to be careful at the same time strong. Give him a strong signal as well as that women. Relationships can change. But still its better to avoid suspicion.
