Should we earned respect? Or should we just give it instantly?

I think everyone has the right to be respect.but sometimes people lose that respect by their actions.and when that happens,they need to earn that respect back.

You have raised up a complicated question here. I am quite confused actually. There are two cases which I can think of. I think the people that we give respect to are those people who we really need to pay respect to. They don't need to earn respect from us before we respect them. Example our parents and elderly in our family. They are expected to be respected. But if in case of role model in our society like our leaders for our country,I think they should earn their respect from us before we pay respect to them.

Respect is earned but from everyone else. From your family, it should be given freely. If you want people to respect you, you should learn to respect them in return. In our country, it is a MUST to show respect to your parents and ANYONE older than you are. If not, you will look really bad in their eyes.

I think the respect that you give others automatically, is probably better thought of as good manners. politeness. which all people automatically deserve, unless they prove themselves unworthy of it. and then true respect, which is always something you earn, when you hold someone in higher regard than most people, on account of their wisdom, hard work, honourable nature or kindness. this isn't earned through age or thinking you deserve it, but through acts which deserve respect.

I think its half and half until the other person screws up and you lose that respect for them personally I am more on the respect should be earned side.

I have respect for everyone, be they strangers, friends, or family...until they give me a reason NOT to respect them. Then they must earn it back. I feel this way because I wouldn't want someone to have no respect for me or my feelings/space/thoughts etc just because they didn't know me well. I think until you have a solid reason NOT to respect a person, you should give them at least a little respect as a human being, if not as a friend.

Theres certain boundaries everyone should respect toward others and than theres respect that needs to be earned.

I do believe is the saying that don't do to others things that you don't want to do to you. So what is the connection of this saying to respect. We should give respect to anyone, whether he or she is not that worthy to receive that respect. So in return we will received the same respect that we gave. No body is perfect but everyone has the right to receive respect.

I am respectful of those I meet which is different than respecting someone. I respect those who earn my respect by their actions. Great question by the way. This was a issue between my mother-in-law and I early in my marriage. She was quite disrespectful of me and my place as wife. She often made demands, often would say that my husband should return home leaving me behind, often would say other equally mean cruel things. Then demanded that I owed her respect since she was my MIL. Funny that, she and I are not that far apart in age - only 8 years really. I told her that she will need to earn my respect by her actions and behavior not simply through her position. We had a long discussion on the issue. My place as wife gave me specific "rights" and "priveledges" that superceded her postion as mother. Her son owed her respect as his mother, I didn't deny this nore expect that he would give her less than what he owed. However, he did not owe her more nor could he "pay" her before he "paid" me. This means he could not shortchange the household for her needs. It was a long time before she "got" this but finally she did. I am this way with everyone. Respect is earned. Good manners, respectfulness is simply a sign of a good upbringing.

well i always respect everyone no matter what. one thing that does get on my nerves when you are out and say something to a stranger and they look at you like you are stuipd.. but i don't say anything nasty to them just smile and say have a nice day. but i belive if you want treat and respect other as you would like yourself to be treated it will come back around to us. and for those few that don't oh well and they are jerks and will have to answer for it one day. i am a true beliver in what goes around comes around.. seen it happen so many times and it's funny as hell

Well as they say "Respect is never asked for it is earned"Well it is simple to earn respect from others not to ask or give it to them. Just remember to respect them too and surely you'll get their respect.

I was taught to respect everyone, young and old. But the older I get I feel more that people should earn their respect. Too many people are just so rude and hateful and they feel that respect should just be theirs. Well it's not. My husband and I were just discussing this over our last trip to the city. You wouldn't believe how many "older" people were just downright rude. What happened to saying "Thank You" or "Excuse me"? I'd like to think that everyone has the ability to respectful. Why can't they show it?

There is no question of earning respect. Give respect to others and you will get respect, even one should give respect the nature.

For me, even a tiny animal is deserved to be respected. Respect is like a gift you can give to anyone all the time. I don' believe in the saying '' respect is not given it is earned''. For me ''Give respect and earn respect''

respect??? our dumb mind and heart knows that!!!we dont need anyone to tell us.. our unconscious mind will tell us that we respect one!!! uhm,,, respect cannot be earn!!!!sorry to offend some!

I feel that everyone deserves respect until they show us that they are not worthy of our respect. As we are created equal we should be treated equal and to me that is part of respecting everyone until such time as they show what kind of person they are. I was taught that we are always respectful especially to older people and than I leaned that their are situations where we be respectful but still very cautious of a person. Showing courtesy does not necessarily mean you have to respect a person.

i tend to always give my respect from the beginning and continue to give it unless they give me reason to do otherwise

This is one of the best discussion questions I have seen. It is a very good inquiry. I would have to say that I truly believe in giving respect all of the time to people and animals. I do not ask for anything from anyone. I do understand that I might not receive the same kind of respect that I would like but I like to treat people the way I would want to be treated. I don't feel that I necessarily have to earn anyone's respect or vice versa. Thank you for your question.