How many people do you talk to?
By Ruth Belena
@paid2write (5201)
August 18, 2008 8:06am CST
I think myLot discussions are like conversations. Some of them are with strangers, others are with familiar friends. Maybe that is why I do well here, I have always enjoyed talking with people and having a good conversation.
What if in real life we all had a number, like at myLot, and every conversation we have at home, at work, with strangers, with friends and with our families would count. If phone conversations were included you could end up with a personal count of millions!
Do you enjoy conversation, and do you think myLot discussions are real conversations?
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13 responses
@rbailey83 (1428)
• Canada
18 Aug 08
yes i enjoy conversations, some can be very interesting, motivational, funny, and uplifting. I would say that MyLot discussions CAN be real conversations. I say can because it all depends on the person who posted the topic and those that respond. If the person who posted the topic continues to write responses that the responder can in turn respond to again, it turns into a conversation, unfortunately, some post a topic and never reply to the responses, so it just depends
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@paid2write (5201)
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19 Aug 08
Yes that's true. If there are no comments to responses in a discussion we don't even know if the person who started it is reading what others are saying about their topic.
@rbailey83 (1428)
• Canada
19 Aug 08
yeah, and it sucks too because sometimes it is an interesting topic, and could be an interesting conversation but the topic starter doesn't allow it to keep going, but there are always those that do, so you just learn to put more effort into those that do with your responses and see where it goes from there
@revellanotvanella (4033)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Great way to think of Mylot and outside of it. I am not the real chatty type, never have been, unless I find someone that I cliche with well, and often times I find that I can tell a person I have a lot in common right away and its strange because they always turn out being teachers, it happened today at the park! If someone talks to me off the street I will chat it up but no I dont go out of my way but I see it has a worthwhile goal and man, what if every time did count, what if it does, I think I would become my cheesy bubbly self and stop caring about what others would think of my silly topics, I was like this in high school and I do miss that part of me. Thanks for pointing that out and its worth a try. I dont even talk with my family but for special occasions and I always admired some in my family who always send their greeting cards out. I think I set the standards too high for myself where everything has to be just right, I cant just send a letter, I have to send pictures with the greeting card AND the letter and for me to actually gather that up Its late, should just send the letter and catch up with the rest later.
@paid2write (5201)
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19 Aug 08
You obviously think about what you say and that's a good thing. I have never enjoyed small talk or meaningless chatter, I prefer talking with people who have something interesting to say.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
18 Aug 08
i never count how many people i talk to everyday here... but i never think that mylot discussions like a real conversations though because it just feels different... i didn't meet the person face to face and i am only typing away... i don't even know the face expressions or the tone of the person that i am talking to when he/she is typing the discussions... so i didn't feel really like a real conversation... take care and have a nice day...
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@paid2write (5201)
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19 Aug 08
When you talk to someone on the phone you can't see their expression, but you can hear it in their voice. Sometimes emotions can be expressed in writing, or by adding smilies.
@PearlGrace (3171)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Hi paid2write.
I do enjoy conversation. Especially, I like learning new things and hearing about new or interesting situations. For these reasons, I, too, very much enjoy myLot. I think some of the discussions on myLot are "real conversations". Other ones, are just quick answers without too much thought taken to respond.
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@paid2write (5201)
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18 Aug 08
Yes I think you may be right PearlGrace. Some discussions will never become true conversations, if the responses don't add anything to the subject.
@xplp211 (253)
• China
18 Aug 08
I agree with you that myLot discussions are conversations. And I think that is why I do not well here. The role I am always playing in my life is a listener, and I used to listening to others rather than talking with them.
You really do well at myLot and you must do the same well in your life. Do you have any advice to me to improve my communication with others?
To reply to your questions, at myLot I rarely talk to others, I just express myself and my opinions which I think may be helpful. And I enjoy listening to conversations.
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@paid2write (5201)
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18 Aug 08
I think everything you say at myLot is contributing to the conversation/discussion, and your opinions and advice will always be valued.
Good communication is as much about listening as it is about talking. People who don't listen to what others say are poor communicators.
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@intimate36 (1415)
• Pakistan
18 Aug 08
Yes ,I enjoy conversations ....no matter with strangers, others are with familiar friends....
And , I think not all discussions to be real....
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
27 Dec 08
Excellent thoughts here, and I can relate with this one as well. Many times when I am talking with people I would Love to be able to converse with them and get their feelings back on things like we can here on myLot. Sometimes it happens but a lot of times I find it is just better to be able to take time and post back here in myLot instead. Not always sure why this is, but for me this is the way it is. Maybe it is because in real life many people are afraid to talk about some of the things we talk about in here afraid they might end up upsetting someone as well.
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@paid2write (5201)
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27 Dec 08
I think you are right KrauseHome, many of us would be afraid of discussing in person some of the topics we post about at myLot.
@Nan110 (469)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I enjoy talking to people. It releases the stress that I have. When I type something in the instant messenger the other person I'm talking to could tell how I'm feeling. I agree discussions are like conversations. Whatever what's bothering me or what's on my mind I can start a discussion and see who answers. I also enjoy making new friends.
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@paid2write (5201)
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10 Dec 08
Research has shown that people who are friendly and talk to others are less stressed, and often live longer, than people who keep to themselves. I think online conversations can help too. Happy myLotting.
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
20 Aug 08
Hi paid2write, i agree that the discussion are conversation. if we had stars in our life then i would have been on 8th place.. because i am not a good converser.. but i can debat and argue very nicely 
enjoy:)
enjoy:)@paid2write (5201)
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21 Aug 08
I would not have a high star in real life either, and I think my conversation count would be quite low, compared to most people.
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
18 Aug 08
I love talking full stop. I love the freedom of speech here... lol well you do get your hater's. I think that mylot is alot like the conversations you din't have with other people but have at some stage been running through your mind. I think that mylot is a good source of information for alot of things and i have about 30 or so of my friends that i check into their discussions kinda activly
@paid2write (5201)
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18 Aug 08
That's a good point you make about the conversations we all have in our heads, and how we can turn them into reality at myLot.
@godpower1k1 (424)
• United States
19 Aug 08
yes i like to have conversation but of 5 peoples ... only
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@paid2write (5201)
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19 Aug 08
Does that mean you don't want a conversation with more than five people at a time, or are there only five people you want to have a conversation with?
@chandana1 (56)
• India
4 May 09
hey nice question i have never noticed this and i will start counting from now.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I enjoy the interaction and I try and spend time responding to discussions in the no responses page and the myLot digest which are usually outside my circle of myLot "friends." I find I spend more time going back and forth conversation style with a few specific people though.
BTW, enjoyed your contribution to the soy vs cow milk debate.
