I am going to court next week

As far as waiting, that his how family court goes. When I use my private lawyer we are in and out in 5-10 minutes. However, this time I am using the Public DA to enforce the child support agreement and I know I will be in for a long day. I don't think there is anything "wrong" with the wife being there. He probably had her tag along to keep him company more than anything else. She can't say anything in the courtroom. It is weird, but not unheard of.

I do not think you are wrong, I would feel the same way. The child should be between you and your ex husband, not his new wife. It is good that you and her get along well, but some things she should not be involved with. Of course she is involved to a certain extent, but she should step back and let her husband handle this.

Well, as the wife of a man who pays child support for a child that we have only seen about 20 times in 14 years, let me say that the wait time is normal. I don't understand why the courts think that these men (and Women who pay) have so much free time on their hands. I almost always go to court with him even though I can't go in with him. I am there to support him. I also go to keep him company while he is there as I know that it will take awhile. I see nothing wrong with her being there as it is part of her life as well as his. I know that my husband pays it,but his support money is part of our family budget.

You are not being wrong for not wanting your ex husband's now wife there in court, as in my opinion, she must not be there because she has no concern with the child. Its a case just between you, your ex-husband and your child. The court also must have given summons to you and your ex-husband, not her. Your ex-husband may have brought her along to show to you that her new wife is more caring and stuff like that. I know its a man instict as I am a man too.

Well, in a way it does affect her, just not directly. Whatever decisions the court makes will affect the man she has chosen to be with. Whatever affects your ex-husband will also affect her. Different people just have different ways of handlinh things, your current husband can probably wait for you to tell him what happens in the court, but she's probably the type who prefers to be at the scene.

Hi there. I'm sorry for your situation. I know, being the child of divorced, remarried, and redivorced (this cycle is still continuing) parents how difficult the circumstances are for not only you and your ex, but your daughter as well. I don't think it's necessarily "wrong" of you to feel the way you do. I think it's natural. And from an unbias standpoint, perhaps this isn't what your ex-husband and his wife are thinking. It could be that she insists on being there to stand by her husband's side -- to support him during what is a difficult time for him as well. Maybe your ex-husband gets nervous in front of a judge and doesn't think he can face it alone, so he asked her to come along. Or maybe he knew it would take a while and wanted company. There could be several other reasons for her being there that do not imply she wants to take over for you or anything. Like I said, just because you are strong enough to face this without your husband, doesn't mean your ex is as strong as you are. Especially since the court wouldn't let her into the room, I don't think you should worry about it so much. Focus on what matters -- getting support to help raise your daughter. So long as that is taken care of, everything else will fall into place. Best of luck to you. -MK-

I know you do not want her there, but think of it from her point of view. She wants to stand by her husband and if she is not there, it might look bad. The judge can easily see her character by the way she acts, and if there was the matter of the custody whether your ex gets the child or you do, if the judge sees her chewing gum, tending to her nails, or other attitudes that show she would not be a good substitute mother, then that would influence the judge's decision in your favor. Now if she were to show that she would be a good support, then it might also influence the judge to give shared custody that would be a good idea and better for the child. OH and your husband is working and your ex probably should be working, but he has to take time off. I can understand how you feel, but it would be better for her to be in the courtroom so the judge can see what type of woman she is.

Well, it must be a difficult time for you. I don't want to make any conclusions and I don't oblige you to answer this questions or you might just answer these to your self; Why wouldn't you want her to be there? Is it because you can't admit that she and your ex is getting along well to the extent of making his business "her business"? Or you just feel bad to see her being there knowing that for some reasons you're there for the rights of your child? Please don't get me wrong for bringing these questions up. You don't need to give me the answer. Whatever your reasons or answers are, if I were you, I would feel the same but for me personally, I would feel that way only for one reason. It's a slap on the face to see him getting along with someone else (we didn't), and now being in court to legally ask him to attend his financial obligations to my child. Moreover, seeing your ex's wife would make you feel like she would disagree with any terms in the proceedings and there is a danger that your ex might just follow her opinions. This is just my personal outlook about the subject. Hope it makes sense to you...Good Luck!

Sorry you have to go through this. I know from experience fighting over child support can be one of the worst experiences EVER. I don't think you are wrong for not wanting the new wife there; I actually had a similar situation and felt the same way. Fortunately the law is on your side and since she is not a party to the case she has no legal standing to be in the courtroom. And yes the justice system moves verrry slowly so be prepared for another wait. Good luck