What do you do if the doctor tells you.....

She definitely has a delemma. I am 42 years old and for some time now have been contemplating having another child. Making a decision to have a child is very different than being told you are going to have a child. Even though I have thought about the possibilities, I would die if I found out I was pregnant. Good Luck to you and your friend.

Oohhhhh I would be horrified if that was me! That would just be my luck that would, well it would if it were possible but it is not anymore so is not something I have to worry about. This is quite a common thing though, I know a lot of people who became pregnant at a later age as a result of the menopause starting. I think if it was me I would be horrified, really horrified but at the same time I would not want to get rid of it. But then I would have to ask myself if I could really cope with it at that time of life, or if I wanted to give the rest of what would be my time up to raise a baby. I guess that is what your mate has to think of.

Well, if I found out now that I was pregnant and I'm retired and my youngest is 26 years old. Hummm, I'd do all I could while I could that I wanted to that I enjoy doing alone and start looking forward to the new member of the household. Babie don't compleletly stop us from doing what we want to do. It's just the feedings and some sleepless nights. That's part of the joy of having a little one. I'd start planning and buying. Enjoy shopping for things. Join the momma.com site. It helps new moms with all questions. My daughter is a member. And plan a baby shower. Becuase since it's the first child she will need everything. She don't work and has done many things in her life and has plenty of time to have a baby and enjoy the time with the little one. That's how I'd look at it. Not to mention she has enjoyed a fruitful life and has alot to offer a little one. Congrats to your friend on the new baby. After she gets over the shock of it all she will be fine.

Well it all depends of her ideas, but why not have the child if they can support and take care of the baby? Maybe is a perfect time for her I do not know! I know some women older than 50 trying to have a baby!

If i was her then i will be gladly happy because this is what i wanted the only problem is i am older now..But then i will continue my self being pregnant and i will be thankful for GOD giving me what i wish for before.I dont care even i am old and pregnant.I am sure i can still take care of my baby even i am alrady old.

That would be exciting and yet frustrating moment. The fact that you have accepted that you can no longer conceived and then suddenly you are pregnant. I would feel tricked, but after a while I guess I would be happy but I would think what future my kid will have. I maybe too old to care for my kid. I'll definitely have mixed emotions. So how was your friend now?

Hi lazeebee, I will accept it with open mind and heart..There is nothing as late in this world and since [i]they've been enjoying being together for a long period of time now is the right time to enjoy with another life with them! I hope they will accept the kid, that is their baby and who cares about the age? everything has a purpose in this world![/i]

Pregnant at 50!... if that happened to me... i think i will be very very happy... my daughter is only two years old... and when i am 50 she will be like 20 years old... and by that time she will be in college so i will be alone at home... but if i get pregnant... then i would have something to look forward to... a new baby to take care of and bring joy to my family... Your friend should consider the positive side of her condition... and not dwell on the negative... since she and her husband are childless... maybe this is the blessing they have been waiting for...

I just turned 50 a few days ago and I would probaly have a heart attack.I have 3 grown girls though and as I understand your friend has no children so she could make this the time of her life since she is retired and she could still enjoy her freedom with the help of her husband.She really needs to take a really deep breathe to begin with and talk to her husband before making any dissions.It would be a hard one to make,I hope she is healthy. Good luck and have a great night.

Well...If it were me, I would be happy. But I would brace myself and my family for an whirlwind of emotions from me. I remember my mood swings whie pregnant in my 20s & 30s. I would think they would be even more extreme in my 50s. But that is if it happened to me. I hope your friend and her husband can embrace the pregnancy as a gift from God. Even though they may not have the energy of a 20 year old, they have the advantage of maturity. Also, being retired, they have more time to devote to a child. My cousin had her first child at 45. It came as a total surprise as she had long ago accepted that she could not have children and lived her life accordingly. She and her husband travelled and made risky financial decisions that most of us with children would not have entertained. They have now adjusted their life to accomodate their young son and seem to be very happy.

i hate to say it but i dont think i would have it.. with her age and all the baby might have complications and my mom was 40 with me and thought she was going through the change and it ended up she was pregnant with me.. i know i have a lot of health probs and some other people i know that mother was way older than usual and had them have all been sickly too so i dunno if there is any connection but i know personally im not having kids and one reason is i dont wanna pass any health problems down and well with her age making the risk higher it would just make me more decided against it.. but that is me and not her and she may be in great health and everything be fine.. i know this must be an insane dilima since they havent had any other kids.. i feel for her in how she must be really conflicted.. but again my opinions are based on what i would do not that she SHOULD do that.. i wish her the best no matter what

WOW, i dont know what i would do. When i turn 50 my son will be 20, so um, yeah id be shocked. I would definitely have the baby (one cuz im against abortion) and as long as i am physically healthy (and i should be its not like 50 is old) and financially stable, and can give him/her a good home with all the necessities of life...i would do so. It could be interesting raising a baby now, compared to decades ago when she had her other children is so different, why not do it and take the challenge head on.

Ooh, lazeebee, that is a dilemma! I personally don't believe in abortion, except in cases where the baby or mother is in jeopardy. That being said, however, I do think that she and her husband should discuss all the pros and cons of having a baby at this stage of their lives. Only they can decide if this is something they want to do or not. There are so many considerations to be made for a pregnancy at her age. I don't think convenience should be one of those considerations. As I said, I feel they really need to do some soul-searching, and, then they should make a decision that they can live with. Good luck to your friend.

god works in miracle ways ... he has given her the gift of life.. finally .. me n hubby are trying to have one .. have not been able to ... she should not think that her freedom is going to be cut-short due to this changes ... WELCOME the child with open heart .. Only 1 advice, she has to think of plan B for the child's future is the event something .. happens to her or her husband .. plan B is related to financial security and someone that can take care of him/her ... but looking at the current life span of human, she will only be 70 when the child turns 20 so ... go ahead welcome him (sorry for this negative note but if the child carries any symptoms of non-healthy, down syndrom ...then it is better to let go, as there wont be anyone out there to take care of him when she is gone ...)