Have you ever felt trapped in your relationship?

I have been in that situation. I am in it now. But the greatest thing about my situation is that I am not married. This maybe hurtful advise but maybe the both of you is just not meant to be together. It is tough I know I am a single mother. I have a boyfriend and I met up with an old fling. And I feel that he can provide for my children and I better the my boyfriend can. I really want to have more children but my boyfriend doesn't not to say that this old fling does. Right now, I am just playing it by ear. I can't find myself to break it off because he is a great boyfriend. He has done not to hurt me. There is a big age different: my boyfriend is 8 years older than I am and my old fling is 20+ older than I am. I I am just weighing my options is what I am really trying to tell you. I saw this on a movie once: You should write down all the things you love about each other and all the things you hate then, if one out weighs the other than theres your answer. Let me know if you would like to talk we can email each other. The best thing to have when you are going through these things is someone to talk to. Someone who can help you keep your spirits up.

hi trusko we(husband & wife) are 2 different human being with different views on things and life. i gather from your statements that you love him and want to make the relationship work ... there are many things you can do, first of all do not forget to you must do all that you can to get your romance burning .. i see that you and your husband are really trapped but do not let it affect your relationship, find simple/easy & cheap ways to have it going ... this could help you to relax and bring both of you together. Having a child when you were not ready should not in any way change your feelings stolen kisses, a tickle, a slap on his backside are simple and daily affection Leave your kid with babysitters or family .. go for a long deserved dinner together, go for weekend together i married my husband after knowing him for 14 years,his family did not approve our marriage, they said i used black magic to tackle their son, my husband listened to them, he did so many hurtful things to me along the way.. we had lots of arguments, fist fights, and tears . i did not give up on my love .. until today those stolen moments are the things that keeps our love going ... i hope that i could help someway .. cheers

Hello trusko. First let me say that you are a very strong and easy going person to be going through that with such ease. I dont know if I could handle separating from my husband or taking a "break". But, I am not sure that I agree with you where you believe that it is fair enough for him to already gat you pregnant THEN decide that that is not the life he wants.I was wondering, is that the life that you want? Because now you say that you are not financially stable enough to have this baby. I think that before getting pregnant you both should be 100% sure that the family life is what you both wanted.And, that you were financially stable enough to afford a child. I myself have been in a situation before with my now ex-husband.We were together approx. 8 years when we had a son.Although money wasnt an issue,he wasnt ready to have the responsibility of rasing his child which I was shiocked by because I really believd that he would be there.There were no signs of this.But, it happened and I had to deal with it.I was hurt.Not for myself as much as for my son having to not grow up with both paretns sharing a family.But, it ended up okay in the long run. I now have a wonderful husband that loves him as much as any father would love a son! I hope everything works out for you as well. There is a chance to that he will change his mind once the baby arrives or in time, and if you are okay with that maybe you will be able to have a family together then.