How do you feel when someone comments that you are fat?

it depends on how will they say it.. if I find it too rude, and feels like it's teasing me, then I will get hurt, and get mad at the same time. I can accept criticism but teasing? I may not.. if my friends notice that I am getting fat, they will ask me first if I am doing things to gain weight, or if it is my intention to gain weight. if I ask why, then they'll tell me that I am getting fat and if it isn't good to look at. and I will thank them for that. then I'll do things to reduce fat.

I am not that fat but I don't why people keep on telling me that I gain weight while in fact I don't feel any changes in my body... well I just realize that it doesn't matter as long as i am happy with my body and figure... :)

i think its all the way people say things. some people are so critiacal. my best friend is like that, she saw a girl jogging and said good she should be to loose that celluite. and i'm being serious the girl was so thin and even if she wanst who needs your comments

Well, I've been fat as well and I had my share of smirks and insults. At first I felt bad about it, especially when it comes from my friend who only wants to put me down and then then tells everybody "Fat people are not disciplined at all". It was rather painful. But I've grown accustomed to it. I shrugged them away. I know I'm healthy, voluptuous and not fat, it's just that I have a different frame with other people which isn't my fault. Sheesh! I rather be chubby than skinny any day...

I read some time ago that a study was conducted some time ago that showed men and women react differently to being called fat. Most men react with humor, whereas women tend to view it as an insult. Myself, since I have been thin for most of my life, I take a comment that I have put on weight as a compliment.

For sure i will be upset. But i think it is a call for me to take precautions by this time. I would by then schedule my work outs and plan my diet. It is just a matter of discipline to strictly follow so i could be back to shape.

well i guess its a common knowledge that once our body is being commented into something not to our liking we are somewhat upset on it...thinking that all the effort to lose weight didnt work out..im not upset to the one whose commenting but to myself for not really working too hard to be fit..and even though it hurt me i will still welcome their opinion or comments regarding my weight or being fat..atleast somebody have the courage to say it..

hi smilyn... nice picture we are partner cute little monkees haha hmmm for me i think at first i will be sadden if its the fact that i am gaining weight and someone notices...like someone saying hey "another meal you will get a love handle like me..." or "your close to having a love handle welcome to the club" but i wont take offense from it because its the truth and its said jokingly...lolz SMILE ALWAYS...^_^

hey, smilyn! Yeah, our ears will never get tired of compliments. The torturing fact is that no one is perfect, we can never be satisfied in what we've got. Like a saying so, keeping fit is a career that a woman should hold in her whole life. Each holiday, i gain weight, which seemed like my habit. My mum often mock at me and says :" look!whos gaining some holiday weight? "If someone said I gained weight, whats the big deal? I'll try to lose it, thats all.

If I was fat and knew it, I'd probably be annoyed if someone blurted that out. How is telling someone that they're fat helping anything? I'd probably thank them for their concern and suggest that they join your fitness program for their own health.

No chance with me lol. People comment me for being very lean and I dont take them seriously. Their comments are not going to help me grow fat,isn't it

Well, I am fat and if someone tells me otherwise, I'll call him a liar. I do get offended sometimes if the way it is said is derogatory and in that case I'd retort.

well, even being pregnant I still hate it when someone says that I am gaining weight... even when my doctor tells me. I think he finally realized that if he says something like "your gaining exactly as you should be" I am fine with it, but if he says "I see you have gained some weight" or something along those lines, I almost feel offended by it. One of my old roommates told me once that if I were to get back to the weight I was when I met my man that my man would have competition. I told him that it was rude of him to judge someone just because the weight they have on them and that if I were ever to lose the weight (and didnt have my man) I wouldnt go to him anyway just because of the prejudgments that he had toward bigger woman.

uhmmm it depends man. if iam a slim guy and then someone tell me that iam fat then it feels good and viceversa. we have to take it in that spirit .

Well I'm a bit chubby so it's a sensitive issue for me. I'd always get hurt but I'm not into confronting people so I'll just be quiet and find a way to lose the extra weight. SOmetimes when I'm in the mood I'll even agree with it. But you know, people who talk about my weight in front of me are really insensitive and I wouldn't want to be around them! SO I'd avoid them at all costs and there'll be no future of friendship unless of course it happened only once and was part of a joke or something.

From experience, I know that when you are being told that you are fat, it is not always true. I don't believe in sugar coating what I have to say. This doesn't mean I'll go telling fat people that they are the result of an obesity epidemic that is sweeping the world, but I will not tell them how slim they are if they aren't. That's even more destructive to somebody's self-consciousness. If they are fat, they generally know they are fat, and while being told they are slim might sound nice - at the end of the day, they're still fat and they have to live knowing this. However, what has been said is true - there are nice ways to tell somebody and then not-so-nice ways. It also depends on the intent of the comment - are they being told they are fat because somebody is concerned for their health or just for the sake of passing comment? I try not to let such comments bother me. I'm not fat myself, I've always been slender as I am somewhat predispositioned to it, and it's never been a problem. Even I've been told I'm fat. This is how I know that people will be cruel just to be cruel and with no real reason. I think it is less about being "fat" than it is playing on somebody's insecurities. There are things about myself that people pass comment on which I find hurtful but know they may not mean for it to affect me in a negative way. For example, I am very tall - 5ft 11in. Not the tallest person in the world, granted, but it was something I was made fun of for my entire time in education. When people exclaim, "Wow, you're a big girl, aren't you?" I kind of die a little inside. Still, no point from hiding from the truth. In some cases, "fat comments" are unnecessary and intentionally hurtful. This is when they should be avoided. But they can also be motivational. My mother lost weight because of the playful nicknames she used to be called. It shows that they can have a positive result. My Mom now fits into my clothes bar the 8in height difference between us. This is when they should be encouraged. In short though, I don't think that obesity should be tolerated by flattery. People need to be made aware that it's not "okay" to be grossly overweight and they should do something about it if possible.

I was a very skinny girl before so hearing people tell me I became fat when they see me after 3 or 4 years is quite a compliment. However if I notice I do gain a few more pounds, that won't be a good thing to hear anymore. Especially if they begin to notice the bulging tummy because of the cellulite.

I honestly couldn't care less what anyone thought about my weight.

It's motivation to get out there and work to lose that weight. It's when people get used to it, or get comfortable being very overweight... If we would all just exercise a little it would do a whole lot of good!

How does it feel?..honestly it hurts, it stings, it makes me feel unwanted,unneeded, like I am a pig. It messes you up emotionally and honestly thats part of the reason why I dropped out of school because I got teased so bad, once I hit 18 I left, tired of being in tears and getting called whale and here comes an earth quake. If people would grow up then people would be less emotionally disturbed. I've tried diets and they fail all the time,then you sit there and beat yourself up over it because you had to much soda when you weren't supposed to while trying to be healthy, it is not that easy. To this day it still hurts when I think about those kids back in the school days.