How open minded are you in mylot?
By magojordan
@magojordan (3252)
Philippines
August 22, 2008 12:10am CST
I replied to some discussions here and of course I don't expect that I gave the answer that they were expecting. Well actually one commented to my response with this sign Maybe that person didn't like my answer and maybe that person is not open minded about other people's opinions. i was quite annoyed at first because of how that person replied but now I have thought of it I could say that it's all about being open minded here in mylot. So how open minded are you here in mylot? Do you get annoyed when others reply to your discussions with not so good responses?
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29 responses
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I honestly can't deny being vexed whenever I get responded with disapproval, especially when their point of view isn't valid at all for the argument.
However, if ever such responses would result into even insults, I would always think that were merely communicating indirectly so even if I do get replies as such, I am not much affected and rather displaced..
When I am the one who participates in discussions with views that I disapprove of, I simply point out my opinions in the matter and weigh their reasoning as well to provide further analysis regarding the topic. Also, I really don't use emoticons to imply my disagreement since if I would only provide them through words, it more contemplated on. Visual representations of my disapproval with their point of view, as how immediate it may imply, might not grant them to think and consider my opinions since they might be distracted with emoticons implying my disapproval..
In the end, if we can't settle on anything, I would just admit that we can just agree that we don't agree at all for the matter being discussed.. (^_^ )
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I agree with what you say. Thanks for responding
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I agree that everyone has an own opinion. Thanks for responding.
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@dlufel (423)
• Australia
22 Aug 08
i dont get annoyed. Coz i always learn that in this world we are not the smartest and not everyone have the same way of thinking as us. So the best thing to do is to accept if people dont like it. But give your best when someone is asking for a favour. That way, we can live a happier life without have to get annoyed everyday. But sometime, i also get annoyed .. (i'm trying not to, but hey, i'm just a normal person, not a robot). So if that situation happen, the best thing is stay away from that person/situation for a while. Cooling down, then come back if you have to. Hope it helps. :)
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I love hearing other people's opinion. One of the reasons I love myLot. I, too, have run into those who think their opinion is the ONLY one out there. Maybe that person meant for the to indicate they didn't agree with you NOT that it was a bad opinion. I know sometimes when using the emotes, I find the expression I need is just NOT there.
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
Thanks for responding. I hope that person meant it that way .
@magna86 (1786)
• India
22 Aug 08
well open minded answers are sometimes annoying!!! more than such answers
its is better if someone gives his/her honest opinion!!
i would say it is good to be open minded but still ,if the other person who reads ur
response is not open minded then would would get some blasting comments!!
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
i agree sometimes the person who reads your comments are not open minded that's why you get bad comments form them too. Thanks for responding.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
22 Aug 08
I would be prepared to expect some not so good ,critical or negative responses to my discussions. After all we all have our various points of view. There would be someone or the other who would disagree. I'd rather not comment on such a response or probable thank the person for sharing their view.
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I agree that the best thing maybe is just to thank someone for responding, Thanks for that tip I'll keep that in mind.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Personally, I have seen a lot of different discussions and postings here on a lot of different topics, and from time to time see some weird responses back to things on here as well. Sometimes I have wondered, now why would someone say that. Even sometimes what someone will post back in one of my discussions may not be what I was looking for as well.
But personally for me, I try to remember we have people who are actively posting here from all over the World. We need to remember that everyone coming here will have different thoughts and opinions, and not everyone will agree. But as long as you can correct someone to help them, instead of discourage someone is the best way to go I would say. Don't let it get you too down. Just continue to enjoy posting here in myLot and being a member here. Nothing should be worth not allowing you to continue to have Fun.
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I agree correcting them rather than discouraging them is better. Thanks for responding
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@donna22 (1116)
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22 Aug 08
I think it is important to be honest but not rude or nasty with it. We all come from different countries, cultures and walks of life and it would be boring if we all agreed but I think it is important to respect people. If I say somehing which someone does not agree with I do not really care about that as long as they are not rude when they say so. I do not know what you said for someone to give you a smiley reaction but to me that is just silly because they are not propely explaining what their problem is with what you said. If you have aproblem you should say so otherwise how would you get your opinions across?
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
22 Aug 08
I am quite sincere in my responses here. If I do not agree to what a person has to say either I would politely say it or not respond to the discussion. I have got rude replies in my discussions but I just politely say thanks for response and dont comment further on it.
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I agree that we shouldn't comment further for things might get worse. Thanks for responding.
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@sirrob (4108)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
so far i haven't received any but i am not posting that many discussions as well.hehe
and in my responses to different discussions, i always see to it that i speak from the bottom of my heart with truthfulness ans sincerity and i still have to receive a negative comment out of it. i even have accumulated a substantial number of BR in my pocket.
on the other hand, you are right also that being open minded matters in this case and if ever i will get a not so good response, i'll just have to respect the person's opinion, evaluate how worthy it is to my comment and if it doesn't then i just have to ignore it. i always bear in mind these words, "if my happiness doesn't depend on that person then who cares.."
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I agree being sincere is most important. Thanks for responding.
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@successlog (3172)
• China
22 Aug 08
Hello magojordan
Mylot is a free public international comunity for people around the world.here we can discuss what we want.
For me, i never think some one's opinion is bad for me.I just think we judge a problem at a different angle.so finally, we get the different results.
In many situation, i can accept all concepts from other responders in my discussions.I just treat them usual.I never be annoyed with their answers.JUst you go your way, i go mine.
I do the things under my own rule in heart which it is considered as correct.lol
good luck
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I agree with what you said as long as you know it's from your heart then you need not to worry. Thanks for responding
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@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I just respect people's opinions without judging! I have fun in myLot for not being closed mind and for not bringing here my personal problems to upset people. If I do not like a discussion or I think it is too vulgar I just do not answer to it. I do not care Mago you can answer my discussions the way you want. Just find the right friends and it will be no problem, I garantee!
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I agree we should respect each others opinion. Thanks for responding
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
22 Aug 08
What do you mean by open minded? Do you mean that if someone starts a discussion that he thinks that people of certain lifestyles are right, I should agree with him? If a person says "I stole some money, but I needed it to feed my family," should I agree and say, "good for you, your family comes first." Am I to agree that another religion other than Christianity leads one to heaven?
In that case, I am not open minded.
But if you think that I will not respond or if I will give a negative mark to someone who does not agree with me, then no. I will answer a post and will comment on whoever answers my posts and I will hardly give a negative, but not that it has not crossed my mind. It has.
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
22 Aug 08
We're all unique individuals and as such we're going to have a variety of ideas and opinions. I think - for the most part - folks here at myLot understand that. But you do get some rude people, just like out in the real world.
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@agnes4mail (131)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 08
I think, at the end the main idea of discussion is, to find out how many people agreed to you and how many people disagreed to you, and why? If there's any people expected that they will get all the agreement for the topic, then they don't know what discussion really is... why should we bother then?
:)
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@shybutwild (31)
• Canada
22 Aug 08
I would say I am very open minded here.I say what I feel and mean and I don't hide behind a mask when I say it.I have received responses that did not agree with what I said in a discussion.I have no problem with that,not everyone has the same opinion on topics and I respect others views.I only get pissed off when the person gets ignorant about it.2 days ago I posted a discussion topic that was kind of silly,my intention was that people could have some fun with it instead of always having to be so serios.Most people recognized this but a few uptight (probably VERY lonely)people just had to bad mouth in their response.I think some people live to be miserable.
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@allurejan (197)
• United States
23 Aug 08
When it comes to responding discussions here in mylot, I am open minded. I answer and share what's in my mind based on my experiences and own opinion.
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