Do people often have a wrong impression of you?

Hi. I find that people usually have the wrong impression of me when I first meet them. I'm not usually very talkative unless I know someone first but everyone seems to think that I'm just really moody. Obviously I'm not, I'm just a bit shy around new faces... but once the conversation gets going I'm fine and everyone sees that I'm actually quite chatty and have a tendency to tell particularly bad jokes. But I think most people often judge without knowing.

I've faced this problem a number of times. A lot of my colleagues used to keep away from me. The reason i got to know from some of them who got close later was I used to give out the impression of being a angry serious person waiting to pounce on somebody. .How I've laughed at this.I'm hardly anything like that once people get to know me better. In a way at work atleast I was ok with this and did not try to prove most of them wrong.

you know when i was in high school, i had a couple of friends who told me their parents (when i first met them) thought i was a snob too. and i am far from it! i was quite shocked. and nobody could explain to me what made them think that. though i do believe it was a mother that eventually said something about how i hold my head...i guess i tend to have an upward tilt when i look at ppl..which i guess makes me look like i am trying to "look down my nose" at them? i guess. i have no idea why i tend to tilt my head like that, and over the years ive noticed myself doing it. for a while i tried to stop, but then got mad at myself for trying too hard to be liked lol! so head tilted upwards it is! i dont care if you think im a snob..ok i do care, but if they REALLY want to know me and be my friend, they will quickly realize that i am very easy-going, and open-minded and honest person.

I think people get the idea when they first meet me that I am a real bytch, but that is not true, I guess it is from the fact that I have been through so much in the last few years that I immediately defend myself from the start. But once you get to know me I am a very caring, loving person,who would do anything I could to help you, most people that get to know me, love me. So don't let first impressions throw you off, some of us are really nice.

Yup, my circle of friends (people who would tell me the truth) have said that, when they first met me, they thought I'm unapproachable, cold, unfriendly, fierce....however they were surprised to find that I am human - laugh, joke, enjoy life! Reason is, I'm a private person, and so do not let my hair down unless I'm with my family or close friends!

yes even my husband said that towards me, he said that when he met me first i looked like a high class snob ... but he wanted to try his luck with me .. guess what he got the best of me .. but the only thing about that i dont like is when people say that i am a "confused person" that really makes me angry .. really really angry I am not a confused person , i am just being simple and accomodative because i hate being stubborn for small issues .. for instance in choosing a lunch venue, i dont mind to go to a place they choose, its not a big deal for me... but in the end, they turn aroud and say i am confused ... well ... if i was stubborn then they would call me snob + stubborn life cheers

Hi dolce, [i]People whom I meet will always say that I am very friendly and nice..lol! Honestly, I am not very nice..lol! I have also my attitude once I will be treated the way I don't like and once I will be insulted without any reasons! LOL! So, i always tell my new friends about my flaws! LOL! but, I am very friendly even to strangers, I have the courage to initiate conversation![/i]

I also had that kind of experience, especially during my first days in class during college.. they all thought that I'm this serious guy who goes to the library after classes are over and one that you can't talk to if its not something related to school.. heck! Like I'm such a person.. not smiling a lot doesn't mean that I'm anti-social.. Like you, they also eventually knew me better than their first impressions but, still can't be at ease with me.. my humor is rather different from them which makes them hesitate a bit.. (-_-")

Hello Dolce_vita, I think people see me as I am, what they see is what they get, the only time someone has misread me was an old neighbour who was terrified of me, thought I was a real hard nut, me, I'm as soft and wobbly as jelly, but she had heard a story about me from school, that was self preservation not toughness LOL. Ellie :D

People always have awrong impression of me. They say they know and they don't. When I prove them wrong, they just say nothing. False impressions are the lifetyle of today's half-wits and they never, ever, admit when they're wrong. It takes a gentlemen or a lady to admit this and that they are not.

I was always quiet and shy growing up. As a 20 something person, I atteneded a workshop about how to get along with others, especially your boss and co-workers. As part of that class, we did evaluations that showed what we thought others thought of us and what others actually did think of us. At the end of the second class, I was upset to learn that others might find me stand-offish and snobbish. I never wanted anyone to think that about me. I called my mother, thinking I would get some sympathy from her. Instead, she explained that many people think people who are quiet and shy are snobs. What a surprise that was to me, and I set out to change myself so that no one would ever think that of me again. I learned to not just stand around and listen, but to participate in conversations, to smile more and to be more outgoing. That class was the best thing that ever happened to me!

Hi dolc_vital78, I'm always happy and bubbly around people and never pretend to be what I'm not and if people gets the wrong impression of me, they never tells me, so what they see is what they get. Tamara

Yes , it does happens to me..People meeting me first time ,tell me after few meetings ,how they thought about me... May be , something wrong with me...But , very soon , not only they change their views, but also let me know, their feelings. I never try , to explain , or prove them wrong...

Of course they do. Actually people can't know each other throughoutly because they can't see into others' heart. And they just try to know others by their activity. Human are easily affect by others and they are varialbe in a long run. Don't care if other care you or not, and march forward on your way.

it was there earlier.peopel used to think that i read a lot. actually i used to read lot, but not study books, but story books.. i never could made my peer understand that. they thought I am topper just as i read so much.. Aklso now people think I am very very serious always. its not the case also

When I was an extremely shy person and hardly said a word to anyone, yes I was called a snop many times. That was coming from people that did not know me at all. One I talked to someone and they spend a short time with me they found this not to be true. I was just very shy and timid. I'm not so muc any longer. Oh, I do still sit back and listen more than talk most times. But people know I'm a freindly person. I'll talk to anyone. Even people I don't know call here and we stay on the phone for an hour or so. We just start talking. I also will walk up to anyone and just start talking if I want to.

Hi dolce_vita! Oh, yes they do. They always mistook my shyness for being snobbish. Sigh. But when they get to talk to me and really know me, they will find out that they were wrong. They usually tell me so and I am just happy that their wrong impression about me will be erased from their mind. Take care always..God Bless!

Yes I think that sometimes people do get the wrong impression of me, I would say that I come across as being unfriendly. I get like this because sometimes I get really nervous when meeting people for the first time and so I tend to come across as quiet and not wanting to know, when in fact it is because I am so nervous I just do not know what to say.

[b]i am being mistaken as a snob too because i don't really smile that much. haha. well maybe it is in my nature not to say hi's or hello's to people whom i pass by. haha. because not all of them will say these words back to you. sometimes i mistaken other people the negative way like "this person is not approachable i think because she seems so high end." things like that but i know it is not nice for me to see people negatively because you only get to know who that person really is when you exert efforts in knowing the person yourself.[/b]

Hi there! Same here friend.. People often think that I am snobbish too. I don't mingle with others unless we're friends for a long time. I'm the shy type kind of person. When I use to work I only have few set of friends and I don't go out or have fun after office hours except with them. But I talk to my other office mates also and when they get to know me better they will know the real me. I have experienced many times that when people who first thought that I'm snobbish and become my friend, they would confess to me their first impression of me and we would just kept laughing about it.