Do I need to buy a common friend a brithday present?

China
August 23, 2008 8:18am CST
A common friend invites me to his birthday. I think I should buy him a present to some extent. On the one hand time is running out. On the other hand, buying a present maybe a tiresome business. Most importantly, he is just a common friend. However, if I don't buy him a present, am I being too mean? Also, I don't know the conventions here since I am kind of new. As a reasuly, I am indecisive. According to your cultures, do I need to buy a common friend a birthday present? If u buy something what will u buy?
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25 responses
@shana123 (2095)
• India
24 Aug 08
It depends on my mood and the money im having in hand if i have some money definitely i will something who ever it may be common friend or close friend if i dont have i dont buy for anyone either.. and its upto us , if we are willing we can buy them gifts if no then no need and ususally i get gifts from my friends but im very lazy to buy them a gift.. and if you have enough money in hand then you can get him some cool stuffs ( i dont know what to buy for a guy) and present him because this is the first time your being called and first time its also no wrong in gifting some common friend too from next brithday you can avoid it..
• China
24 Aug 08
Hmmm, it is reasonable! I went to his birthday and bougt him a gift. I will take ur advice into consideration next time. It helps! Have a nice day!
@monkeysay (228)
• Singapore
24 Aug 08
Yes, I would consider it nice to reciprocate if you are invited to a birthday party. Who knows, you guys may even become the best of friends in the future. This has happened to me a couple of times. Buying gifts is actually not as difficult as some people think. But if you really don't have enough time, a customized card and a small gift will usually touch people. Remember, it's the sincerity that counts.
• China
24 Aug 08
I went back and bought him a book (Pride and Prejudice). He was very happy to receive the book! Good luck!
• United States
24 Aug 08
For a common, meaning I see them here and there, friend, I only give them a card and about $5 to $10. Real presents are for people real close to me.
• China
24 Aug 08
Yeah, 5$ to 10 $ are just all right. Thank u very much!
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
I think a common friend deserves to a common gift rather than nothing. Anyway, it's his birthday and it'll be kind of you to give him a birthday present even if it's not precious and expensive. I love China
• China
24 Aug 08
I will watch the closing ceremony. U will watch it too, I guess. Have fun!
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
I think if you're only forced to buy a present then don't buy anything at all. I only buy presents for people I really care about even when there's no occasion. I just don't see the point of faking it by giving someone I don't really like something even if it's not that fancy. Maybe you can just give food instead if you really want to get him something to be polite. A small cake or just something for the party should suffice. Normally though guests aren't expected to bring gifts.
• China
24 Aug 08
Hmmm, it is reasonable. Thanks a lot. I will think about it. Take care!
@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
24 Aug 08
If he is my common friend. I will buy him a present such as album, or a music CD. And I will but birthday cake with other friends for him. Usually he invite us to dinner. And we may not buy anything. Just invite him to dinner on my birthday. If it is the first time to celebrate a friend's birthday, you'd better buy a present.
• China
24 Aug 08
Yeah, I am new here. So, good point! Have a nice day!
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
24 Aug 08
If he is a close friend you wouldn't have to think twice about buying him a gift. Like someone here already mentioned, get him a gift card to his favorite store.
• China
24 Aug 08
I appreciate it! Take care!
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
23 Aug 08
This is my gift to you - I would like to gift you this
Dear friend,A gift have many ranges even very low priced can be brough if one has financial crisis and moreover it is the value one give to that gift is more improtant. A rich person could gift a car may be a poor man could gift a steel chain but the value of these presents depends how the gift taker views. Hence that friend might had not seen you as a common friend who knows he might may be seen you as a special one even though you saw him as a common friend may be that friend had invited because you might be special for him. Anyhow I hope it would be better to give any gift even a rose is gifted to many by lover even to many unknown girls.
• China
24 Aug 08
A rich person could gift a car may be a poor man could girt a steel chain. So classical! Hmmm, anyway, giving a gift would be the right idea. Thanks for ur advice. Good luck!
• Singapore
23 Aug 08
For me, I will not buy them gift if I do not feel like it, even if I am the VIP of the party or he has invited me to the party. Giving something to someone without any feelings is pointless. Besides, if the whole motive of him inviting you to his party is to get your gift, then I should say it is better for you not to go - the party is for a wrong reason.
• China
24 Aug 08
Hmmm, I worried about it yesterday. This was the reason that I hesitated. Maybe he doesn't mean to get my gift. However, he wants me to help him to cook! This is really tiresome. I am too lazy too cook today! It is a Shame! Thanks for ur kind response. Best regards
@blanne (173)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Here in the Philippines, it is not necessary to buy birthday celebrants presents. Most of the time, your presence is enough as a present, when you are being invited to join a birthday party. Although there are some celebrants who expect gifts from the people (most especially children), it is not always the case.
• China
24 Aug 08
Oh the other hand, I really don't know the rules here. I'm kinda screwed. Thanks a lot. Take care!
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@berrys (864)
• Singapore
23 Aug 08
well if i don't know the person all that well I'd usually just get them a small gift but if I'm rather close to that person I'd get them a nicer gift. So if you don't know the person all that well then you should just get them something small like a shirt or if he enjoys soccer a soccer ball, if he enjoys base ball a baseball, or something he'd use daily [not a tooth brush but something daily like food]maybe a box of chocolates. but if you know that person well you should get something with a little more sentimental value.
• China
24 Aug 08
Buying something pracitcal is the praxtical thing. Thanks a lot for ur advice. Wish u all the best for ur work!
@jensxtn (25)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Of course you know now you need to buy a gift...You shouldn't spend more than $25 to $30, buy a gift card to a little resturant,or a store like target...you can even get like a $15 gift card to blockbuster..
• China
24 Aug 08
Oh, Ur kind reply will be much appreciated. Have a nice day!
• Pakistan
23 Aug 08
hi there, yes, i will buy a gift for my common friend if he/she has invited me. well... there are lots n lots of things u can buy for him, e.g. CHOCOLATES, BIRTHDAY CARD... all depends on the age n mood of your friend, but 1 thing common for everytype of person is BIRTHDAY CARD, but you should give anything which suits your friend's personality alongwith the card.
• China
24 Aug 08
It is what I think now. A birthday card and a book. It will be practical. Thanks very much. Best regards!
@razor123 (979)
• India
23 Aug 08
Well even though he's your common friend since he's invited you to his Birthday party with love take a gift for him. However small it might be doesn't matter. He'll be so happy to see you with a gift for him and making someone really happy on their birthday is something very nice to do. So don't go empty handed Hehehe... For your Birthday trust me invite him and he'll get you something even bigger and better lol.
• China
24 Aug 08
Maybe I would be in another country on my next birthday, LOL. Hmmm, anyway, I think I should buy him a present though he can't buy me something for my next birtdhay. I appreciate it. I hope u will aways be happy!
@lucy67 (819)
• China
23 Aug 08
you'd better buy him a present. just think if all the people present give him a present expert you, how embarrassed you will feel. if you don't like to buy him a present, just find an excuse to decline the invitation. if you like to go, you can solve the present problem in the following two ways. first, do you happen to have something appropriate as a birthday present? second, just buy something most boys like.
• China
24 Aug 08
I have only two hours. Hmmm, I think I will go to a nearby book store first. If I can't find something, I will go to the supermarket. A gift shop will be another choice. Thanks very much. Have a nice day!
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Hi there Hidden Wing! I don't know about culture but personally, I would give him a present. I think that it could start a new friendship, and I think it's safer than not giving any present at all. I guess it wouldn't be tiresome if it's something impersonal. I think that's the best thing to do, give an impersonal gift so as not to send the wrong signals but not be rude too.
• China
23 Aug 08
Hmmm, at least, sending a present will be better than sending nothing. I totally agree with u. Now, I don't hesitate to buy a gift. I would go out later! Thanks! Best wishes!
• Indonesia
23 Aug 08
well, it depends on what kind of person he is, what kind of party he arrange. me, sometime i buy them a present on their birthday, other times not. i just had fun on looking for the gift. usually it ends up buying a book. i think books is always good for a gift. i suggest you buy him a present anyway, but it's have to be small enough so you can hide it somewhere easily. when you come in the party, you can get idea if you need to give the present or not. if yes, just go on. if not, make sure that you hide the present without anyone else knowing. good luck!
• China
23 Aug 08
A book? Cool! It is a pretty good idea. U know what? I just worried about that some other gifts would cause misunderstandings. Books are all right. I guess a book will be on my first list if I don't have other choice.! Thanks a million for ur advice. Good luck!
@4aps777 (1528)
• United States
23 Aug 08
to make it easy,just buy your friend a card.
• China
24 Aug 08
a card and a book! It will be just right. Thank u. Best wishes!
@tina2696 (127)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I would definitely bring something. If its not a good friend, I usually do a couple of scratch tickets in a card.
• China
24 Aug 08
It is a good idear! I will also take it into consideration. It was but yesterday, I had no idea. Now, I think I know what to do.
@Cryptid (72)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Always buy a present when invited to a birthday party.Not doing so will likely cause problems on at least a small level. I personally make it a point to bring a small gift or offering whenever Im invited to anything at the very least.
• China
24 Aug 08
Hmmm, I guess so. Thanks for ur kind response. Wish u all the best for ur work!