Which is better forgive then forget or forget then forgive?

I don't think that we can ever forget...But to forgive helps us to move on...We need to forgive..It would be hard to forgive someone who has done an awful thing to someone else...but we can't sit around and try to reason why it happened...we must forgive and go forward.....If we could forget than that would make things alot easier, but it doesn't work like that...

You are right. Forgiveness is not necessarily about the other person. Many times we need to forgive someone for own sake. Holding on to anger, bitterness, or resentment is unhealthy and only ends up hurting us in the long run.

Well for starters you can't forgive someone for something that has been forgotten! lol. Forgiveness should be exercised by all of us; but this does not necessarily mean that we should ever forget either. For example if you had a partner that cheated on you and beat on you and you ended up having the strength to finally leave him, you may at some time in the future find forgiveness in your heart but you will never forget what he did or what you went through.

I think it is better to forgive then forget because no one should ever hold a grudge because if God can forgive the things we do that are bad,then we should be able to forgive our fellow man for what they do to us,and then forget them and go on with our lives the way we should,I can understand that some people forget and then forgive but I do not think I could ever do that.

for me i think i should go to forget then forgive...you know,its hard to forget the things that we've done wrong, but maybe it depends on other situation ...just an opinion, for me cause i fully trust a person but if that trust lose, it can't never back...damage is done already.."what if someone cheated you, do you forget it easily?you can say you'll forgiven but in the same way you'll never forget what he/she have done to you.. but if the situation,just a simple thing that you can easily forget its also easy to forgive.

Hi peach! I don't think both can be possible. Just an opinion. Forgetting is the hardest thing one can do. When someone hurt you, it's hard to forget because that someone has caused you pains. It may be true that time heals and someday you'd learn to forgive the person who hurt you but I don't think you'd be able to forget the thing that he did especially when it took you some time to move on from that experience. You'd always be reminded of the experience everytime you see the person, so I would really say that I don't think both can go together. To forgive is to forgive and to forget is to forget. Just an opinion.

It's better to forgive than to forget because you'll just remember it again and again even if you try to forget. It really takes time but its really better if to forgive.

Forgiveness project one as a god..he is equal to god!

"Forgive and forget" is like a phrase.Religious texts also preach forgiveness only."Unless you forgive you will never grow" is a popular dictum.But forgetting or remembering is a mental faculty bestowed on human beings by the Almighty. If we start forgetting we will forget good things also and ultimately we end up being animated brainless humans like robots.By forgiving we get peace of mind and also inculcate a feeling of gratitude in the other person and gradually he gets transformed to be a good person.Even law recognizes the concept of forgiveness.That why there is provision for pardon petition to the Head of the state...