What do you do when your other half cheats on you?

why did he call you? what is he really up to? i dont get it,, he's the one who broke up then now his explaining. worst is, his explanation is now bothering you. you may not feel this if he didn't call and live with his life unattached from you. besides, his explaining won't heal wounds that he caused when he decided to break up with you. if this happened to me, i won't entertain any calls from him or text messages or whatever form of communication that can take place between us. i mean, we're done and has nothing to talk about anymore. i don't care whatever reasons he may have for dumping me, what matters is i'm stronger now than we we're together and i've proven that i'm worth living my life away from his shadow. and the most prized realization is, i'm better without him and his just a piece of puzzle to be assembled for a more happier and lovelier life that awaits me.

Move on and it would probably be easier for you right now if you weren't friends for a while. Explain to him that you need time to deal with the whole situation and you will let him know when you are ready to be friends again. You need to determine how things should be. Afterall you are the one that was betrayed and he should understand that. If he doesn't then you don't need him in your life at all. Be strong and don't let him take advantage of your friendship.

My ex fiance and I broke up for a similar reason. We lived together and whenever he wanted to go to Walmart I was not allowed to go. Turns out he was going to see someone else (he worked at walmart) I never found out till 2 years after we broke up. My best friend knew the whole time and decided I didn't need to know.. Well my ex-Fiance and I had got in a fight about the wedding date and he said "i want to wait 3 more years" i said why we have been together 4 years already, and with that he said "I don't think we should be together anymore". That was so unexpected but like I said 2 years later I found out he was cheating on me. I never expected it because she was so much older and going to be married at the time. But they are still together today and have a child (it has been 8 years) I am glad it ended with him because if it hadn't I would have never met my husband and had my son...

Sounds to me like he wants his cake and eat it too, he wants to have this gal he cheated with plus still hang out with you because he is used to being with you. If it was me I would tell the little _astard to go _ _ck himself, he made the choice not to be with you, his loss and someday another man's gain. Your way too good for his sorry _ss go do some fun stuff you could never do when you where with him hang out with your friends and don't worry someday love will find you.

this is becoming pretty common these days. and its really sad. People just dont know what the meaning of the term commitment is.Just be thankful that happened now that you arent married yet. Think of it as a blessing in disguise.It will be more painful if he cheats on you & get another girl pregnant when you're already married. You have to be strong. Cry all you want, indulge in the pain, but then at some point, you have to wipe all your tears and use all the pain you went thru to move on. Time heals all wounds. Find comfort in the idea that God is preparing a better person for you. Someday,you will look back on this moment & you will be thankful it happened. By that time, you're already with the man of your dreams, someone who loves you, takes care of you & will never cheat on you. Good luck.

Yeah, I know the feeling. I was with a guy and we were even planning on getting married. I thought everything was great, then I found out he was cheating on me. She had even been to the house posing as one of his friends girlfriends. As much as it hurt, I am better off without a selfish person like that in my life. Obviously things were not great if he was cheating on me.

Well, it is more easy to accept things when your partner is being honest with you. Boys are boys... You cant expect them to be loyal and faithful to woman/girls... We need to accept that reality. I have been too, many relationship already... That is why right now, i am not into a serious relationship because of the bad past i had experienced before...You may feel bad or hurt, things will never changed... But life is wonderful, and it must be go on and on... It is not the end of the world yet... It is only the beginning... You need to move on or else, you will be the loser at the end... Love yourself and let love find you, but dont expect you dont get hurt again, because getting hurt and happy is always a twin... Just be ready to accept what life and love may brings you... Thats the important... good luck and cheer up!!!

you can do it. you can move on. most guys are selfish (sorry for the word), i don't really get the point why he still wanted to be friends with you, after all, he cheated on you. maybe he felt guilty after what he did to you. but trust me, exlovers can't be friends because either one of you will have this 'feelings from the past'. the best advice that i could give to you is move on. stay pretty. bloom. prove to him that he was wrong. look at the brighter side of life, maybe it's God's way of saying that he saved you from the wrong one. -a blessing in disguise so you can focus more on your studies and career. hey, come and think of it, it's not your loss, it's his. it's never wrong to use your heart, but don't forget to consider your head too. hehe! go girl! :))

I am sorry you are having to go through this, is must be incredibly upsetting or you. There's nothing anyone can say that will make it any different for you but you need to know that you are better off without this person in your life, no matter how much that may hurt. He has lied to you in a terrible way and doesn't really deserve to have you around anymore. It's ultimately your decision as to whether you want to be friends or not but while everything is still so fresh and painful for you i think i would keep my distance as every contact is going to remind you of what has happened. i haven't had the same experience as you, and hope i never do!, but i have been cheated on in the past and the betrayal really really hurts but it does get easier with time and you begin to realise that if that person thinks it's acceptable and is willing to treat you so badly then you are better off without them in your life, that way you can move on and find someone who treats you the way you deserve! Sorry i don't really have any words of wisdom for you, but i do hope your heart starts to mend soon and i'm sure that in time, you'll meet someone who treats you like a princess, which is exactly what you deserve, not lies and deceit!! keep smilnig xxx

It would be tough for me but I think I would just break up with him and move on. Been in one too many of these kind of relationships and my trust is shot... so I guess I would just break it off and be done with him.

I am so sorry for you to hear that. How long have you been broken up? I don't think that you are going to be able to be friends if it has recently happened especially because you were together for three years, thats just crazy!! You know it is better that he did break it off though...what would you have done if you had been married or had children together. If he is STUPID enough to cheat then he doesnt deserve to be in a good relationship! Trust me he will get what he deserves! any relationship that starts with a fling and they are stuck together without really knowing eachother that really sucks! You will find someone so much better!

what an insensitive thing to tell you on the phone-is he staying with her?sorry to hear this try not to hurt as this an impact to the soul and could ruin your own balance.try to gift yourself with nice thoughts and always do nice things for yourself like if you like flowers buy some and place them in your room-dont let him hurt you furthur.it takes time to heal and to ask for your friendship is too soon.how long had the relationship been and is he staying with her,find out things like this.

srry..hunt him down..lol

wow cheating on someone is so disrespectful theres nothing to do but accept it because its already done

[i]Hi ganda, I have not tried this but I am sure it is very painful! I do know what to say, anyway, it's hard indeed to move on but I know time heals! At least you know, you can't trust him, imagine you're in a relationship and he was sleeping with another woman! That is not fair, at least when it happens, if he was honest enough, he will tell you right away! ANyway, just move on and for sure, you will meet a deserving guy, a guy who will never cheat on you![/i]

well i wouldn't really know.. but i sincerely pray that that's not going to happen to me or with the realsyionship that i have with my boyfriend, i love him so much and he is really good and sweet to me and never once caught him invloved with somebody else. we have been steady, and not once have a very big fight for almost three years and definitely so inlove with each other! i want to believe tat he is faithful, but if he will cheat on me, i really dont know if i can still trust him like how i trust him right now. i believe that trust, once destroyed or broken is hard to fix, comparable to a glass broken into thousands of pieces. i just hope and pray that we wont have that problem

It is painful enough that you have to experience all of these with the thought that you don't deserve anything close to this kind of treatment especially knowing that your relationship is going too well until it actually happened. But it will be more painful if you'll stay friends with him. I have had the same experience and surely the first months would be difficult. I didn't ignore my feelings. When I have to cry, I cried tons of tears. When I had to shout, I did shout. I didn't fight the feeling cuz the more you do, the more it will be difficult to move on. So just feel the pain right now and you'll see, time will heal your broken heart.

that is something. well, that is just the way the world goes round right now. i dont have the same experience you had. but surely, i had known the same story being told all over again. by my freinds and in the television. with regards to your hurting, i sugest that you go to your room, close the door, and have some Bible. read through the gospel of John. and there, you will find a Person who is deeply in love with you. and He understands you more than ever. no medicine or some sort of things that will be able to let you forget those things that happened to you.. life is full of aches, and the Bible is our refuge in times like this... happy reading!

don't even take chances with him. the mere fact that you're still hurt after the whole break up tells that you still love the person. if you'll let yourself get involved with him again, even just as a friend, it could always lead to you falling for him all over again. even worse, falling for him deeper the second time. you'll only make yourself more vulnerable. it will be like you're giving him the permission to hurt you silently every single day know that that man right on your face is the man you love and had hurt you deeply despite the fact that you two were OKAY before the sudden break up.

It is better for you to be away from him.He might be taking advantage of the friendship to be in relationship with you again