i am shocked and appalled!!!!!!

The mother of the baby may be another "friend" Do you really wanna be involved with a guy who sleeps around and does not take the proper care? There is of course the fcat that he has a baby. Would you be able to handle that? I know it is not a proper relationship but even so a baby may chnage things a lot. Yes you had no reaon to not beleive him but he would have known that and if he wanted to sleep with you he would not have told you he had a gf obviously. Yiu have no reason to feel guilty becaue you did not know but my honest advice would be to learn and move on.

Hi Munchkin, A lot of men do stray when then partners are heavily pregnant and I would be as shocked and as appalled as you are, even if he wasn't in a relationship with her any more the fact that he has never mentioned he is going to be a dad is suspicious as you said you were friends, with benefits, so the friends bit would have allowed him to share srely. I would confront him about it to find out the truth and if he is in a relationship well you had better look for another friend I guess as this is so wrong on you and her. Ellie :D

I think you need to be absolutely sure of the facts before you decide to act. If you are likely to be troubled by this, then i would suggest confronting him only to get the truth and then cut it off. This is of course my point of view and how i would got about handling a situation like this.

I notice that you use the term, "friends with benefits," munchkin, but the basis of friendship means that you don't keep secrets from one another. Add to that the "benefits," and I would call it anything but casual. This person has lied to you. True, it is a lie of omission, but, nevertheless, still a lie. He should have been up front with you about the impending birth of a child -regardless of whether or not he is in a relationship.

Well, not at all surprised to hear it for a start! OK, pretty much the majority of people on there are married or in relationships but not many of them will tell you that! They just go on it for a bit of fun, and yes I am speaking from experience. You would also not be surprised at how many people do not actually CARE if someone is taken or not if they fancy them they go for it. Example of this being my hubby has a facebook account and he talks to girls on there, and he will tell them he is married with kids, and these girls still come after him and they blatantly tell him they do not care he is married and want him to come around!! You should not feel guilty, he has mislead you, but then again you may be getting hold of the wrong end of the stick so if it was me I would come out and ask him straight out. I mean he must know that you can see everything on his page so you should ask him whats going on.

Well I think I would avoid this relationship with him in the future. He does not sound trustworthy. Good luck. He could have at least told you that he was messing around unprotected with others.

Well maybe this is blunt but it sounds to me like you were a piece of *** and he used you for what you were willing to give you as long as he told you what you wanted to hear. It is the price you pay sometimes when you play. You don't love him, he doesn't love you, did you really expect him to tell you the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth? Not passing judgment, it happens sometimes with the type of like that you are living. Live and learn.

First, Don't you feel guilty.If he is married, you didn't know. It is not like you went after a married man on purpose.What do I think? Well, I think he didn't tell you because it is his business. And since you are not in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, why should he tell you? Just because he is having a baby with another women doesn't mean he is in love with her or they are having a relationship. it does mean that he will have to help raise the kid so he may have less free time. I guess the best thing to do is to talk to him about it. Or if you feel like he is married and you feel bad about yourself , then break it off.Take Care.

In my opinion, I feel that we should jump to any conclusions. At any stage of a relationship it is always a good advocate to be quick to listen and slow to react. I suppose that is one of the catalysts that improves communication in a relationship. After reading much, I wonder why you had not tried to find out a little more from your friend(s) who had introduced the both of you. I am sure that there will be some truths from them lest you do not find them to be reliable. I think sometimes frivolous postings on the blog sites are nothing serious and may not be considered reliable. No offense, but I am not a firm believer on what are being posted on such sites. Anyway, I just hope that you will be patient to hear it from the horse's mouth for yourself and for the sake of the relationship's future. Sometimes, being a father could have a lot of meanings, could be that he is being asked to be the new born's godfather. And oh, by the way I am going to be the father of 6 little wonderful beagles. So please be patient.

I would question him about it. Tell him that while browsing on his facebook profile you came across the comment and was wondering why he hadnt mentioned about becoming a father. Who knows he could be split up with the mother and may have broken up on bad terms which is why he felt not to mention it or maybe he didn't want to be judged about becoming a father and not being with the mother. The only way you are going to fully understand and get answers is by asking him. He probably didnt mean to keep it from you but didnt want you to be thinking about him becoming a father if you two are becoming close!! Ask him and then you will be able to put your mind at rest!!

I wouldn't call this guy much of a friend since he left out that one HUGE detail about himself, that he's going to be a father! He may be single, but if someone was asking him if he was "excited about being a daddy" in only seven weeks, I'd say there is a pretty good chance that he is involved in a relationship with the mother-to-be, or "single but involved". He's obviously told others about it, but not you. That says one of two things to me. Either he's been hiding this fact from you in order to deceive you, or he doesn't care at all about being a "daddy" which makes him an irresponsible and nasty human being! I tend to side with the former statement. He may just see his relationship with you as "something on the side". I don't know what you mean by "a friend with benefits", but if you have been with him physically, I could pretty much say for sure that that's all you are to him since he never told you about his impending fatherhood, but told others. It says he doesn't care enough about you to share this rather important news with you. I would definitely suggest getting out of that relationship A.S.A.P. It's not fair to you or to the mother-to-be. And don't feel guilty! You didn't know. It's not your fault. HE is at fault. P.S. My first husband did that to me when I was pregnant and even the night I gave birth! He was having physical relationships with other women after telling them that he was single! Once I had proof, he was so outta there!!!

first of all FWB is lame and quite a disservice to yourself. Especially as a woman, we are naturally inclined to be emotional even if we say it is casual. Why don't you get a person who for you only and you for him. am not surprised that he has such skeletons in his closet. With such characters, this is bound to happen. Do yourself a fav and run fast before you get hurt.

Men sometimes lied to get the affection of the woman.You may ask him about it and then decide for yourself.There are men that just playing games.They thought getting involve with women is just a game.After they get what they want then they would leave.If he is having an affir with other woman then maybe you don't deserve to have a man like him that lied just to get you.You deserve a better man.

ohh noo i can understand your reaction hun i think the best thing is to just ask him explain that if he wasn't single thats something you aren't comfortable and would have never got involved you asumed he was and that things get complicated when babies arrive. The friends with benefits things always get complicated when outside factors affect it as there often are not clear boundaries. Talk to him communications the key.

i think you need to talk to him, dont just be quit on it, or maybe in another relationship, who knows, nowdays everyone get involve same proble.

In my views friendship is only based upon truth. This world is soo strange maybe there is somthing missunderstaning just aske him straight forward. He will explain it to you and should have to do so. Shakspear says "It is not necessary to share everythingbetween true friends but it is necessary that what you share must be true" That is all my style

Honestly, it does not sound like your friend is telling the truth. Any normal person would probably want to know if their friend was becoming a father, especially when you are in a friend-with-benefits relationship. Trust and communication are still a key factor, because you are going to want to know if your friend is having with other people, or if they want something, etc. You need to talk to him about this. You might just be FWBs, but I think you do have the right to know about this, or the fact he's sleeping with other people. Why would he keep this from you, but yet not care that a girl is posting about this on his Facebook?

hrm, my instinct would be to ask questions, but then again, if he has been lieing this whole time so far, what's to say he won't lie to you yet again. It's scary how easily some people can lie....and how easily I can snoop lol. This one guy, also a benefits thing, decides to ask me out for the weekend, I agree to it, and I'm pretty straight forward, and ask, hey, are you seeing other people? Like dating, or also benefits friend, he said no...yet what do I find on his cell phone? he txt'd another girl, saying he misses her, and for her to call him when her "red river" (EW) is gone. I ask him again the next day, and also decide to mention I also have other "people" I'm seeing and that if he is, I don't mind, it's just I'd prefer to know, right? What does he say? he denies it again! Well honestly, I just stopped contacting him altogether! Also, whatever it is that you're doing with this guy, and what he's doing in his spare time, please use protection!

surely this cannot be hard leave him, besides if it is casual you might end up like the other woman with a baby and a casual boyfriend besides what kind of mess is that? he doesnt tell you about the other woman, you find out on his computer on your own!! that should make you wonder do you mean anything to this man?, despite it being casual, and anyway he is not being honest with you

Wow...This is awful! At least you didn't get too attached to this guy though, that would've been much, much worse...My advice would be to tell him off, and never talk to him again... -Mike